Hi guys!
I have just joined your group after reading some of the heartbreaking stories out there. All I have to say is that there is ALWAYS HOPE no matter what happens to us. And "Yes" we CAN overcome the grief of a lost baby.
I lost my first baby eight hours after she was born. She was diagnosed with "transposition of the great vessels". That is, no oxygenated blood would go to her brain. That was 17 years ago. Those days she couldn't have been diagnosed nor could she have had a cure. I hear that this is now possible.
It took me nine whole months of continuous greiving. Nothing would console me, neither friends, nor advice,reading , no antidepressants. .
Until one day a friend suggested I should write down my feelings. And "bingo". I wrote and wrote on an old banger of a computer, pages and pages and shed buckets of tears, but the healing had already started. I was writing to her as though I was introducing myself, her father, her would have been family. I was telling her of my feelings , my pain, my fears, my prayers. I was even telling her stories and had our little secrets. And then the pain slowly simmered down and eventually died.
This is not to say that seventeen years on I have forgotten her. Not at all. I always wonder what she would look like and how we could have been friends. But the excruciating pain has gone. Please, listen to me. I am calling on all those friends out there who do not know how to handle their pain, PLEASE ,do consider writing it down. It is purely therapeutic. Just trust me.
Three years after my little baby died I gave birth to a healthy son, who is now 14. And even though I have had a miscarriage after him, I am still going strong and knowing that there is always light at the end of the tunnel.
Please, please, start writing.
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