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I'm a 16 year old child myself and i offer counsaling if anyone is interested please contact me at littledavid20@aol.com

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thechildhelper

Hi there. I have a 15 year old son, too. What I discovered that, while he didn't really feel like talking after school and would like to be left alone, he did like it when we went to his room to talk after the lights were out. I'd sit on his bed and he'd talk and talk! Sometimes his dad would go in to say good night and he'd end up staying, but he would too often try to give him advice, etc. instead of just listening. Once he caught on and let our son talk when he was comfortable, he didn't take it so personally.

Maybe once your son has gone to bed you could go in and tell him goodnight, and maybe he'd open up and feel like talking then. Just be sure to not get into really heavy conversation, or use that time to nag about chores or things. Just let him talk. Hope that helps some!

This sounds so familiar.

When my son turned 15 (or there abouts), he went from a gentle soul to an aggressive person.

He would start throwing things at the slight sign of a problem, if we asked him to do something he would snap back with an answer.  It all seemed so out of character as he too had been a gentle, placid, sensitive kid before this.

He still gives us cuddles & kisses and tells us how much he loves us, he is now 16.

My husband and I learnt that the best thing to do was "ignore" the tantrums and not make a big issue of them.  When our son was calm and loving, we would ask him if there was any problems or issues that we could help him with.  Although there was an issue with bullying at school which we have now dealt with, the behaviour is still the same.

This is a time of big change for this age group, there are a lot of hormonal changes happening & also a lot of "self" issues, body changes etc.  The kids are also trying to figure out where they fit in in the world.

I found the best thing with our son was not to make an issue of the tantrums.  If he is not damaging property or hurting any one, let him vent his frustrations, but when he is calm and you can talk to him, explain to him the affect this has on the people around him and how other people will view his behaviour, ie bosses & co-workers later in life.

I hope this helps, just remember, he is still your loving son underneath.

Sounds like hes going through a changing time in his life and it may be his way of dealing with it.  I have two girls who have gone through teenage years and let me tell you it wasnt easy.  The mood swings were the worst one minute fine and the next.....well watch out of their way you would be tipping around on tip toes.  Thank goodness they do grow out of this stage and lucky for you because apparently boys grow out of this stage quicker.  Keep on doing what you have always done sounds like your a loving parent and you are doing nothing wrong.  I hope this encourages you that your not alone.