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 Hiya,

I know just how you feel with the tiredness - my 2 1/4yr old is still feeding - but it has dropped to 2 feeds a day.  And I am convinced that he will cut down more and more - I'm managing it, so I'm still keeping going.

To cut it to 2 feeds a day, what I did was -

1) Have a chat with him and explain that there would be no mummy milkies before 5am and then after breakfast no more until 5pm.  It has now moved to 6am and 6pm.  Then, I make sure that there is something fun to get up & out for first thing in the morning - hence no need for a second feed, as he does not ask for milk in public (he must have picked up on my discomfort from the point in time he could toddle at 11 months).  Then around 5.30pm we go out to play football - hence delaying that feed a bit too.

2) Started taking Floradex again - a supplement for nursing and pregnant women with iron and minerals in it - available from all chemists, even many supermarkets.

I'm no longer feeling drained because it is much more on my terms.

Remember to do what you feel is best for you, and for your little one, dont worry about what other people think.

Sorry, I dont have any advise for what to do about being pregnant and another on the way.  But generally, I would always advise that you sit down quietly one day and listen to what you feel is best (ignoring your worries if you can).

Big hugs

Lisa

I know just how you feel - expecially the husband being over you breast feeding! My first son self-weaned at 9 months as I was pregnant (not that we knew then) & I had to express for 2 months then put him on cows milk (he would drink it from a bottle or cup just not from me). My second has only been weaned for almost 4 weeks now - he was almost 14 months - and hubby was pushing for me to stop (until I yelled & told him I & our son were not ready) for months before. Just before he turned 12 months I cut him back to just a morning and night feed & gave him a cup of cows milk through the day & he was happy with this. Then about 4 weeks later I cut him back to just a feed before bed - I was clinging onto this feed as I didn't want to stop (we aren't having anymore kids & I love breast feeding) but right before he was 14 months old he pretty much gave it up himself & now has a cup of milk morning and night.

If you want to continue feeding there is no reason you can't, but if you think it's getting too much for you then just try to cut him back gradually - making the morning & night feeds the main ones, then cut back to one then cut them out all together. Good Luck & if I can help more please ask.

Teshia

Hi!  I can so understand what you mean.  If you are starting to feel it is too much, then perhaps it is.  Don't feel pressured by others - no matter how well-meaning - but if you feel you are getting over it, then maybe it is time to do something. 

Don't ask me what!  I'm not much help as I am in a similar boat with my 22mth old.  My eldest self weaned by now, so I don't know how to stop her and she will feed multiple times a day.   If she asks during teh day I'll refuse at first, then if she persists I let her.  Most times she doesn't ask again and can be distracted - but often she does.

So, I'll be reading advice left here for you too!