Wanting to know who you are is something that all people go thru. Wether it be your culture, creed, preferences, it's all apart of being happy with yourself. I was never happy as a child being mixed. Now I'm very proud, it took many painful years to come to love who I am. I was never able to know my father, but my mom made sure I knew who I was. I think it's so important to let you children know who they are. If one parent or the other does not want to let them know where they came from, then the child can feel like they are not important. I was only show the white side of my heritage so I became ashamed of being half mexican. It was not until I meet my husband, who is Guatamalen, that I have learned to love that part of me too. I think that if I was told as a child about my mexican side and that part was also nurtured, which was no fault of my moms, I would have though differently about myself all along. Point is, just because you don't want to let them know who they are is no reason to not tell them. If one parent does not want to tell the child part of their background, then they should ask themselves how would they feel if their parents didn't tell them about who they truely are. I live in the USA and we pride ourselves on being a mixing bowl of color and cultures, but we should not be the only ones who should be proud of this. The whole world should be proud! Remember, we need to think of how our children would feel based on our disicions. And ask your child if they want to know about their background. If they are old enough, and you don't know what to do, let them make that desicion, but be supportive. We are here to nuture them in every way, and to hide part of who they are is just like saying to them "I don't accept you and I'm ashamed of part of you." I know it sounds cruewl, but that's how children view things when they don't know all of who they are. | 
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