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Need tips for a 7 year old

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OK, my seven year old drives me insane.......if i tell him to stop doing something he just carries on doing it. I have to tell him three or four times, i try to give him warnings and then time-out but it is so frustrating. I'm thinking that time-out is too babyish for him and maybe i should be taking away privileges like TV etc. Sometimes he also has a surly attitude, is this normal for this age...i didn't think that would come until teenage years!!

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| December 2007 \| shhmumstheword

Re: Need tips for a 7 year old

you sound just like my sister she went through this stage with her eldest and now the forth childs at that same age were they think there adults but still too young to be allowed the freedom, from her experience it was an attention thing the oldest feels there asked to do more which they do other wise they'd never grow up, sorry to tell you it last till about 12/13 then omg you get the attitude lol. Sometimes her kids just wanted to feel they were appretiated a family night saw to that one a movie some treats board games etc the charts are a great idea as they concentrate on the postives rather than the negatives and give them a feeling of self worth good luck xoxo

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| December 2007 \| WinnierooPooh

Re: Need tips for a 7 year old

He,He I think this must be the Norm, as soon as R turned 7yrs, it was attitude and deafness all the way. We made a seven day Chart with smilies and black crosses. 6 = no friends to play with for the following 5 days. At the begining of the week R gets £1. As each cross hits the chart she looses 20p at five she looses her money, then enters no friends territory. The first month she was lacking funds and friends, however three months on, her purse is feeling healthy and friends are a plenty. The pay off is that she now does her few chores without argument, and usually responds after 2 prompts. We will see how long it lasts. I wonder what the next stage will be. Arrrrgh, parenthood dont you just love the challenge.

Luv Winnie.xx

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| December 2007 \| Domestic-warrior

Re: Need tips for a 7 year old

Thank you, i think crosses and ticks will appeal to him, rather than stickers(?) and yes i do love the challenge.......

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| December 2007 \| cazza

Re: Need tips for a 7 year old

He is at that age where he knows better and is wanting to push the Buttons..

i have a 8 year old like that, and Time out doesnt work for her no more either... So what we have done is take her stereo off her ,as she loves to play that every day, and also we dont allow her to go to her friends and vice versa for that week.... It Hurts as she loves doing both...

Also you could have him do extra chores around the house or Dock his pocket Money if he gets it...

Hope my ideas helped...

xxx cazza

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	December 2007 \| Domestic-warrior

Re: Need tips for a 7 year old

Thanks I'll see how those ideas go. i tried to get him to do chores and give him pocket money but i keep forgetting to give him the money and he never asks for it! i do make him pick up his stuff and help me with the baby etc but i don't have anything set, maybe i should? Should i make him do chores as punishment because i don't want him to resent housework...if you know what i mean?

Yes he's certainly getting an attitude, like he knows better, and sometimes he makes sense and it is hard to argue with him...DAMN!!! it is just all the niggling at his little brother and the retaliation (to a three year old mind you) that i find frustrating.....

thanks for your response i'll give it a go.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| December 2007 \| cazza

Re: Need tips for a 7 year old

I wouldnt use chores as punishment as such. but having a Behaviour Chart done with what you like for him to do would help heaps, if that makes sense.... If you feel his behaviour isnt improving, maybe adding a another chore to it...

Also praise HIM when he makes Good Choices and allowing him to explain why he behaves a certain way in a calm way....

xxxx cazza

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| December 2007 \| Domestic-warrior

Re: Need tips for a 7 year old

OK, so load him up with so many chores he can't get into any trouble..lol...i like that!! Only Joking!! alright I'll try to do the chart...i have done it before when he was younger and he didn't have much interest in it, but i could give it another go. I like the idea of him explaining to ME why he is behaving a certain way, is that to get him to think about what he's doing? And should i give him some other ways to react to the situation differently? Sorry, about all the questions

Julie

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| December 2007 \| cazza

Re: Need tips for a 7 year old

I think Communication is the key, Screaming at them only makes everyone frustrated and doesnt resolve the problem,.. Saying all that, it is hard not to lose your sense of Humour..

I feel that if you can Find what he really likes and feels he cant go without, is the main target to getting him to listen and help you with everyday things...

all the best..

xxx cazza

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