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My daughter-in-law would go to the rest room when she was out and needed to breast feed or pump out a bottle and feed the little one a bottle when in public.  My mother-in-law did the same thing when she was raising her family.  Ask if a confortable chair could be put in the rest room for this purpose.  About the top falling open when you lean over... men will gawk and then talk about what they saw.  I am heavey topped and if I have on a loose top or dress I put one hand up to hold my top down while I am leaned over.  It works!!!  Hope this has been helpful to you.

hi!  I just left a note in the breastfeeding group, but thought I'd add one here.  I just feel that this is sooo not helpful for you - how is this encouraging you and helping you know God more.  Anyway, I think the others have all offered great advice and I agree that I think its more about her issues than yours.  By all means, I would be finding out if there is somewhere appropriate and quiet - if not, use your wrap and do what comes naturally!

My attitude has always been "I'll do my best to be discrete and then it's up to you to avert your eyes if you're still uncomfortable". Babies need feeding and its hard enough to get to meetings, let alone sit through a sermon, when your babies are young, so feeding while you're there is essential IMO!

I've fed through sermons and in the middle of church. I did end up leaving and stting in the Hall quite a bit with DD2 but that was only coz there was such a crowd of new mums feeding out there at the time, and I couldnt stay awake for the whole sermon, so I thought, may as well get some fellowship and a comfy sofa! The nearest I've come to being "sprung" was when DD1 was feeding and I was sat on a sofa opposite 3 teenage boys while praying at housegroup some years ago, when baby suddenly pulled my top right up high! Fortunately I remain convinced all three had their eyes shut at the time!

Just for your own peace of mind, you might want to wear your best "covering" clothes for meetings where there are lots of people (to cover all the angles), but I bet most people (especially men) are oblivious to what you're doing there. One of my friends was feeding after the service in our church a decade ago when one of the elders came up for a chat and commented on how baby was having a nice cuddle. He was actually one who was a bit sniffy about b/f in church and yet had no idea what baby was actually doing down there! So much for objecting to the idea!

We're all responsible for our own thought lives, and taking thoughts captive. We're also responsible for being considerate towards our "younger" and "weaker" brothers  & sisters (think about the meat offered to Greek idols). Somehow it is necessary to balance these two things when it comes to breast-feeding, but IMO God invented b/f and breasts, so we shouldnt be ashamed of either. Modesty is good, but babies get hungry and starving them isnt good practice!

As far as I'm concerned, you need to feed your child and that's all that matters.

For personal reasons I admit that I feel uncomfortable being around a woman that is breastfeeding.  But that is my problem, not hers, and I'm certainly not going to put that onto someone else.

I think the same situation applies here.  God gave you the ability, and even the responsibility, to feed your child.  If someone has an issue with God's design for feeding babies, then they should take it up with him!  Not you...

I'm pretty amazed at this women's response to be honest !!!

I have been in a church with a mother nursing and no one was the least uncomfortable, its a natural thing for any mother to be doing. Its hardly something a mother would do to try and tease the men there !!!! I found if men were uncomfortable they just wouldn't look !!!!

Sounds to me this is more about the womens insecurities.

Most times in a public place you can generally get away with breastfeeding without drawing attention to is anyway

xxx

I am never certain about these things, but I remember when my first bub was born I asked my pastor and his wife what they felt was best and they fully agreed with me that Breastfeeding is important and nothing to be ashamed of, but so that I would not be made umcomfortable but the minority of people who stare or give disapproving looks they suggested I use their parenting room to feed. Is there a room provided where you can go to feed your son? The church I go to atm (different church to the one I just mentioned) has a baby's room, which I like to go to to feed my baby and I feel more comfortable. I don't mind feeding my cherub in public, but if a more private area is available I will go there.