My sister can't have children of her own.  She tried ivf many times but failed.  this put enormous pressure on her marriage due to the financial burden as well as the feeling of failure.  I dont know much about adoption but i do know its also costly and there are massive waiting lists. And the screening process is amazing and totally invasive.  Its not just a matter of dropping by after work and picking the one you want like some of you suggest.  My sister fostered a 6month old (currently 18months)mentally challenged little girl and the parents gave up parental rights so they were able to adopt her.  The parents have since had another baby (boy)and my sister has taken him too.  The parents are fighting for custody of the little boy and my sister has to take him to visits (that they fail to turn up to) every week, its horrible for her!  Its not the same as having your own.  When you are pregnant you have 9months to get ready and you get hormones that allow you to love this child instantly which gets you through the exhaustion.  My sister is having a really hard time and all the while she has the fear that this child will be taken from her.  I can totally understand why babyorbust want to try for there own child first, i think faced with the same problem, many of us would want the sme.  As for them asking people for money.... would you all be so critical if the story appeared on "a current affair" as a sob story???  I dont think so.... you would be sending them everything you could spare.  Like jess said, if you dont like it then dont donate. 

I am new to this website, and thought it was a great place for women to support each other, but what I have found sometimes is that it is a forum to place judgement.  Didnt your mother tell you "if you dont have anything nice to say then dont say it all???"

Seriously, why can't we just let them be, as if they don't have enough to think about then having to reply and justify their actions to every one who keeps putting them down...   THere is no justification needed... They are doing this and if you don't like it then don't read it, don't donate.  How simple is that.

I know they are not the only people in the world to have done this, ok it may be for different reasons but along the same lines it is for them and not for some other charity.  As clay says it is very entreprenerial, and the way they have set up the website is very well done. People can see where the money is going what it is being used for and that it is not being waisted on hot dogs and a night out on the town.   I also believe by the way they are doing this they are allowing us into their private life and giving us something in return, for some others who are going through the IVF program it might be a ray of hope or even just infomation on what they might have to expect if they are going through the same thing.  For me it helps me better understand what people in their situation have to go though.   And if you have not gone through this then how do you know how it makes them feel.  Well now I know.  

My hubby and I waited four years to have a baby, then we misscarried, we were weighing up our options and IVF was a possibility. Had I have had to go though it I would have been greatful to read what is going on as it happened as I did not know anyone one else going though the IVF program. 

So just let them be...  If you don't like it stop looking at the blog... 

I visited their website and as I'd like to donate more then one dollar I will have to wait a few days before I can actually donate but I will.  They have not actually asked anyone to donate, I have not seen anywhere where it says "Please will you donate to our cause". They said "IF 20,000 people donate," I believe there is a difference.  

You should feel ashamed that you are expecting total strangers to help pay your costs.  You can afford to buy a house, why didn't you just stay in apartment if you knew about this.  You bought your house in November.  No one should feel sorry for you.  Before you go out to the public, you should have asked your family to help out, you will probably say I did, they can't etc but that is not an excuse or reason to expect others to pay.  You can get second jobs, your doctors office probably has a payment plan, you can charge some of the expenses.  You two are definately not ready to have a child.  You can't even pay for it to happen.  It's not like you have to pay for the treatment all in one shot.     I am going through treatment myself, my husband was recently downsized and  we can afford to pay for our treatment ourselves why, can we.   Because we are sacrificing.  You should try it.