ONLY THE LONLY

just letting you all know anytime you want iam available for chat ,so if your lonly and want to chat i have a cool chat room through IMVU so google it and get it so we can chat with avatars,this way if you need a hug i can actually gove you one lol.

my user name is mamalincoln.if you ahve any problems just give me your email and i can send you a link .

just letting you all know anytime you want iam available for chat ,so if your lonly and want to chat i have a cool chat room through IMVU so google it and get it so we can chat with avatars,this way if you need a hug i can actually gave you one lol.

my user name is mamalincoln.if you ahve any problems just give me your email and i can send you a link .

i cannot believe that after so many years nothng seems to change.

when i was at school i wasent the nerd nor the popular girl i just was "ME" in the middle ,never really got invited to many partys ,nor sleep overs .

but as i grew older i thought things would change.

my husband was in the same group as me he wasnt popular nor the nerd but never really got invited to many places and partys ,but with both of us we were always the ones that people came to when they wanted help and advice.

it seems nothing has changed .

we make a few friends invite them to partys and make them goparents to our kids ,we help them with money and advice,we open our house to family who needs it but when we need help its like a giant desert ,al you hear is ECHOoooooo

eg.i meet a cousin of hubbys who lives in the same suburb as me she is my daughters godaughter,we have invited her to dinners and lunches and paid for it all,and on hubbys birthday we had a dinner with family and she was invited we had a ball.she borowed $10 for cigaretts and to make the story short we havent heard from her since ,she dont visit ,she dont txt ,she just ignoring us .

we lost a baby last week adn even  that dient make her come over .

hubbys family is still a bunch of ignoramus people.

his mother dident call him or visit ,his sister the same ,my friends except for one heather have ignored me or given me the cold shoulder.liek tehy are to busy with their perfect lives to visit or call.

what is wrong with todays society long are the days you make a friend and they invite you to dinner or a party and we hve fun and laugh.

i guess everyone is becoming snobs .our lives are to perfect.

i thought i had qa good life with a couple of friends,but when i needed them most they were no where to be seen .

even my neighbour who i thought i could relly on in an emergency lie to me so she wouldent loom after my kids while hubby picked me up from hospital.my kids are not noisy not that bad .i guess she wasent getting no money so it wasent worth her time .

well i know for a fact there is allot of lonly people out there they just seem to have given up on everything and everyone .

iam lonly up to a certain stage ,iam lucky to have my husband and kids to drive me mad and a good friend both in here and ouside in life which chats to me all the time ,but both me and her cant seem to understand why some people are the way the are ...

we envite friends and family to visit but they make excuses all the time and sometimes even lie so they dont have to visit but everytime we have money eveyone seems to come out of the cracks whats with that i dont  get it really .

even when i have had the children no one wanted to baby sit or even be there at the birth for support or even visit at the hospital.

its like we are either to friendly or just being used .

whats up with the world this days ...

I guess there is nobody out there that is lonely anymore, no posts...I think there is something wrong with me, well at least I hope there is. A friend suggested I check my thyroid and I will next week.  I hope that is unbalanced because then I know there is an actual problem with me, sounds weird huh?

It's days like these (valentines day) that I really end up dreading. This is when I feel very alone and to be honest really vulnerable. I know it's only one day but when you go to the local shops and nearly everyone of them has a big sign reminding me not to forget valentines day (how can I with the constant reminder), restaurants advertising special dinners for two and having all my friends (yes they are all attatched) planning valentines things it makes me feel very very alone. I usually cook a nice meal for gracie and myself and she gives me all the hugs in the world, it's just not the same as having someone special to share things with. The ironic thing about the whole thing is I have never received a thing on valentines day except from my daughter (I loved them all) so why do I always get so down about it all??? I supposed I would just like a piece of the whole valentines puzzle but I am missing one vital piece of that puzzle.... a partner. I appreciate being single most of the time but I have to admit, it's a really lonely in my little world.

fiona xoxoxox

Why is it so hard to make new friends? I have met some moms that it seems that they have enough friends already that they don't make any effort with me. Then I feel like I am always doing the inviting and I feel like I am pestering them.  It is very isolating being a stay at home mom when your husband is your best friend. All I'd like is to go to lunch with someone once in a while and maybe coffee...I totally agree with another blog here that I have learned to be by myself for so long that now I have to open myself to making new friends and it is very hard to do that. I tried to do that with another mom a few months ago and it was great for her and I but her husband got a bit jealous about it since he's not so open to her taking a night out to get coffee once in a while.  It is so hard to be let down again.

My whole life was spent alone and it has been difficult to not have friends who were true friends.  Over the years I have found that I now enjoy being on my own.  I have no-one to condemn, criticise or accuse me of anything.  The lonely part is not having another person to talk to when I am feeling down or even when I want to share something awesome that has happened.  My children are all grown up now and have their own lives.  They visit regularly and I enjoy their visits.  I am more like their friend now instead of just mum.  I have friends, but I guess I spent so much time being afraid of what people would say or think that I found it hard to communicate with people.  It always takes me time to know a person and I am the last one to introduce myself.  I find that if I meet someone and we have something we connect on, then the friendship comes more easily.  For me, I have heaps of acquaintances but only one true friend.  At first, I wouldn't even go outside and would hide away when people came to call or not answer the phone.  This is not a good way to live life for in the end, you become more disheartened and miserable.  The biggest thing for me was forcing myself to go out.  It began with a walk around the block, and then walk to the village.  I always walked with my head down in case I recognised anyone and they saw me then I would have to talk to them.  I have had to look earnestly within myself at my own insecurities and weaknesses so that I can enjoy my life instead of feeling miserable and down all the time.  Loneliness is not good if you are a depressive for it makes you think you are not worth anything and that you deserve to be alone with no friends.  This is not the case though.  For me, I now know that my reasons for being alone is because they are the times when I am able to assess myself and all around me.  It also gives me time to complete things I have started and most importantly of all, continue to develop the intimate relationship I have with Jesus.  He has been my friend from beginning and He was the one who helped me to come out of my shell.  Now I choose to be alone although that is not the same as being lonely.  I do want companionship, but I now find it hard to let others too close and have become too set in my ways.  The Minti website, I have found is helping me not to be so separated from the rest of the world.  Sometimes others views are what make us feel so lonely, because we feel so inadequate.  The best thing we can do is remain focused on the good things we can do, and the positive things in our lives and at times force ourselves to step out of the 'square box' and just do it.  The best advice I was ever given from God was this...I was created in his image and therefore have all the abilities, capabilities, talents and gifts as he.  I am precious in his sight and I was created unique and special...Therefore, I am beautifully made.  It helps sometimes when the loneliness really sets in and takes me back a bit.  I have learned to live with it, but I have also made sure that I step out of the 'square box of life'.

I think this may be my problem.
I am so scared of going out and bumping into my ex or someone who knows me and doesn't know the full story that I have become quite reclusive.
Especially when the boys are away with their dad, take today for instance, I went to work, then went straight to my Mum and Dads where I sat playing with my puppy or watching TV all day. Mum wanted to go shopping this afternoon and I just couldn't risk bumping into anyone.
So I am either home alone, home with boys or at my Mums!!!!
I am so glad I found Minti
Also my daughter is back from her 3 month trip to Iceland this Friday

I CANT BELIEVE THER IS OTHERS LIKE ME WHO FEEL LONLY.I FIND IT FUNNY IN A WAY THAT BEFORE I CAME TO AUSTRALIA ,FAMILY LIFE WAS SHOWN AS BEING SO INVOLVED THAT AUSTRALIAN FAMILYS HAD BIG PARTYS AND WERE INVOLVED IN THEIR CHILDRENS LIFES BUT IT ISENT ALWAYS SO.

I NEVER THOUGHT I WOULD GET MARRIED TO AN AUSTRALIAN BUT I DID I DONT REGRET IT I LOVE HIM BUT I HATE HIS FAMILY BECAUSE THEY TREAT HIM LIKE A DISEASE.SOME SAY WE MIGHT COME ACROSS AS TO FRIENDLY OR DESPERATE BUT IT ISENT SO THE FACT IS WE OR I DONT MAKE FRIEND EASILY.IAM VERY CHOOSY I LIKE VERY OUTGOING PEOPLE WHO LOVE CHILDREN AND ANIMALS INMY FULL LIFE I ONLY HAD ABOUT 10 FRIENDS NOW I ONLY HAVE 2 ONE THAT LIVES IN MELBOURNE BUT SHE HAS A JOB AND SHE IS ALWAYS BUSY AND THE OTEHR IS A FAMILY FRIEND WHO DATED HUBBYS COUSIN WE ONLY SEE EACH OTEHR ONCE IN A BLUE MOON,BECAUSE WE HAVE AN AUTISTIC SON WE TEND TO BE VERY VOICETRUS,IF PEOLE STARE OR SAY RUDE REMARKS IF I YELL OR GET FURSTRATED I GO OFF AT THEM...ONYL BECAUSE IAM SICK AND TIRED OF PEOPLE NOT UNDERSTANDING ,

IAM ALWAYS ENVITING HUBBYS FAMILY OVER BUT THEY ALWAYS MAKE EXCUSES SOME OTHER WHO HEARD RUMOURS HAVE SAID THAT THE REASON WHY THEY DONT VISIT IS BECAUSE OUR HOUSE IS NOT CELAN ENOUGH OR BECAUSE WE AHVE DOGS OR BECUASE OUR SON IS TO LOUD ,USUALLY I SAY TO THEM:STUFF YOU ALL I WANT MY CHILDREN TO ERMENBER ME AS SOMEONE WHO WAS THERE FOR THEM ALL THE TIME NOT SOMEONE WHO WAS TO BUSY CLEANING THEIR HOUSE.MY HOUSE IS NOT DIRTY I MIGHT LEAVE THE FLOORS TILL BEFORE BEDTIME TO BE VACUMED BUT ONLY BECAUSE MY KIDS MAKE A MESS.AND YEAH I DO HAVE 2 DOGS BUT THEY DONT MAKE A MESS.I DONT BOTHER ANYMORE I AHVE MY KIDS AND HUBBY I DONT NEED NO ONE ELSE,BUT I WOULD LOVE TO MAKE MORE FRIENDS

FRIENDS WHO WOULD COME OVER FOR A COFEE OR GO ON A HOLIDAY TOGETHER FOR FUN AS FAMILYS BARBECUES AND CHATS THAT S WHAT I MISS MAYBE I MISS HIGH SCHOOL..