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I thought I'd better post an intro here and share some of my story.
I was brought up in a Christian home, so there has never been a time when I wasn't a Christian. I started dating my ex a couple of weeks before my 18th birthday. He's Jewish & became a believer shortly before we got engaged. I was engaged at 19 & married at 20. Our 2 sons were born in January 2002 and December 2003. I had severe post natal depression with both kids. After DS2 I was hospitalised with depression.
In a nutshell, or marriage went from bad to worse in those years, and it seemed nothing we tried helped.
I left last year in February, a couple of weeks after our 8th wedding anniversary. He served me with divorce papers a few weeks ago - not saying a word to me about it... an officer of the court just showed up with the papers! It'll all come through next month.
I've been really struggling with how all this fits in with my faith - and how moving on & meeting people fits too... especially meeting other guys. I feel guilty!
Anyway, I look forward to chatting with you all :)
Melissa |
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I understand......
*hugs* to you both excellent women.
I completely understand not wanting to be alone the rest of my life. And I also understand the being so hurt you don't want to risk anyone coming that close again.
I think when you're still in the middle of hurt that moving on is just the hardest thing to contemplate. You need to deal with yourself first before you can even look at being with another person.
I think I was the most emotionally healthy and happy I had been in years when I met my BF. I remember my ex accusing me of "trying to make myself happy" ever since he and I broke up. Why on earth he thought me being happy was a bad thing, I really don't know. But the fact is I was very happy when I met my BF and I think that's formed a really good basis for our relationship.
Interestingly, I was in a particular down place when I met and also when I married my ex. Our relationship truly was born out of us both being in a really damaged state - and when I started to get healthy and stronger, and realised how unhealthy the relationship was, was when my ex and I had the biggest issues. My ex couldn't handle me being emotionally healthy and happy. My BF, on the other hand, not only can handle it, but he encourages me to be. Thankfully, he is also good at supporting me through the nastier times.
I just realised this might sound like bragging. Definitely don't mean to. The point is that there are good guys there, but I don't think you can have a good relationship until you can approach it as a healthy, happy person who is able to give themselves to another person.
And I don't think it matters if you're in a relationship or not cause I still love you heaps!
Leith
xoxoxoxoxo
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