http://www.minti.com/members/bruciegee/activity/ Latest activity by bruciegee on Minti Copyright 2009 Minti en-uk bruciegee You're absolutely right, lillicoi... and thanks for reading, and for adding your encouragement to others not to hesitate to do something when they have suspicions of abuse! http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10858/Suspected-child-abuse-Speaking-up/#1045454 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10858/Suspected-child-abuse-Speaking-up/#1045454 Wed, 19 Aug 2009 04:57:01 -0700 bruciegee Congratulations to both you and your son for showing that kind of courage, lainy! You're a great example to him... and to us. Well done! http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10858/Suspected-child-abuse-Speaking-up/#1045452 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10858/Suspected-child-abuse-Speaking-up/#1045452 Wed, 19 Aug 2009 04:53:06 -0700 bruciegee love it!... and I'm challenged by some of it at the same time!! Thanks, Mel! http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/12042/Ideas-to-help-control-anger--aggression-in-children/#1045120 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/12042/Ideas-to-help-control-anger--aggression-in-children/#1045120 Tue, 18 Aug 2009 07:33:10 -0700 bruciegee Really good, well thought out and practical advice! (Easier to read about and agree with than to do, of course... but we all need to work at it -- and you've given us some really handy tools to do... (Easier to read about and agree with than to do, of course... but we all need to work at it -- and you've given us some really handy tools to do...]]> http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/12082/Types-of-Interpersonal-Conflict-with-tips-for-resolution/#1045118 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/12082/Types-of-Interpersonal-Conflict-with-tips-for-resolution/#1045118 Tue, 18 Aug 2009 07:31:08 -0700 bruciegee Great article, Mel! http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/12109/Are-you-really-listening/#1045117 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/12109/Are-you-really-listening/#1045117 Tue, 18 Aug 2009 07:25:25 -0700 bruciegee You definitely have my vote for a good decision there, "anon"! We've unfortunately managed to go from having 3 young bi-lingual kids overseas 5 years ago, to having a basically... We've unfortunately managed to go from having 3 young bi-lingual kids overseas 5 years ago, to having a basically...]]> http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/12009/Raising-a-bilingual-child/#1034611 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/12009/Raising-a-bilingual-child/#1034611 Tue, 21 Jul 2009 20:14:01 -0700 bruciegee Thanks, Mystikal, for that clear and well written advice... and if it can help even one parent to recognise the signs and act, then it is priceless!! http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11956/Common-behaviours-found-in-childhood-sexual-abuse-victims/#1028741 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11956/Common-behaviours-found-in-childhood-sexual-abuse-victims/#1028741 Mon, 06 Jul 2009 21:36:37 -0700 bruciegee Thank you, I Am's child! .... I just wish that ALL those who were in DV situations could read or hear this message. http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11841/Domestic-Violence-The-Cold-Hard-Facts/#1019253 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11841/Domestic-Violence-The-Cold-Hard-Facts/#1019253 Sun, 14 Jun 2009 04:41:17 -0700 bruciegee Thanks for getting it out in the open... silliness beats meds anytime!!! http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11845/Silly-Theropy-read-with-an-open-mind/#1019251 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11845/Silly-Theropy-read-with-an-open-mind/#1019251 Sun, 14 Jun 2009 04:35:53 -0700 bruciegee ' hope you remember to tell Brent often that he's a real champion for turning out so well, despite such bad influences! Good advice following the long, but interesting story ... isn't it funny how... Good advice following the long, but interesting story
... isn't it funny how...]]> http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11752/Monster-In-Laws/#1008546 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11752/Monster-In-Laws/#1008546 Thu, 21 May 2009 03:23:44 -0700 bruciegee I agree with you there, Carole... there really is a fine line between "providing every opportunity" for our kids, and unwittingly IMPOVERISHING them through establishing stressful,... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11745/Are-your-children-doing-too-much-extra-activities--/#1006875 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11745/Are-your-children-doing-too-much-extra-activities--/#1006875 Sun, 17 May 2009 20:33:26 -0700 bruciegee Good stuff, Carole! ... and thanks for the link to the system to help the budget even further. Well done! http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11738/Getting-to-know-mark-down-times-at-your-supermarket-/#1006874 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11738/Getting-to-know-mark-down-times-at-your-supermarket-/#1006874 Sun, 17 May 2009 20:28:38 -0700 bruciegee It does make you feel good to have that one free item... the feeling's worth more than the couple of bucks you'll save, I say! I'm not sure I'd go to the extent of writing all the prices down, tho'... I'm not sure I'd go to the extent of writing all the prices down, tho'...]]> http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11746/Be-observant-can-get-you-free-goods-at-the-supermarket/#1006862 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11746/Be-observant-can-get-you-free-goods-at-the-supermarket/#1006862 Sun, 17 May 2009 19:58:02 -0700 bruciegee Love the last picture of "changing diets" with friends, Lui! Well said! http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11736/Responsible-Role-Models-8-Fundamentals-of-Friendship/#1006861 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11736/Responsible-Role-Models-8-Fundamentals-of-Friendship/#1006861 Sun, 17 May 2009 19:52:30 -0700 bruciegee Great advice, both wise and well worded. Thanks, Lui!!! http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11737/Responsible-Role-Models-9-Honesty--Integrity/#1006859 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11737/Responsible-Role-Models-9-Honesty--Integrity/#1006859 Sun, 17 May 2009 19:50:17 -0700 bruciegee You said it! http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10858/Suspected-child-abuse-Speaking-up/#1004914 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10858/Suspected-child-abuse-Speaking-up/#1004914 Tue, 12 May 2009 17:08:56 -0700 bruciegee Thanks! http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10858/Suspected-child-abuse-Speaking-up/#1004910 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10858/Suspected-child-abuse-Speaking-up/#1004910 Tue, 12 May 2009 17:06:58 -0700 bruciegee I can't imagine how frustrating and heart-breaking it must be to speak up and be ignored, and see the awful consequences. Don't give in or give up! Don't give in or give up!]]> http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10858/Suspected-child-abuse-Speaking-up/#1004909 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10858/Suspected-child-abuse-Speaking-up/#1004909 Tue, 12 May 2009 17:06:07 -0700 bruciegee Thank you so much for giving your perspective KELMR... and I can't agree with you more, we need to "care" about what's happening with our friends and neighbours -- we make every household... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10858/Suspected-child-abuse-Speaking-up/#1004907 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10858/Suspected-child-abuse-Speaking-up/#1004907 Tue, 12 May 2009 17:03:32 -0700 bruciegee Thanks! http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10858/Suspected-child-abuse-Speaking-up/#1004901 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10858/Suspected-child-abuse-Speaking-up/#1004901 Tue, 12 May 2009 17:00:12 -0700 bruciegee Yeah, it is embarassing... but I'd rather risk being embarassed (or embarassing some innocent, good parents) than for everyone to play like the 3 monkeys, and let a child continue to be harmed and... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10858/Suspected-child-abuse-Speaking-up/#1004900 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10858/Suspected-child-abuse-Speaking-up/#1004900 Tue, 12 May 2009 16:59:21 -0700 bruciegee Good suggestion! We once had a cookie-making birthday party for 5 year olds, which was also enormous fun for all... and they loved having their own designer cookies -- one to eat at the party, the... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11715/Cooking-Experience-With-Kids/#1004890 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11715/Cooking-Experience-With-Kids/#1004890 Tue, 12 May 2009 16:45:37 -0700 bruciegee Thanks for the alert... and providing some sources for more information about additives. http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11727/How-to-Avoid-Harmful-Food-Additives/#1004887 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11727/How-to-Avoid-Harmful-Food-Additives/#1004887 Tue, 12 May 2009 16:39:21 -0700 bruciegee Dads: As a "species", I think we've got a lot to answer for when we look and see young women who get into toxic and abusive relationships, and end up emotionally scarred, bruised ... and... http://www.minti.com/groups/74530/Aussie-dad-s-tool-shed/blog/1004704/talking-to-our-daughters-about-relationships-before-theyre-in-one/ http://www.minti.com/groups/74530/Aussie-dad-s-tool-shed/blog/1004704/talking-to-our-daughters-about-relationships-before-theyre-in-one/ Tue, 12 May 2009 04:59:04 -0700 bruciegee Real, compassionate, solid, helpful and practical advice... love it! I'm sure this will be helpful to lyndj, and to others who are stressing over conception! We found too that it didn't happen on... We found too that it didn't happen on...]]> http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11701/Desperately-wanting-a-baby/#1004653 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11701/Desperately-wanting-a-baby/#1004653 Tue, 12 May 2009 03:51:47 -0700 bruciegee Thanks for sharing your experiences on this, Penelope41 ... Your thoughts this time may be more appropriate to add as an 'answer', rather than advice? (It doesn't really give too much in the way of... ... Your thoughts this time may be more appropriate to add as an 'answer', rather than advice? (It doesn't really give too much in the way of...]]> http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11724/Kids-and-mobile-phones/#1004636 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11724/Kids-and-mobile-phones/#1004636 Tue, 12 May 2009 03:31:50 -0700 bruciegee Some more great advice... you're going to have all us Minti-ites bursting with new-found energy and vitality (instead of bursting buttons!), even if we only follow a couple of your practical, doable... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11717/TIPS-TO-HELP-KEEP-YOU-AND-YOUR-FAMILY-FIT-AND-HEALTHY-PART-2/#1004045 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11717/TIPS-TO-HELP-KEEP-YOU-AND-YOUR-FAMILY-FIT-AND-HEALTHY-PART-2/#1004045 Mon, 11 May 2009 00:24:11 -0700 bruciegee WOW! What a list of great ideas! For healthy snacking I find thinking ahead, so that the healthy food choices are right there and not too much of a hassle, is gold... and you're helping us with a... For healthy snacking I find thinking ahead, so that the healthy food choices are right there and not too much of a hassle, is gold... and you're helping us with a...]]> http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11716/SOME-TIPS-TO-HELP-KEEP-YOU-AND-YOUR-FAMILY-FIT-AND-HEALTHY/#1003928 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11716/SOME-TIPS-TO-HELP-KEEP-YOU-AND-YOUR-FAMILY-FIT-AND-HEALTHY/#1003928 Sun, 10 May 2009 17:56:11 -0700 bruciegee Such a good idea, I'm almost sorry we're well past that stage now! I might consider grannyjack's suggestion for using them for other household needs, tho'! (No, to be honest, I'm REALLY glad we're... I might consider grannyjack's suggestion for using them for other household needs, tho'!
(No, to be honest, I'm REALLY glad we're...]]> http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11718/Making-your-own-Baby-Wipes/#1003925 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11718/Making-your-own-Baby-Wipes/#1003925 Sun, 10 May 2009 17:50:56 -0700 bruciegee While it's important to make sure that there is nothing sinister behind the child's unwillingness to go home with Dad, I think you'll probably find that the little man just needs some time to adjust.... http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/1002896/how-to-strengthen-a-bond-between-father-and-son/#1003919 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/1002896/how-to-strengthen-a-bond-between-father-and-son/#1003919 Sun, 10 May 2009 17:43:10 -0700 bruciegee Sounds to me like you're doing the right things now... just keep being there, modelling a "safe place" (including the fact that it's ok when he DOESN'T tell you every thing), and showing... http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/1003823/helping-my-godson-to-open-up/#1003893 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/1003823/helping-my-godson-to-open-up/#1003893 Sun, 10 May 2009 17:00:36 -0700 bruciegee Thanks for the really good advice, kseers! ... and thanks for 'wrapping it up' so skilfully in your own story. http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11706/Talking-to-our-teens-about-relationships/#1003889 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11706/Talking-to-our-teens-about-relationships/#1003889 Sun, 10 May 2009 16:51:49 -0700 bruciegee Some really good suggestions. Thanks! http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11698/77-Ways-to-Connect-With-Your-Children/#1002466 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11698/77-Ways-to-Connect-With-Your-Children/#1002466 Thu, 07 May 2009 02:20:36 -0700 bruciegee I 'm not an expert on the topic... but just in case some of the advice given may be reading more into your question than is really there, I would suggest that if your daughter is attracted to men,... http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/1001428/my-daughter-is-sixteen-and-she-wants-to-be-a-boy/#1001920 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/1001428/my-daughter-is-sixteen-and-she-wants-to-be-a-boy/#1001920 Tue, 05 May 2009 19:48:50 -0700 bruciegee This is information we obviously need to share with our kids BEFORE they find themselves in this situation... as you have done with your daughters. Thanks for the reminder not to skirt around this... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11695/New-Warnings-For-Moms/#1001917 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11695/New-Warnings-For-Moms/#1001917 Tue, 05 May 2009 19:25:39 -0700 bruciegee Thanks, playmate, for giving us "the other side of the coin" on this issue.... it's great to hear that after all that struggle, heartache and pain, things are working out  so much... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11651/you-have-to-let-go-and-let-god/#1001914 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11651/you-have-to-let-go-and-let-god/#1001914 Tue, 05 May 2009 19:18:46 -0700 bruciegee Thanks for highlighting an area of concern here, Judy... Maybe you could add a few more suggestions to get parents started, or a little more advice about how to go about coming up with... Maybe you could add a few more suggestions to get parents started, or a little more advice about how to go about coming up with...]]> http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11656/Electronic-Free-Activities-For-Families-That-Build-Social-Skills/#1001913 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11656/Electronic-Free-Activities-For-Families-That-Build-Social-Skills/#1001913 Tue, 05 May 2009 19:12:43 -0700 bruciegee Fantastic article, Josie... love the way you just lay it out there... which makes it very readable, personal and deeply engaging... but still containing those nuggets of pure gold wisdom. Thanks for... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11685/The-OTHER-side-of-depression/#1001629 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11685/The-OTHER-side-of-depression/#1001629 Tue, 05 May 2009 04:03:08 -0700 bruciegee Well written article. Congratulations on your early start and obvious success with your son (people REALLY notice the difference at 2!) Thanks for sharing your experiences and insights! http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11655/The-Naughty-Corner-is-there-a-place-for-it/#998174 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11655/The-Naughty-Corner-is-there-a-place-for-it/#998174 Sat, 02 May 2009 02:16:14 -0700 bruciegee http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11659/Why-Fathers-Matter-to-Kids/#998173 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11659/Why-Fathers-Matter-to-Kids/#998173 Sat, 02 May 2009 02:07:28 -0700 bruciegee Thanks for the article! For the dads out there... you probably just don't realise how important your input into your child's life really is -- for your sons AND for your daughters. What work or... For the dads out there... you probably just don't realise how important your input into your child's life really is -- for your sons AND for your daughters.
What work or...]]> http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11660/Fathers-and-Sons-Why-Boys-Need-Role-Models/#998170 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11660/Fathers-and-Sons-Why-Boys-Need-Role-Models/#998170 Sat, 02 May 2009 02:03:51 -0700 bruciegee THANKS for the article, Janice... Excellent advice! http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11639/Built-up-Anger-in-Victims-of-Abuse/#995874 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11639/Built-up-Anger-in-Victims-of-Abuse/#995874 Sun, 26 Apr 2009 05:18:13 -0700 bruciegee Yes! ... Thank you for your courage! http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10858/Suspected-child-abuse-Speaking-up/#990656 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10858/Suspected-child-abuse-Speaking-up/#990656 Mon, 13 Apr 2009 18:27:19 -0700 bruciegee Gold. Period. So well written, Josie, and REALLY, REALLY good, practical and well thought-out advice on a very challenging issue. Your kids are blessed to have you! So glad to hear how well you... So well written, Josie, and REALLY, REALLY good, practical and well thought-out advice on a very challenging issue. Your kids are blessed to have you!
So glad to hear how well you...]]> http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11531/Saying-Goodbye-to-Ripley-Helping-Kids-Cope-with-the-Death-of-a-Pet/#984734 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11531/Saying-Goodbye-to-Ripley-Helping-Kids-Cope-with-the-Death-of-a-Pet/#984734 Sun, 29 Mar 2009 23:38:25 -0700 bruciegee What a great recommendation! I didn't realise these courses were so flexible! As you say, a great opportunity for a 2nd chance! http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11418/Certificate-IV-in-Adult-Tertiary-Preparation-Study-year-11--12-fulltime-in-12-months-at-TAFE-Australia/#974470 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11418/Certificate-IV-in-Adult-Tertiary-Preparation-Study-year-11--12-fulltime-in-12-months-at-TAFE-Australia/#974470 Mon, 09 Mar 2009 07:44:37 -0700 bruciegee Great advice, Josie! Well written and informative... taking the stress out of the unknowns for parents, too! Well done! http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11406/Promoting-a-Positive-First-Hospital-Experience-for-Children/#974110 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11406/Promoting-a-Positive-First-Hospital-Experience-for-Children/#974110 Sun, 08 Mar 2009 16:58:29 -0700 bruciegee Thanks for the reminder, for ourselves and in teaching our kids values, Mandy! Glad that you didn't miss the opportunity to be an encouragement to this man and his family. You're right, too... when... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11284/life-altering/#961020 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11284/life-altering/#961020 Sat, 14 Feb 2009 19:40:16 -0800 bruciegee Some really good suggestions here... definitely worth a try! http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11290/Homework-Help/#960671 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11290/Homework-Help/#960671 Sat, 14 Feb 2009 03:17:31 -0800 bruciegee Love it!! (I think you're on to something... sometimes we forget the really important things as we get 'bigger' and 'smarter'!) (I think you're on to something... sometimes we forget the really important things as we get 'bigger' and 'smarter'!)]]> http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11285/Important-life-lessons-from-a-4-year-old/#960546 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11285/Important-life-lessons-from-a-4-year-old/#960546 Fri, 13 Feb 2009 22:25:28 -0800 bruciegee Thank you for passing on that vital information, I Am's child! To think that we might be trying to medicate kids where it is totally uncalled for (and possibly masking abuse issues that need to be... To think that we might be trying to medicate kids where it is totally uncalled for (and possibly masking abuse issues that need to be...]]> http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10858/Suspected-child-abuse-Speaking-up/#956991 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10858/Suspected-child-abuse-Speaking-up/#956991 Mon, 09 Feb 2009 23:02:31 -0800 bruciegee Thanks for the article, Hope4u, ... and for the further information here, which is invaluable. http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11226/Facing-sexual-abuse-of-both-your-children-and-fighting-for-their-safety-no-matter-what-it-takes/#956985 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11226/Facing-sexual-abuse-of-both-your-children-and-fighting-for-their-safety-no-matter-what-it-takes/#956985 Mon, 09 Feb 2009 22:55:36 -0800 bruciegee Love that idea, Matt!!! So much simpler than a 'pool' system, and, as you say, having the kids put to bed at their own home is GOLD! I'm going to get to work on this one NOW! http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11236/Friday-Night-Date-Nights/#956966 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11236/Friday-Night-Date-Nights/#956966 Mon, 09 Feb 2009 22:49:43 -0800 bruciegee Just a thought... offer to do it for another couple 1st!... you might find that others REALLY warm to the idea when they are the recipient of the child-care!! http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11236/Friday-Night-Date-Nights/#956965 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11236/Friday-Night-Date-Nights/#956965 Mon, 09 Feb 2009 22:47:40 -0800 bruciegee Very well written article, josierm... I know that this is going to be very helpful advice to many! Just the acknowledgement that it happens to others, but that it is still a very real loss, that... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11243/Coping-With-Early-Pregnancy-Miscarriage-Some-Thoughts-/#956962 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11243/Coping-With-Early-Pregnancy-Miscarriage-Some-Thoughts-/#956962 Mon, 09 Feb 2009 22:42:59 -0800 bruciegee Great advice again, DarkenedAngel! ... I agree, it's not about shielding kids from all information about tragedy and death (we can't anyway!!), but about engaging with them, asking and answering... ... I agree, it's not about shielding kids from all information about tragedy and death (we can't anyway!!), but about engaging with them, asking and answering...]]> http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11245/Children-Disasters-and-the-News/#956952 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11245/Children-Disasters-and-the-News/#956952 Mon, 09 Feb 2009 22:34:35 -0800 bruciegee Great advice!  Just allowing kids to see and be around others enjoying books and reading (and stories and imagination and creativity ...) in a library is GOLD! (you might be able to get an... Just allowing kids to see and be around others enjoying books and reading (and stories and imagination and creativity ...) in a library is GOLD!
(you might be able to get an...]]> http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11231/Story-Time-at-the-Library-Fun-for-free/#955926 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11231/Story-Time-at-the-Library-Fun-for-free/#955926 Sun, 08 Feb 2009 16:58:45 -0800 bruciegee Thanks, XanderPander! A good read, and all great advice -- and even if it IS easier said than done, it still a powerful reminder and encouragement to hear it said!! A good read, and all great advice -- and even if it IS easier said than done, it still a powerful reminder and encouragement to hear it said!!]]> http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11207/Parenting-Teens-how-to-connect-with-them-how-to-survive-it/#955915 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11207/Parenting-Teens-how-to-connect-with-them-how-to-survive-it/#955915 Sun, 08 Feb 2009 16:46:50 -0800 bruciegee Thank you for inviting us again into your story, Lim... and making it both a very personal account, but also really solid, simple, practical advice for others who find themselves in the downward... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11218/How-I-beat-DepressionFrom-a-Dads-Perspective/#955909 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11218/How-I-beat-DepressionFrom-a-Dads-Perspective/#955909 Sun, 08 Feb 2009 16:40:27 -0800 bruciegee Great idea! Wish I'd thought of that when we were at this stage! http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11224/Naughty-Step-Tip/#955905 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11224/Naughty-Step-Tip/#955905 Sun, 08 Feb 2009 16:34:50 -0800 bruciegee We've actually changed schools WITHOUT moving for our daughters (for one of them, twice!)... and it has made an amazing difference. Great to hear that Scott wasn't put off by one inadequate... Great to hear that Scott wasn't put off by one inadequate...]]> http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11107/school-issues-parents-taking-charge/#951211 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11107/school-issues-parents-taking-charge/#951211 Mon, 02 Feb 2009 23:18:34 -0800 bruciegee I think the best thing you can do (which you probably have done already!) is to sit your son down and say something like: "sorry, mummy was wrong to react that way....slapping you was the wrong... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11130/Advise-Writers-of-Minti/#948770 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11130/Advise-Writers-of-Minti/#948770 Fri, 30 Jan 2009 19:19:26 -0800 bruciegee Thanks for your honesty and willingness to be vulnerable in sharing, Rusty. And especially for boucning back with a positive twist on the experience -- well done! ... and, by the way, if we did an... ... and, by the way, if we did an...]]> http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11130/Advise-Writers-of-Minti/#948769 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11130/Advise-Writers-of-Minti/#948769 Fri, 30 Jan 2009 19:14:54 -0800 bruciegee Totally with you on this one... I would recommend any teens wanting to become parents talk to some teenage parents before making any decisions... I would agree that it is the loss of freedom -- and... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11139/Teens-Wanting-To-Be-Parents/#948753 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11139/Teens-Wanting-To-Be-Parents/#948753 Fri, 30 Jan 2009 18:58:04 -0800 bruciegee Great advice! ... and you're right, we men are usually fairly predictably funny creatures!! Even tho' my lovely lady and I never seriously disagreed on the topic... we both thought we were going to... Even tho' my lovely lady and I never seriously disagreed on the topic... we both thought we were going to...]]> http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11125/The-Baby-Talk-with-your-Other-Half/#947531 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11125/The-Baby-Talk-with-your-Other-Half/#947531 Thu, 29 Jan 2009 03:38:57 -0800 bruciegee http://www.minti.com/members/bruciegee/photos/63185/IMG_2130.JPG http://www.minti.com/members/bruciegee/photos/63185/IMG_2130.JPG Thu, 29 Jan 2009 03:10:22 -0800 bruciegee Thanks so much for sharing that, Brad! I can't imagine what that pain must be like. I'm so glad to hear that you and your wife have moved past the awful grief that was tearing you apart.... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11116/How-to-lose-a-child-and-get-the-strenght-to-keep-going/#947199 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11116/How-to-lose-a-child-and-get-the-strenght-to-keep-going/#947199 Wed, 28 Jan 2009 19:34:43 -0800 bruciegee This week has seen the start of the new school year ... and for a family where 4 of us study/work in schools, and the other has to work with and visit schools on a daily basis, it's a big part of our... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11107/school-issues-parents-taking-charge/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11107/school-issues-parents-taking-charge/ Fri, 30 Jan 2009 19:51:20 -0800 bruciegee Thanks SO much for sharing that, Rusty! What a positive outcome of a horrible situation! How good is it that you are able to not only give your own family a different foundation, but encourage... How good is it that you are able to not only give your own family a different foundation, but encourage...]]> http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11025/Alcoholism-and-Children-My-Story/#946195 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11025/Alcoholism-and-Children-My-Story/#946195 Tue, 27 Jan 2009 20:02:28 -0800 bruciegee We're into our 17th year now... time flies!! http://www.minti.com/members/bruciegee/blog/945478/Photo-tag-4th-photo-from-4th-folder/#946136 http://www.minti.com/members/bruciegee/blog/945478/Photo-tag-4th-photo-from-4th-folder/#946136 Tue, 27 Jan 2009 18:52:49 -0800 bruciegee http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11064/Preparing-your-first-child-for-baby-number-2/#946130 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11064/Preparing-your-first-child-for-baby-number-2/#946130 Tue, 27 Jan 2009 18:48:14 -0800 bruciegee Great story!!! ... and I'm SO glad I haven't been asked the "how long does it take?" one, (yet!)... well, not by my own kids, anyway. Thanks for the great encouragement for parents not to... Thanks for the great encouragement for parents not to...]]> http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11073/The-Talk/#946128 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11073/The-Talk/#946128 Tue, 27 Jan 2009 18:45:27 -0800 bruciegee Could be the MIL's questions are more about dealing with her own concerns/worries for your little chap?? If she does bring up the "religious objections' issue directly, you might even consider... If she does bring up the "religious objections' issue directly, you might even consider...]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/945680/religion/#946101 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/945680/religion/#946101 Tue, 27 Jan 2009 18:37:48 -0800 bruciegee Well done, D.A. (and friends!) Keep up the good work, and save us all having to just vote down and/or report the "advice". http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11072/Minti-Moolah-Scams/#945629 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11072/Minti-Moolah-Scams/#945629 Tue, 27 Jan 2009 04:10:48 -0800 bruciegee Yep... time to get out in the fresh air! http://www.minti.com/groups/74530/Aussie-dad-s-tool-shed/blog/936943/Its-gettin-a-little-stuffy-in-my-shed/#945508 http://www.minti.com/groups/74530/Aussie-dad-s-tool-shed/blog/936943/Its-gettin-a-little-stuffy-in-my-shed/#945508 Tue, 27 Jan 2009 01:46:18 -0800 bruciegee Timbo! I'm with you there, mate. There is not one thing WIMPY about being a dad, and engaging fully with our kids... in fact, lots of blokes have told me that they haven't done as good a job as... I'm with you there, mate. There is not one thing WIMPY about being a dad, and engaging fully with our kids... in fact, lots of blokes have told me that they haven't done as good a job as...]]> http://www.minti.com/groups/74530/Aussie-dad-s-tool-shed/blog/941170/Gday/#945497 http://www.minti.com/groups/74530/Aussie-dad-s-tool-shed/blog/941170/Gday/#945497 Tue, 27 Jan 2009 01:14:31 -0800 bruciegee 4th photo in the 4th folder ... me & the missus celebrating our 13 'lucky' years together, with the girls, at a local park (DD2 took the photo) http://www.minti.com/members/bruciegee/photos/63026/13th Wedding anniversary http://www.minti.com/members/bruciegee/photos/63026/13th Wedding anniversary Tue, 27 Jan 2009 01:01:26 -0800 bruciegee Thanks! http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10925/Disciplining-1-4-yr-olds--what-WORKS/#942378 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10925/Disciplining-1-4-yr-olds--what-WORKS/#942378 Fri, 23 Jan 2009 23:44:35 -0800 bruciegee Very good, practical suggestions and encouragement for those in this dilemna ... spoken by the voice of experience! Thanks for sharing your life and lessons, strength and struggles with the Minti... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11028/Being-the-Other-Parent-of-a-Child-of-an-Alcoholic-or-Addict/#941635 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11028/Being-the-Other-Parent-of-a-Child-of-an-Alcoholic-or-Addict/#941635 Fri, 23 Jan 2009 04:34:09 -0800 bruciegee http://www.minti.com/members/bruciegee/photos/62695/rainforest walk 2.JPG http://www.minti.com/members/bruciegee/photos/62695/rainforest walk 2.JPG Thu, 22 Jan 2009 21:13:47 -0800 bruciegee freeparentstuff.com.au http://www.minti.com/groups/45703/Bulletin-Board/blog/941036/This-could-be-of-interest-to-some/ http://www.minti.com/groups/45703/Bulletin-Board/blog/941036/This-could-be-of-interest-to-some/ Thu, 22 Jan 2009 16:59:29 -0800 bruciegee 21!  (before that, we should eat it ourselves!) http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/940914/how-old-should-a-child-be-before-we-can-give-them-chocolate/#941002 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/940914/how-old-should-a-child-be-before-we-can-give-them-chocolate/#941002 Thu, 22 Jan 2009 16:34:25 -0800 bruciegee http://www.minti.com/members/bruciegee/photos/62663/IMG_0333.jpg http://www.minti.com/members/bruciegee/photos/62663/IMG_0333.jpg Thu, 22 Jan 2009 16:29:20 -0800 bruciegee   The answer is yes and yes/no! Diagnosis will usually be by a paediatrician or child psychologist (gp's will refer the child), based on a range of different presenting symptoms... but the... The answer is yes and yes/no! Diagnosis will usually be by a paediatrician or child psychologist (gp's will refer the child), based on a range of different presenting symptoms... but the...]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/940798/how-is-adhd-diagnosed/#940945 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/940798/how-is-adhd-diagnosed/#940945 Thu, 22 Jan 2009 16:04:24 -0800 bruciegee Well researched and written, and very important advice! Thanks! http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11003/Sunsmart-Kids-/#939454 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11003/Sunsmart-Kids-/#939454 Thu, 22 Jan 2009 01:51:11 -0800 bruciegee BTW, Timbo... your suggestion here is definitely a very good one... ...but it's more of an invitation than "advice", so would probably be best posted on the Bulletin Board (see... ...but it's more of an invitation than "advice", so would probably be best posted on the Bulletin Board (see...]]> http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11001/Something-for-Dads/#939267 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11001/Something-for-Dads/#939267 Wed, 21 Jan 2009 21:57:52 -0800 bruciegee (I tried to get a group going, the "Aussie dads tool shed"... but we have been a bit light on for members so far -- just me carrying on a conversation with myself in the shed, in... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11001/Something-for-Dads/#939255 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11001/Something-for-Dads/#939255 Wed, 21 Jan 2009 21:04:18 -0800 bruciegee Welcome to Minti, Timbo! Yeah... more stuff from a dad's perspective sounds like a good thing to me! Yeah... more stuff from a dad's perspective sounds like a good thing to me!]]> http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11001/Something-for-Dads/#939253 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/11001/Something-for-Dads/#939253 Wed, 21 Jan 2009 20:58:10 -0800 bruciegee Thanks for the reminder that dealing with it calmly makes the difference between a positive training scenario and a total waste of time and effort (or even unhelpful abuse!) just imagine! ... a... just imagine! ... a...]]> http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10925/Disciplining-1-4-yr-olds--what-WORKS/#939228 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10925/Disciplining-1-4-yr-olds--what-WORKS/#939228 Wed, 21 Jan 2009 19:55:52 -0800 bruciegee Dika, ... you might even consider printing out this advice, and putting it on his computer desk... or emailing a link to him? just a thought! All the best! All the best!]]> http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10984/Balancing-Work-Kids--Wife-/#939151 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10984/Balancing-Work-Kids--Wife-/#939151 Wed, 21 Jan 2009 18:30:01 -0800 bruciegee  What a great new chapter to a story that was losing the plot!! 'Thanks for the VITAL reminder, particularly to dads... but also to mums!... to keep focused on what is REALLY important to us.... 'Thanks for the VITAL reminder, particularly to dads... but also to mums!... to keep focused on what is REALLY important to us....]]> http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10984/Balancing-Work-Kids--Wife-/#939146 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10984/Balancing-Work-Kids--Wife-/#939146 Wed, 21 Jan 2009 18:25:38 -0800 bruciegee I agree... teaching the little ones some signing is a very positve step... and saves on a lot of frustration. It is empowering and affirming for our intelligent little 'pre-verbal' kids to know they... It is empowering and affirming for our intelligent little 'pre-verbal' kids to know they...]]> http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10988/A-lesson-in-sign-language/#939134 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10988/A-lesson-in-sign-language/#939134 Wed, 21 Jan 2009 18:12:50 -0800 bruciegee Good reminder to be smart with our children's play and safety issues... along with the good advice to still let kids explore and learn through play! http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10997/Playground-Safety-A-True-Story-of-a-Playground-Accident/#939122 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10997/Playground-Safety-A-True-Story-of-a-Playground-Accident/#939122 Wed, 21 Jan 2009 17:58:16 -0800 bruciegee Really good advice! Thanks! http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10990/Ever-Wanted-to-Crawl-into-a-Corner-and-Cry-with-Frustration/#938654 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10990/Ever-Wanted-to-Crawl-into-a-Corner-and-Cry-with-Frustration/#938654 Wed, 21 Jan 2009 05:40:26 -0800 bruciegee Well done, proud mum!! There are so many kind, helpful people on Minti... many who've been thru' the mill themselves in all kinds of ways. You're right to take time to think it through and work out... There are so many kind, helpful people on Minti... many who've been thru' the mill themselves in all kinds of ways. You're right to take time to think it through and work out...]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/937603/re-i-dont-know-what-to-do/#937923 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/937603/re-i-dont-know-what-to-do/#937923 Tue, 20 Jan 2009 18:24:22 -0800 bruciegee http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10925/Disciplining-1-4-yr-olds--what-WORKS/#937844 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10925/Disciplining-1-4-yr-olds--what-WORKS/#937844 Tue, 20 Jan 2009 17:16:46 -0800 bruciegee You said it, Janice... exposure to different ideas, for dealing with different kids (in different situations) is SO helpful ... particularly when we learn from the essence and principles behind what... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10925/Disciplining-1-4-yr-olds--what-WORKS/#937842 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10925/Disciplining-1-4-yr-olds--what-WORKS/#937842 Tue, 20 Jan 2009 17:15:39 -0800 bruciegee I agree... and like how u express it! Love WILL discipline and set limits, to provide safety, security and a strong sense of self... and I've had a few parents wanting to surrender their teens and... Love WILL discipline and set limits, to provide safety, security and a strong sense of self...
and I've had a few parents wanting to surrender their teens and...]]> http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10925/Disciplining-1-4-yr-olds--what-WORKS/#937834 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10925/Disciplining-1-4-yr-olds--what-WORKS/#937834 Tue, 20 Jan 2009 17:12:54 -0800 bruciegee Thanks, Tadpole, for the compliments and extra suggestion! ... better ask my kids if I'm a 'wonderdad', tho'? ... better ask my kids if I'm a 'wonderdad', tho'?]]> http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10925/Disciplining-1-4-yr-olds--what-WORKS/#937827 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10925/Disciplining-1-4-yr-olds--what-WORKS/#937827 Tue, 20 Jan 2009 17:07:55 -0800 bruciegee Thanks, Tanya!... BTW, another member was asking about this program in the Q& A section very recently... they would really appreciate your perspective, if you haven't already seen and commented... BTW, another member was asking about this program in the Q& A section very recently... they would really appreciate your perspective, if you haven't already seen and commented...]]> http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10925/Disciplining-1-4-yr-olds--what-WORKS/#937825 http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10925/Disciplining-1-4-yr-olds--what-WORKS/#937825 Tue, 20 Jan 2009 17:05:19 -0800 bruciegee Ditto! ... sounds right on track to me! http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/937318/is-my-sons-language-development-on-target-for-a-boy-almost-15-months-old/#937359 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/937318/is-my-sons-language-development-on-target-for-a-boy-almost-15-months-old/#937359 Tue, 20 Jan 2009 05:31:36 -0800