Trust Your Instincts.

I believe mothers in particular are far from encouraged to trust in ther instincts. I don't feel that people trust me as a mother to be responsible or do my best for my children. Its a sad thing. I have found the more I go against my instincts the more I feel stressed and things go awry.

Trust Your Instincts.
Not fond of labels but Instinctive natural parenting is what I relate to. I don't follow any book or routine.
Through trial(lots) and error (lots more) I have been on a journey to discover what is best for us.
Its been almost 9 years and 4 kids. Its hard with so much contradiction in advice so its best to do it your own way.
After I had my last bub (UC) I realised I am responsible for my kids foremost and natural parenting and living is for us.

Be Informed.

I feel very fortunate that I do have access to information and I can educate myself. I do not follow routines or books as a rule but I can learn from others and can judge for myself if it will work for my family.

 

:: From REactive to PROactive :: Reactive parenting is like an airplane on auto-pilot flying off-course: to set a new course you must first get control of the plane on its *present* course. That means, paradoxically, that you can avoid an unwanted reaction by deciding to do it *deliberately*! Example: You're about to yell at your child, and you can't stop yourself. So you decide to yell *on purpose*, with the full force of your deliberate intention! BUT... You alter the outburst in some way that makes it benign, like singing a really high/loud note instead of yelling, or changing your words to "Blabbety! Blabbety! BLAH!" Anything that works *with* your emotional energy rather than against it. Once you've shifted from REactive to PROactive, you can direct your energy *consciously*, in accord with your ideals. This technique is not a panacea, but it works especially well with *mild* reactiveness -- often turning potential conflict into playful fun! http://dailygroove.net/reactive-to-proactive --> Get "The Daily Groove" book! http://www.enjoyparenting.com/book Feel free to forward this message to your friends! Copyright (c) 2008 by Scott Noelle

The Healing Gap

"In other words, it's easy to change your mind, but implementing a change in your whole self is far more difficult, especially when going against the grain of society and culture."

:: Confidently Uncertain :: When parents are confident, centered, and certain, their children tend to feel more secure, relaxed, and cooperative. But as parents on the leading edge -- constantly blazing new trails and facing the unknown -- how can we be certain our choices are right? (Answer: We can't.) The trick is to practice the paradoxical art of being *confidently uncertain*. Instead of pretending you know what you're doing (which doesn't work), you enthusiastically *embrace* your cluelessness! Then you focus on your ability to find your way... "I have NO IDEA how to handle this situation! But I know I can figure it out. I've faced the unknown and found my way before, and I can do it again." This works for kids because their security is based on feelings rather than logic. They can feel your confident vibe, and that's enough. Today, make a list of your personal journeys from clueless to competent. Recall these whenever you're uncertain and want to feel confident anyway. http://dailygroove.net/confidently-uncertain --> Today's message is one of more than 175 inspiring "grooves" included in my book, "The Daily Groove: A Creative Parents' Guide to the Art of Attraction Parenting" http://www.enjoyparenting.com/book Feel free to forward this message to your friends! (Please include this paragraph and everything above.) Copyright (c) 2008 by Scott Noelle

EnjoyParenting

 

The greatest gift you can give your children is to enjoy parenting them!

Banished!

Can you relate?