Sorry to hear you're feeling low. Did the GP help? Or your midwife? Make sure someone takes your risk of Pre & Post natal depression seriously.

I know exactly what you mean about growing up with a depressed mum and wanting to be the opposite. But you ARE different - just look at how healthy Amy is! I also didnt bloom in my second pregnancy - too darned tired to I guess. As for being lonely, I guess there are two things you can do - offload onto Minti a bit more, or invite someone round for a cuppa and get to know them, and if they never listen to you, invite someone else round - there must be someone in the Toddler Group who you can click with given time and coffee? And as for the effects on Amy and baby, well kids are very resilient, and Im sure your nurturing will counteract any negative effects. Worrying about it wont change your mood for the better, as Im sure you already know, so concentrate on encouraging Amy, and Im sure baby will pick up on your love for it's big sister and benefit.

Oh honey. I'm so sorry to hear that you are so down. I hope the doctor is able to help. Being sad and lonely when your surrounded is never fun. I can relate to that. If you do want to talk to someone, even one who doesn't know you that well, I am happy to listen. You can contact me on katie.khan21@gmail.com and we can talk on the phone from there. If not I just hope good thoughts and wishes help.

Take care honey, Katie xx

 I'm sorry to hear you are feeling low. You know, I was really stressed when I found out I was having twins. Finances, the other kids, all the things that float thru. Now I see that things work out because of the love I have for them. Amy will love the baby, you and hubby will have another magical moment when they are born. There's always a way thru. I'm not trying to make light of how you're feeling. Just try making a list of all the good stuff and you'll see how much longer it is to the bad.

Always here if you want to chat,

Cath xxxx

Oh Clare, I'm sorry it's taken me a little bit to respond (been a little busy). It sounds like you're getting yourself in a right state.

I know I am having the same worries as you in regards to the finacial side of things and how I'm going to cope with an 8 year old and a newborn. I think it's perfectly natural to have these worries and I will admit that I have had some really dark days so far. They're usually the days where I've just sat there and thought and thought..... a dangerous combo with the hormones rattling around my body lol. Well done on going to see the Doctor and talk about your concerns. It's much better to be proactive about these things then sit on your hands and hope it goes away. You know that you can always hop on minti and talk to us. I know it's not the same as having someone physically there but for it's the next best thing. Take care of you. Thinking of you and sending some positive vibes your way.

fi xoxo

Im sorry your not enjoying your pregnancy. I can relate. when i found out i was preg with jake i wasnt even sure i was going to have him. didnt know who the dad was and wasnt working. I felt guilty that my other kids would miss out finacially because of a new baby and if the baby was my ex's child and not my current bf's child i worried how that would effect my life..... i had panic attaks about the money and my midwife suggested breathing excersises to help me relax.

I think u should talk to ur midwife about it. and remember no matter how bad u think things will be as long as there is love anything is possible.

xoxo

Oh dear, are we ever?  Hopefully it is just a phase in your pregnancy and things will pick up... Sending you happy thoughts from a happy keyboard.