I went to delete my last Q to find it was reported.........Just wanted to apology for placing it  in the Q&A. Not the best idea I've had of late.....

So I'm really sorry if I offended anyone.......

Raven

Yesterday I let my 13 yr old daughter go to her friends place. She is well aware thar she has to be home by 4pm as she has school the next day.

She "conspired" with her friend and told another adult who dropped them off at the friends place that she was allowed to stay till 7pm and she would ring us from her friends place (she doesn't have her own mobile yet) when she got there. My brother was comming down and we had to rush from church to home to meet him. They left out all the details when discussing it with me and hubby. Her friends mum couldn't drop them off till 7 and they switched of her friends phone so we couldn't contact her. By 6pm I was beside myself with worry that something had happened, so I rang the adult who dropped them off who filled me in on the details...........which resulted in me getting very angry.

When she was dropped off at 7pm, I was polite to her friend but once she got inside I went off my nut.

I told her how hurt I was that she lied and decieved me. That I was sick with worry and I have no idea why the hell she was treating me like this.

She has so much freedom, we rarely say no to her and we allow her to spend time with her frends. It would seem this friend is a bad influence on her and I have forbidden her to go and spend any more tme with her outside of school hrs.

This friend has given AJ music that I have expressly forbidden to have in my house unless she gets my approval for the song. The last lot of lyrics she brought home condoned and encourage drinking, arson, sex  and murdering your boyfriend!!!!! Who writes that garbage!!! I told her that it was not to be brought into my house anymore.

She accused me of being strict because I won't let her do what her friends do. How do I am I suppose to protect her while I educate her!!!!!

I also found out from the adult that they are being left at the friends house alone or babysitting the friends baby brother. I am not very happy and I have no idea what they have been getting up too. Hubby Q'd her, asked her if boys were comming over and if she was exprementing with sex, she was horrified that we asked and completely embarrassed.......I hate invading her privacy but I don't want her getting pregnant either. Theres enough of that around at the moment. It she hasn't been, but it's only a matter of time. This friend of hers acts way older then her 13yrs and knows stuff she shouldn't. She also has "boyfriend" which at her age is inappropiate.

AJ never use to be like this until she started hanging out with this friend. Fortunately this friend isn't going to her high school next yr but apparently her class is acting up. I'm going to the principle tomorrow and explaining the music issue as much of it is being passed on during school hrs. I relise that it's practically the end of the year, but this issue is affecting the yr 6's who are there. The lyric's are disgusting, rude and full of explicit language and sexual content.

I haven't a clue as to what to do with her. This is the 5th major lie we've caught her in.....2 were over her school camp and 2 over an incident that happened at the camp!

I have grounded her for the rest of the yr and I've taken her electronics away until she earns back my trust!

This behaviour started just after birthday. She sees what her friends have and wants it, even tho we can't afford it (even if we could I wouldn't give it to her anyway on principle) she knows the rules and does everything to bend or break them. We don't ask much of her.......keep her room clean and clean up after herself, put her washing out and just basic things like helping clean up. Basic manners and respect.

I don't know why she's lying and decieving me......yesterday all she had to do is tell us and we would have picked her up. (We don't have the friends address but we trusted AJ to do the right thing as she mostly has in the past.)

My theory is that this friend who just before her birthday became a firm friend or rather joined the inner circle is influencing AJ into this behaviour because she lonely and/or is use to getting her own way, either way AJ's never staying at her place again.

AJ's broken my trust and she's really hurt me over this............I don't know what else to do with her, I will not tolerate being lied too, for me this is the ultimate sin. I will forgive her but my trust is broken and she's going to have earn my trust back.

What do I do with her......I am at my wits end with her!

Raven

Yep, you all knew it was comming!!!! This is so not my year for appliances!!!!!!!

So for the updated version....

Mircowave.......still out and will be delayed until I have some money!!!!!!

Dishwasher.......finally had enough and has blown it's element!!!!!! Will have to wait!!!! In the meantime it's back to manaul labor and being tied to the kitchen sink!!!!!!!!!

Mobile phone..........battery won't hold it's charge....solution, I'm taking it back again!!!!! The first one I bought had the battery fold over!!!! So i exchanged it for a blue one as I hate pink. This one is less then 6mths old and it's screwed up. So I have no personal mobile, none my friends can reach me unless they have my home mobile no and quite frankly it's damn annoying!!!!

The fridge which I blogged before but cost me $75 for them to tell me there was nothing wrong with it!!!!!! What waste of limited finances specially right before  christmas.

On the upside I may be able use some of our puppy money to get these items fixed.........but we do have to pay off the business first!!!!!

So what do you when all your appliances decide to make your life a nightmare............remember that most of these items weren't invented 40yrs ago and be glad that you weren't born in the 18th century!!!!!!!!!!

Cheers Raven

who will be tied to the kitchen sink for the next 2hrs washing every cup and utensil because the kids have never heard of rinse and reuse!!!!!!!!

I'm rather annoyed that someone reported my lastest advice!!!!!!! It was not inappropiate nor does it promote cruelty to animals but reflects the the pack life of the dogs and helps ppl train their dogs in way that reflects pack life. The puppy becomes apart of the family pack!!!!! Why on earth would anyone do this? If you have a problem with me, then please discuss it with me rather than take out on my good advice which is based on proven techniques by someone who is an expert in this field.

Raven

Well, they are now a week and 2 days old! Their eyes are beginning to open and their getting noisy!!!!! Occassionally you hear a little growl or a little yip like bark. It is so cute!!!!

I'm still looking for the camera cord so I can upload the photo's.....it's always in the last place you look!!!!!

The puppies will be ready to go to new homes from the 12 of December (6 weeks) as long as they get puppy milk for the last 2wks! Otherwise it will be the 28 of December........when we are on holidays!!!! Talk about timing! Anyway we have 3 girls and 2 boys......and if you didn't read the previous blog their purebred beagles. We are still deciding price as there are no beagle pups being sold in SA at the moment, so we maybe able to charge a little more but will see as we get closer to point of sale......it will be a sad time but also a happy one as the puppies new owners share the joy of owning and having a beagle as a part of their family. They are quirky dogs and do have some bad habits, digging, jumping all in the name of a great escape! So always have your beagle mircochipped!!!!!

On the otherside of things......I paid $75 for the fridge guy to tell me there is nothing wrong with my fridge!!!!!!! My mirco is still unusable and my dishwasher is stilling playing up!!!!!

My family are all well (the kids) and life is generally good providing I stay away from my side of the family!!!!!!!! It really makes you laugh!!!!

So today like many days will be devoted to housework and exercise......I've lost 7kg so far, I have a total of 56 kg to lose so thats only another 49kgs to go!!!!! As long as I lose around kilo a week I'm happy! I'm almost into my old size 16 clothes....which is so exciting to me. I have some great clothes I bought when I lost weight last time, plus I've bought some new pieces to help me get motivated. So I'm really excited.

Cheers Raven!

A couple of minutes ago the first puppy was born. Mum did well, alittle confused but she knew what to do! In 20mins we should have the next puppy!!

The first one is quite dark and definately a tri colour (beagle)!

So I'm up for a busy day!!!!!!

Cheers Raven

Good news everybody!

I got my ipod back, well actually I got a brand new one back and it works!!!!!! YAY and now I can treadmill to my hearts content.....well till lose all the fat and get my figure back. I'm beginning think it's like my virginity, it ain't ever comming back!!!!!

Hubby decided to check if my dishwasher was actually on the fritz, so he had a poke around decided to do an empty wash cycle..........Wouldn't you believe it, the damn thing decides it's gonna work.. Now it's not that I'm not happy it's working, I'm mad because I couldn't get it to work!!!!!!

However the mirco is still on the fritz and do have to solve that!

My new runners came in last week and so I'm happily paying them off plus I just paid for my undercover wear and am looking forward to recieving that.

Now for the best news.....WE ARE HAVING PUPPIES!!!!!!!!

Our purebred beagle, Vala is having a litter in the next few days, so we are busy getting ready for the new arrivals. It was an accident, we couldn't tell when she was in season until she got pudgy. She's now triple her orginal size and we are expecting a large litter. So if you live in SA or are willing to travel for pure bred beagle pups, drop me a line and I'll fill you in on the details!

That just about covers it.

Cheers Raven

You really do get less for murder, well in Aussie anyway.........Today is Hubby and my 8th wedding anniversary! We are even more in love today then we were when we first got married.

So how'd we do it? Well, the most important keys to sucessful relationship is firstly honestly and secondly communication. I tell my husband everything and he tells me everything. If we are flirted with, we tell each other, if something happens we tell each other.

I went out one night to celebrate a friends leaving town and at the end of the night a very drunk young man felt me up. I casually told him I was married and waved to a male friend that was there. He suddenly become very panicked! It was rather funny! Anyway when I got home i told my hubby who laughed! He thought it was very funny and very innovative on my behalf. He also said to me "see you've still got it!"

My  husband is my best friend and I share with him just as I share with other best friend. In this day and age, you can't simply be husband and wife nor can you just co habitat together. You have to have a deep connection to your loved one. Share every deep thought and feelings with them. Turn towards them rather than away when things get tough.

We have been thru the tough times, back in 2004 we almost split up. We had suffered two huge losses and we stopped communicating. One nite after a huge fight, we or rather my hubby just started talking, pouring out his pain and heart break. He then invited me to do the same, which I did......It saved our marriage.

You can either let something tear you apart or you can share it with your loved one so that he or she can help share the burden. This is what relationship is about, sharing the burdens as well as the joy!

Cheers Raven

If a traffic light is red it means you must stop right? Because someone forgot tell the dumb blonde driving down the road tonite.

I had to go to the newsagency/post office which is not far from my home. So with arm in a sling I had AJ pushing the pram and I was taking care of the littler ones. I had to post some accounts for which I needed some stamps. So we got there did what we had to and set off.

We crossed the road to get to the traffic lights and as we approached, there was truck parked 4 metres from the lights, I checked the road and saw a green 4wd rav type car speeding down the road. I pressed the button but told Aj to start after me. The little green man pops up and I set across the road, as i emerge from in front of the truck, theres the blonde idiot! She wasn't even gonna stop until she saw me! She slammed on her brakes, probably gave herself whiplash (for which i say suck din bitch!).

Just because she didn't see anyone doesn't mean you can drive thru a red light! Yes admittedly the truck was hiding me and the kids and it was 5 o'clock at nite but generally red means stop right?

The other drivers in their cars were shaking their heads in disbelief! She just managed to stop on the line but she could've very well cleaned me and my children up!

I managed to keep it together until I got home, 10mins later hubby walked in the door and I let him have it! Poor guy, he really puts up with a lot. But I don't think I'll be taking the kids out like that again for a little while. Well not till my arm heals properly.

She must have gotten her licences out of weet bix packet because no certified instructor would have passed her!!!! Stupid woman!

Now I've had a rant I feel better.

Hubby didn't even yell at me for spending $73 dollars on undercover wear tonite. He wouldn't yell at me anyway but he's pretty pissed about what happened. Had she reacted any slower, hubby would be visiting us in hospital or worse...........

Shaken but in one piece, Raven

It's a  few days since I posted a blog so here is an update to my life.

The Ipod saga.......

Hubby bought me an ipod for xmas last yr. It worked for a while then the battery decided it wasn't gonna recharge, so I took into an Apple store.............who wiped it clean and handed back said it should work.........Well 3wks later and  it stopped charging properly. So I gave to my bro who has mates who work at another ipod store.........they did the same thing, wiped it clean and handed it back with the a wall charger on the promise it will work.......total cost $40......3 weeks later the damn thing stopped charging again, so I rang apple directly got a guy who spoke english with heavy indian accent and was bearly understandable, I found out I have 32 days left of warranty and I will only have whatever warranty is left on the replacement one I'm getting. So I have drive from my town to Adelaide to purchase warranty for the new ipod total cost......I'm not sure I want to know but i'm sure it's gonna cost me at least $200. Anyway that was Tuesday!

The dishwasher saga..........

Tuesday my dishwasher decided to go out in sympathy with my mircowave and went on the fritz.. It's refusing to heat the water to clean the dishes, so I have to all by hand which leaves me no time to exercise and loose my baby weight! So currently I have three electrical goods that don't work and 2 of them I can't get fix for a couple weeks more....YAY!

The sneaker saga.......

Yep, I'm gonna included it......I have had my runners since my four yr old was a baby. Because of my back problems I was looking for a shoe that would give me more support, so I chose a new balance shoe that has stuff in it thats suppose to stop your ankles from rolling.....something that happens to me alot, they cost a small fortune $150, however I couldn't try on or layby any because they don't have any in, in my size, so as any person does, I order pair. That was last thursday and the shoe shop has only just order them and I'm gonna have wait another week, which guess isn't to bad because by the time they get them in I'll be able to pay for them straight away but I would've liked to be able to start paying them off. If it wasn't for Nikki needing new lenses in her glasses I'd have them 1/2 paid off. This just more of an annoyance than anything!

My left arm.......

Here a good one..... I asked my daughter to take out the recycling which she did (this happened monday, the day before the kids went back to school) but she didn't lock the screen door behind her and my 4yr old went running after dad with me hot on his heels. I caught up with him, fortunately he was on the front lawn looking for dad, I explained to him that dad was gone and he would have to go inside, which he did. In my wisdom i thought I'd check the letter box ignoring the funny feeling in my back and left leg.......big mistake..... halfway down the drive way, my back, left leg and ankle gave out and timbers...... Iwas on the ground. My right knee took the brunt of the fall (remember i weigh 110kg currently and I'm praising God i lost lost 2kgs last week) but my left arm took a fair whack of the fall too. I saw black and don't think i lost consciousness or hit my head but the pain in my arm was incredible. as i lay on the ground I checked to make sure i hadn't dislocated my arm, which I didn't, then attempted to get up. I went inside felt like I was gonna vomit which stayed with me for about 30mins. However the pain was just so intense. i rang hubby and asked him to come home, By which time I thought I'd broken something in my elbow. A quick trip to duty DR followed by an xray which revealed nothing broken and in the Dr's words I have a cricketeers injury....A bruised ulna nerve or fair whack old the old funny bone. So arm goes in a sling and I get really good pain meds which i opted for over the counter meds. pandiene forte and I really don't like each other. But as all parents know you never do what your suppose to do and I have 2 days in a row pushed chomper in his pram, washed dishes and done housework that I wasn't suppose to. So instead of my arm healing in a few days it's gonna take a couple of weeks. You can't change a nappy one handed! I am trying to rest it as much as possible but when you have kids it's almost impossible. I could have avoid it if i had put on an ankle brace and given my leg more support from the base!

So that's my week........I hope it's amused you all as much as it's amused me!

Cheers Raven