Our latest
Well, since it is just the two of us we have almost daily meetings. Last night was a cuddle on the sofa, everything was off and we had a little chat about my latest dilemma. "Does she want to see her father." the answer is a resounding, almost violent "No!" I was so sad, then I was kinda pleased, today after we got home she said again that she is nothing like him and doesnt want to see him.
So I sat her on the bench and gave her a big squeeze and told her that she actually looks a lot like him, but that is good, cuz she looks a lot like mummy too and this is why she looks so beautiful. She is a perfect mix of us. Then i said that her behaviour is good because she chooses to be good. She nodded. I said that is nothing to do with baba, because you choose to be good or bad. and I like it that she chooses to be good. She said baba chooses to be bad. I said sometimes he makes a mistake and a decision that hurts someone else. She nodded and was happy to be who she is.
I am sure we will have a few more similar meetings before this issue is resolved.
We tend to have daily 'meetings' and just discuss one issue at a time. She is too small to deal with more than one thing. Also I do them impromptu so that she relates to what we discuss.
As she gets older we will have a neutral meeting place and an agenda etc. Looking forward to that. It is tiring remembering to cover everything as we go along. But it is good. I love it when she comes to me and says "Mummy,we need to talk. Please sit down" and she is so formal and insistent, and she talks to me. "Mummy. I love you"
Peace
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