Oh ally

I'm so sorry to read this, I know you have history but assumed you had sorted things.

Gut instincts are usually pretty powerful tools at our disposal

Sending my love

xxx

Oh Ally.........my heart goes out to you. Gut instincts are very rarely wrong, so don't deny them.

I don't have any solutions for you but I hope you find them.

Amanda xxxx

Oh hunny. I really feel for you. I had an ex, who cheated on me several times and everytime I questioned him over it he would deny it, until he got her pregnant. I really hope you guys can get this sorted, if you want to that is. Ultimately you hold the power in this situation and if you truely believe that this is going on then it is up to you to make the decision to get out so you can be happy and be treated with with the respect you deserve.

I also want to add I agree with everything Janice has said too, a very sensible, wise comment.

Please feel free to minti mail me for a chat if you want, and know we are all here to help and support you through this no matter what the outcome.

Much love, Karen. xx.

Oh hun,  I had the same problem a little while back, but not quite that bad, just found out that I had not been told the truth about something and it hurt.  Mostly sorted for us now, but I know how you feel.

You need some thinking time, so try and take it.

 Oh dear Ally, the old ESP or gut feeling usually is right on a female's side...sweetie you have my email addy if you want to talk.

Modern technology is amazing but with it comes so many problems, how many stories have i heard about people straying on the internet. I also think with your husband working away from doesn't help the situation, he has to much spare time away from on his hands....no excuse for his actions but wouldn't help!

I'm so sorry to hear this happening to you, especially with you moving to a new place & things just seem to be working out for you both after the problems before.

But  TRUST  is a giant issue in any relationship and without it, IT VERY RARELY WORKS. My heart goes out to you, my friend and know your in my thoughts, with the hope this situation can be worked out. But  for that to even have a chance, your husband has to be honest with you, this lying only makes the situation worse and makes you distrust more.

I know you have just moved into a new home and the timing couldn't be worse...sweetie i don't know if you want this marriage to work, but i feel if he moves out, it just might give him the exit gate he wants. If in your heart you want to make a go of your marriage, i think you both need help with counselling ( even though this situation does not reflect on you in anyway) to work through this. I would change the the bedroom arrangements though, just so he knows that his priviledges have gone out the window....through him destroying your trust in him.

I'm here for you, sweetie, hang in there, hope to talk soon.

Much love & sending giant hugs your way. Janice xxxx

ohhh shezzzzz, im so sorry that this has happened to you!! you need to make him pack his bags and get him out,thats your home for you and your children,he is the one who did wrong so he should be walking not you.....i hopethings sort out for you soon.....

all the best for you and your children ....

naomi xxxx

OMG I feel for you hope that you can find somewhere to stay for a bit.... Have you looked into womens crisis centres they may be able to put u up until you find somewhere or sort things out with him.

Thanks everyone.. For ALL of your comments..
See with little friends that I do got.. They think nothing is up or wrong with us.. So to come out all of a sudden with this..
We've been having problems for years now..
No one really knows expect one close friend that I did have and said that I probably deserved this so that friend isn't a friend no more..

I would make him go, but I can't afford this place.. It's $1500 a month.. I hardly work as it is and I know they wouldn't let it slide as we just moved in here 3 weeks ago.. Ahhh, I dunno.. :(

I have no family in Calgary/Crossfield or anywhere in Alberta for that matter.. All of my family is 3000 miles away from me!

 Sorry to hear this. Don't you for a second think about moving out yourself, make him go. Maybe a bit of breathing space with help to sort things out.

Cath xxxooo

oh Ally thats no good and hope its all resolved soon.. I agree with the other girls have some time out...

xx cazza

thats terrible, there goes the trust ........i agree with superpo .. best to spend some time apart ....he's got a promblem, he needs to come clean about it so you can at least together deal with the matter........hopefully he can move out for a while.........what a cheek to deny it!..i suppose it a normal cowardly reaction to being caught....

all the best ally, take care and remember he's got a promblem not you so dont take any crap from him...

I have been in this situation. I will send you a minti mail tonight.

Oh my i am so very sorry to hear this. Please dont leave until you have somewhere for you and your child to stay while you guys sort something out . Just know i am thinking of you xxxx

Oh Ally, I am so sorry to hear about this!  I agree with superpro that going to spend some time with some friends/family to give yourself some time to process this situation.   There is nothing worse than broken trust in a relationship!  Good luck to you and know that there is shoulder here should you need it :)

OMG, how awful for you! My heart goes out to you. I'm afraid I can't offer anything in the way of advice, but if you need to get anything off your chest you know this is the place to come. I'm so sorry to hear this. Do you at least have friends or relatives close by where you could go for awhile to think things over and figure out what you want to do? Be strong! Your minti family is here for you if you need us!

Hugs!