:: Confidently Uncertain :: When parents are confident, centered, and certain, their children tend to feel more secure, relaxed, and cooperative. But as parents on the leading edge -- constantly blazing new trails and facing the unknown -- how can we be certain our choices are right? (Answer: We can't.) The trick is to practice the paradoxical art of being *confidently uncertain*. Instead of pretending you know what you're doing (which doesn't work), you enthusiastically *embrace* your cluelessness! Then you focus on your ability to find your way... "I have NO IDEA how to handle this situation! But I know I can figure it out. I've faced the unknown and found my way before, and I can do it again." This works for kids because their security is based on feelings rather than logic. They can feel your confident vibe, and that's enough. Today, make a list of your personal journeys from clueless to competent. Recall these whenever you're uncertain and want to feel confident anyway. http://dailygroove.net/confidently-uncertain --> Today's message is one of more than 175 inspiring "grooves" included in my book, "The Daily Groove: A Creative Parents' Guide to the Art of Attraction Parenting" http://www.enjoyparenting.com/book Feel free to forward this message to your friends! (Please include this paragraph and everything above.) Copyright (c) 2008 by Scott Noelle