I went to delete my last Q to find it was reported.........Just wanted to apology for placing it  in the Q&A. Not the best idea I've had of late.....

So I'm really sorry if I offended anyone.......

Raven

Yesterday I let my 13 yr old daughter go to her friends place. She is well aware thar she has to be home by 4pm as she has school the next day.

She "conspired" with her friend and told another adult who dropped them off at the friends place that she was allowed to stay till 7pm and she would ring us from her friends place (she doesn't have her own mobile yet) when she got there. My brother was comming down and we had to rush from church to home to meet him. They left out all the details when discussing it with me and hubby. Her friends mum couldn't drop them off till 7 and they switched of her friends phone so we couldn't contact her. By 6pm I was beside myself with worry that something had happened, so I rang the adult who dropped them off who filled me in on the details...........which resulted in me getting very angry.

When she was dropped off at 7pm, I was polite to her friend but once she got inside I went off my nut.

I told her how hurt I was that she lied and decieved me. That I was sick with worry and I have no idea why the hell she was treating me like this.

She has so much freedom, we rarely say no to her and we allow her to spend time with her frends. It would seem this friend is a bad influence on her and I have forbidden her to go and spend any more tme with her outside of school hrs.

This friend has given AJ music that I have expressly forbidden to have in my house unless she gets my approval for the song. The last lot of lyrics she brought home condoned and encourage drinking, arson, sex  and murdering your boyfriend!!!!! Who writes that garbage!!! I told her that it was not to be brought into my house anymore.

She accused me of being strict because I won't let her do what her friends do. How do I am I suppose to protect her while I educate her!!!!!

I also found out from the adult that they are being left at the friends house alone or babysitting the friends baby brother. I am not very happy and I have no idea what they have been getting up too. Hubby Q'd her, asked her if boys were comming over and if she was exprementing with sex, she was horrified that we asked and completely embarrassed.......I hate invading her privacy but I don't want her getting pregnant either. Theres enough of that around at the moment. It she hasn't been, but it's only a matter of time. This friend of hers acts way older then her 13yrs and knows stuff she shouldn't. She also has "boyfriend" which at her age is inappropiate.

AJ never use to be like this until she started hanging out with this friend. Fortunately this friend isn't going to her high school next yr but apparently her class is acting up. I'm going to the principle tomorrow and explaining the music issue as much of it is being passed on during school hrs. I relise that it's practically the end of the year, but this issue is affecting the yr 6's who are there. The lyric's are disgusting, rude and full of explicit language and sexual content.

I haven't a clue as to what to do with her. This is the 5th major lie we've caught her in.....2 were over her school camp and 2 over an incident that happened at the camp!

I have grounded her for the rest of the yr and I've taken her electronics away until she earns back my trust!

This behaviour started just after birthday. She sees what her friends have and wants it, even tho we can't afford it (even if we could I wouldn't give it to her anyway on principle) she knows the rules and does everything to bend or break them. We don't ask much of her.......keep her room clean and clean up after herself, put her washing out and just basic things like helping clean up. Basic manners and respect.

I don't know why she's lying and decieving me......yesterday all she had to do is tell us and we would have picked her up. (We don't have the friends address but we trusted AJ to do the right thing as she mostly has in the past.)

My theory is that this friend who just before her birthday became a firm friend or rather joined the inner circle is influencing AJ into this behaviour because she lonely and/or is use to getting her own way, either way AJ's never staying at her place again.

AJ's broken my trust and she's really hurt me over this............I don't know what else to do with her, I will not tolerate being lied too, for me this is the ultimate sin. I will forgive her but my trust is broken and she's going to have earn my trust back.

What do I do with her......I am at my wits end with her!

Raven

Yep, you all knew it was comming!!!! This is so not my year for appliances!!!!!!!

So for the updated version....

Mircowave.......still out and will be delayed until I have some money!!!!!!

Dishwasher.......finally had enough and has blown it's element!!!!!! Will have to wait!!!! In the meantime it's back to manaul labor and being tied to the kitchen sink!!!!!!!!!

Mobile phone..........battery won't hold it's charge....solution, I'm taking it back again!!!!! The first one I bought had the battery fold over!!!! So i exchanged it for a blue one as I hate pink. This one is less then 6mths old and it's screwed up. So I have no personal mobile, none my friends can reach me unless they have my home mobile no and quite frankly it's damn annoying!!!!

The fridge which I blogged before but cost me $75 for them to tell me there was nothing wrong with it!!!!!! What waste of limited finances specially right before  christmas.

On the upside I may be able use some of our puppy money to get these items fixed.........but we do have to pay off the business first!!!!!

So what do you when all your appliances decide to make your life a nightmare............remember that most of these items weren't invented 40yrs ago and be glad that you weren't born in the 18th century!!!!!!!!!!

Cheers Raven

who will be tied to the kitchen sink for the next 2hrs washing every cup and utensil because the kids have never heard of rinse and reuse!!!!!!!!

I'm rather annoyed that someone reported my lastest advice!!!!!!! It was not inappropiate nor does it promote cruelty to animals but reflects the the pack life of the dogs and helps ppl train their dogs in way that reflects pack life. The puppy becomes apart of the family pack!!!!! Why on earth would anyone do this? If you have a problem with me, then please discuss it with me rather than take out on my good advice which is based on proven techniques by someone who is an expert in this field.

Raven

Well, they are now a week and 2 days old! Their eyes are beginning to open and their getting noisy!!!!! Occassionally you hear a little growl or a little yip like bark. It is so cute!!!!

I'm still looking for the camera cord so I can upload the photo's.....it's always in the last place you look!!!!!

The puppies will be ready to go to new homes from the 12 of December (6 weeks) as long as they get puppy milk for the last 2wks! Otherwise it will be the 28 of December........when we are on holidays!!!! Talk about timing! Anyway we have 3 girls and 2 boys......and if you didn't read the previous blog their purebred beagles. We are still deciding price as there are no beagle pups being sold in SA at the moment, so we maybe able to charge a little more but will see as we get closer to point of sale......it will be a sad time but also a happy one as the puppies new owners share the joy of owning and having a beagle as a part of their family. They are quirky dogs and do have some bad habits, digging, jumping all in the name of a great escape! So always have your beagle mircochipped!!!!!

On the otherside of things......I paid $75 for the fridge guy to tell me there is nothing wrong with my fridge!!!!!!! My mirco is still unusable and my dishwasher is stilling playing up!!!!!

My family are all well (the kids) and life is generally good providing I stay away from my side of the family!!!!!!!! It really makes you laugh!!!!

So today like many days will be devoted to housework and exercise......I've lost 7kg so far, I have a total of 56 kg to lose so thats only another 49kgs to go!!!!! As long as I lose around kilo a week I'm happy! I'm almost into my old size 16 clothes....which is so exciting to me. I have some great clothes I bought when I lost weight last time, plus I've bought some new pieces to help me get motivated. So I'm really excited.

Cheers Raven!