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Today marks a year since i miscarried. You can read my tribute in my blog here

I was not aware this group existed!

Anyway, I guess I am here after suffering a number of miscarriages. My first miscarriage was in 2004 (around 8 weeks) and not a day goes past that I don't think about it.... I a blessed with a wonderful 22 month old son and we just started trying for another child in December. I got pregnant straight away and was so excited.. but I miscarried at 5-6 weeks. I left it a couple of cycles and got pregnant again... and miscarried at almost 6 weeks. We wanted to wait for a couple of months before trying again, but I just found out I was pregnant last week...  and I have miscarried again today at 6 weeks 2 days.. So 3 pregnancies and 3 miscarriages in less than 6 months!

I know the pregnancies have been fairly close together (too close!),  and I guess if there is any consolation whatsoever I am thankful that if it was going to result in miscarriage it happened really early... Despite this, it has been a rollercoaster of emotions and I am confused, numb and my head hurts trying to come to terms with it all. I am also trying to get hubby to talk about it, I know he is hurting too but he keeps it all to himself!

I am newly returned to Minti and am here nervously.  I joined in 2006 when I was pregnant with our first baby and left shortly afterwards in February 2007 because we lost our little boy, Ally, in a late missed miscarriage.

I became pregnant again in July 2007 and we were delighted, but our daughter Elisabeth was born prematurely following a car accident and survived for only two hours.  She was born and died on 16th December 2007.

I joined a bereavement support group on the internet but have found that it is perhaps not the place for me and the support is often conditional on agreeing with other people and letting them break the rules of the site to suit themselves. 

I remembered how supportive the people on Minti were while I was pregnant with my son and was hoping maybe you could again be my friends and my support group.

We are currently fighting a case against the driver of the lorry that crashed into our stationary car and injured me enough to make us lose our daughter.  It is not an easy time and any support you could give me would be appreciated.  I will try to support you all in return.

Thank you for listening to my story.  I'm not sure if I am allowed to join as we have no other children but we would like to try just once more in the hope of having our family.

Hey all, i'm very new to this.  Umm unfortanly i did have a miscarriage in march this year and i still don't think i'm coping with the lost.  I never thought it would happen to me but boy i was wrong! i was meant to be due on the 22nd on september. i think the hardest part to deal with is what could of been.  this is going to hurt me for the rest of my life. everyone keeps saying when are you going to try for another one? well i not thinking about now i still trying to deal with what has happened. anyway peace

leanne

we are trying to have a baby at the moment.after having our girl at 20 weeks then having to have a D and C 2 months later.i was wondering how long it may have taken some of you to conceive after your loss?i`m hoping it won`t be too long.she was born on the 11th july this year i had my D and C on the 15th september.

iam writting another book and this time on birth experiences and als loss of babies.

i to lost a baby last year but i have been lucky to conceive and iam having a baby in 3 weeks .

but i decided to write a book on birth experiences and loss for other women to read about it and fell less alone .

if any of you would like to share your experience and share a photo of your little angel please email me your stories to fairysquizzy@yahoo.com.au

or here at minti.

you can see some of my books at www.lulu.com/elisabeta

hope to hear from you soon

i was just wondering how some of you coped when it came it came to the time you were due to finish work to go on maternity leave(if you were woking at the time).i`m having that week off. it is only 3 weeks away and all i can think of is i`d be so many weeks now and i`d be going on leave soon.and also when it came to your due date.which is hard for us because it is 4 days before our girls 3rd birthday.i have also booked that week off from work.and the most dreaded time christmas.it just seems some days i`m fine others all i can think about is our baby and when i have a few hundred drinks on friday or saturday night i can`t help but think about it and it seems it`s really the only time i can fully express to people who ask how i felt or am still feeling and then i end up in tears.(it just depends how much i`ve drunk)

I lost my twins at 10 weeks and I am still very devastated. It is nearing October 10th, the day the would have been turning a year old and it breaks my heart to think of them. I still want them back even though I have a 6 month old daughter now. My aunt told me that if I think of them everyday they will still come back to me. I hope they do.

Just sharing the love around.  Hope this makes you smile at least once today.

i joined this group so i may be able to get some closure on the baby i lost due to miscarriage just over 4 years ago now and then i go on to have 2 more daughters thinking it wont happen again i just know it well wasnt i wrong we tried for so long to get pregnant with this baby and im now 11 weeks and 5 days pregnant how cool huh, but when we first found out i was pregnant we told everyone we knew and then 9 days later my nanna died i was devestated but it wasnt over yet i tried for ages to find out what my results meant from the scan i had at first they couldnt find the baby then the second scan i had confirmed there was a baby and that i had a 4.3cm cyst then finally 5/6 weeks after my firts scan i finally was able to find someone who told me the truth, it was that i was pregnant with twins and i lost the other baby when i had first gotten pregnant which was going back before my nan died and all of these dr's knew that this had happened and not one of them told me the truth about the baby i had lost they didnt even tell me i had lost one or that i was pregnant with more than one child to startwith yet they had the results there im so pissed off about this and im sad all the time they have given me a name for what happened which doesnt make it any easier to deal with

they call it vanishing twin syndrome, its where i released two eggs and they were both fertilised and as one of the eggs was changing into a baby or what ever they call the baby at that age gestation the other baby was trying and then my body decided to obsorb the baby back into myself so yeh its my fault and i dont know how to deal with it now its scary i never even heard of this before now and im expected to get over it as alot of people dont see it as a baby or a problem for me so they expect me to get over it and grow up but the thing is it was my baby and it was my body and my body took back something i had craved for for so long so why should i have to be made to move on when im not ready yet and to top things off i have quit smoking argh i lose a nanna i lose a baby and then i quit smoking talk about life being hectic huh but since losing the baby i want this bub to have the best start i can possibly give so it means give up the things i may not want to for the unborn childs sake, im will to ake that sacrifice now