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You should get on your knees and thank the Lord that he started so late (at 16)!!!  My five year old and I are best friends, but I caught him in his first white lie a month or so ago (about something at school).  I knew he was lying so I probed for more info saying, "that does not sound right son"  I then said...."Look we are father and dad but more-so I am your buddy, your friend and I would never lie to my friend."  I said "I will make you a deal, you tell me the absolute truth right now...tell me if you lied to me and you will not get in trouble, I just want to know the truth."  He then said, ok daddy I lied.  He did not get a spanking or grounded or even in trouble, but I shamed him like I can a 5 year old.  "Sonnnn, why would you lie to me, meee?  I am your best friend.  We do things for each other that no one does, do me a favor buddy...I am not mad at you, but I am disappointed in you, so please please, next time just tell me the truth."

It has indeed happened again, but all I had to say was 'are you sure?' and he then told me the truth.  Now THAT time he was punished (why...i did not make him any deals that time).  He remembered the shame the first time and decided to tell the truth and honor our friendship...but in keeping with my position as his father I still had to punish him.

Who knows if this will work 11 years from now, but it does today!!!