when it happened to me the first time, it took me by surprise. I was so worried about his head banging. I have managed to understand how to express and communicate to him how I can see him feeling and it seems to calm down the tantrums to the point now that I haven't had one for ages. I only had the tantrums the weeks that Clay was away. Interesting enough, I now have been the one to to start focusing on controlling my frustrations - trying to dress him, trying to get him to stop opening and closing cupboards repeatedly for noise effects and every door in the house. i now realize i need to spend one on one time with him to fill up the attention bank acocunt. this seems to settle codi down and want to play with his toys, if I am. a bit of a trend is showing up for me. so when i am doing chores, i have started to involve him, and wow, he feels very special. so i guess i have worked out so far, how to have no tantrums. fingers sooo tightly crossed!!!!!