This post is from from my other blog here

I think that if we as parents can teach our kids that there is a big difference between having sex and making love, it will go along way in helping our kids mature. Sex results from raging hormones, peer pressure, partner pressure, or just the desire to have a few moments of passion or momentary pleasure. Making love is a mutually fulfilling experience between two committed people that care deeply about each other.

Although we are all sexual beings and we were born with the need to have sex, it's important that kids understand that making love is healthy and wonderful, and is something that can deepen a relationship. Having sex on the other hand is not a healthy emotional activity for teens.

When having the sex talk with kids, in addition to talking about the need for safe sex and the consequences, we should explain the difference between sex and making love. This helps instill in the child a true sense of what sexuality is all about. When a person loses their virginity, it is something they cannot get back and it's also a time that they will always remember. Having good memories about making love is much better than having regrets about having sex as they get older.