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traceywestaway

Friendship?!

by traceywestawayComment Published at 16:0116:011 comments1 comments42 Visits42 VisitsReport

Hi all,

I'm new to this group but am so happy to see Christians getting involved in the everpresent world of Cyberspace and supporting each other to boot!

I have been a christian since my mid teens (now in early 40's) and have had many positive uplifting relationships/friends along the way. One comes to mind as it has just recently come to a crossroad, let me explain - i have a christian pal who i have been friends with for over a decade, and although she has lots a great qualities,she has a argumentative,controling, childish side that has raised it's ugly head yet again and i'm at my wits end. I won't go into detail about the conflict but it was a reasonably small disagreement in my view and i openly apologised for my part in the conflict but she refuses to apologise to this day(conflict started 2 months ago). She refuses to apologise for being deceptive and then accused me of calling her a 'big fat liar' (which i never would, i did call her irresponsible though).

For 2 months she has refused to speak to me or acknowledge my existence, she will happily speak at length to my husband and children, but not me. I'm sorry but i find this kind of behaviour very childish considering she was the one to start the conflict in the first place.

I have recently left her a sms saying that her friendship means a lot to me and i will be waiting when she's ready to talk, but as time goes on i'm feeling less and less inclined to want to rekindle the friendship, i'm so tired of her games and abuse!

What should i do?

traceywestaway

 

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julielf
December 2008 | julielf
Re: Friendship?!

I believe that as a Christian we need to love and respect everyone as they are however that does not mean that you need to accept everything that they do or say to you.  I think for a Christian to choose not to forgive is especially bad as the Bible says that God will in turn choose not to forgive you.  So not only is her behaviour childish it also has scary consequences.

I think that as hard as it is it may be time to walk away.. Even if it only for a time.  You know the saying if you love something let it go....  If she makes an effort to apologise then great if not just keep praying for her and praying blessings for her.  I think she just needs God to do the work in her life (not that you should tell her that)!

Be blessed!!



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