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Hi kirsty hows things with you this week I hope all is well with both baby and yourself hope you dont mine me sending a message as I work at nights and going to a course during the day have you been taking each day as it comes and not to stressed out well send me a note and Ill keep in touch with you email me at maraea64@hotmail.com must go byebye love you heaps as a friend to another

 It seems to me that you need professional help sweetie, please talk to your doctor and tell them just how low you are feeling.

The worse thing your dad and step mum could do is throw things back in your face when they should be giving you all the support you need, have you tried sitting down with them and pouring your heart out to them about just how your feeling, they might not understand, maybe then they will understand and in turn help you out emotionally.

Don't be hard on yourself as being a parent at any age is a difficult job and anyone needs some sort of support, especially if your feeling so low and alone.

Please seek some help, it concerns me that you saying you want to end your life,,,don't think like that your beautiful little girl needs her Mum.

There are support groups here on minti you could join and there is always someone around for you to talk to at anytime.

Kindest Regards Janice

Hun i really think you should go talk to a doctor. It sounds like you may still have post natal depression.

Being a young mum is the hardest thing in the world. Not only do we have to miss out on all the stuff our friends are doing to focus all our attention on our kids but we have to do with being frowned upon by so many people.

Your not alot, im almost 23, fell pregnant at 17. My family isnt very supportive at all, they never help with my son and constantly putting me down with the "well when you were his age we didnt do this or that to you"

The best life your daughter can have is one with her mum! You didnt say anything about a partner so im just taking a dive and guessing your single, as am i. Which makes things even harder!

Maybe you could put your daughter into child care to help you out a little bit?

im only new to this but if i can figure it out ill send you my email address so we can chat more if you want to.

Being a mom is the hardest job there is. We all make mistakes, we all have days, weeks, months where we feel we are not doing a good enough job. Ending your life, will not make it better, it will only make her life worse(my father ended his life...it did me NO good). This site is perfect for you. Read, ask questions, there are many helpful people here. *hugs*  *hugs*

You know what hun, there is no other "job" in the world that can make you so happy.. so sad.. so guilty.. make you second and then third guess yourself as much as being a mother.  So you had to go away for abit to better yourself. thats OK! You couldnt look after your little girl if you couldnt look after yourself right?. and you left her in capable hands.. theres nothing to feel guilty about.. I myself had a tough time in the first months and had the same feelings..but i was alone... you are not.. even if you feel you cant talk to ur parents you can always talk to any of us here at minti.. this site to me was a sanity saver.. if you have any questions about maybe something regarding your daughter or ANYTHING you just ask it and you will have hundreds of everyday mums that have all been through it before reasy to answer you..

Please dont feel like killing yourself will be better for your daughter.. theres nothing a kid needs more then their mums!! Just look at the way she looks at you and smiles at you.. that says it all.. she loves you with a love that is genuine and pure!! She needs you!!

With you all the way.. Steff xxx

I really think you should go see a dr. or a counsellor. This should help you find out what is really wrong, or might be able to refer you to someone who can help you better. Also do you have like parenting classes or Day Stay centre in your area, this will help you realise when your little girl needs or wants something, they can also help you get yourself and your little girl into a routine.

Also have you thought of putting her into Daycare one day a week, this will give you a break from her, trust me it will do you a world of good. As much as we love our children we all need a break now and then. Being a full time mum is not easy, and sometimes brings us down, this is due to the fact that yes we love them but we have to put our lives on hold to raise them.

If you just want to talk to someone you can Minti Mail me and I will try to help.

Cheers Queenie xoxoxxoxo

oh sweetie sounds like you have been through a very rough trot. As a parent you will always find there will be others who disagree with you and how you do things, however I tell them thank you but this is my child and I will try it this way first and if that doesn't work I will try something else.

Please go back to your Dr and see someone who you can talk to, that really helped me as I too went through a depressive period when I had my son. I still have relapses every now and then but after talking to my Counsellor I am better able to deal with the ups and downs.

Please chin up, your little needs you despite what you are thinking. You are her mummy ok.