Well John and Tiana are home that is a positive mate I missed them sooo much 2 weeks seems forever sometimes....... BUT when they get home they are soo full of all the rubbish they have put in their heads.....Their male parent cause right now I am not in the mood to call him their dad said some really stupid stuff to them...... Geez it annoys me soooo much apart from the fact he told them I am a disgusting excuse of a parent......he told them if he takes me to court  they will be living with him because he is their dad...Doesn't this man realize that any male can be a father but it takes somethin to be a dad.......and if i am such a bad parent to his kids isn't he lucky that a bad parent like me encouraged the contact between him and his children again after him having no contact with them for 3 years isn't he lucky that someone cared so much about his children that they loved them enough to fight for them to have a normal life....instead of walking away like he did...... the kids love him he is their father but they do not want to live with him why can he not take that even when his kids tell him he says this is not about you I am your father and I have rights is what he tells them.... He talks to them about stuff he shouldn't even discuss in their earshot let alone to their faces...... man that man needs to do some serious parenting course or get on Minti himself........He told them that they would not get a good education here because I did not believe it was important......WHAT..... out of my husband me and his girlfriend and him I am the only one who has a grade 12 education...... I went back to school and did grade 12 by correspodence with a baby it was that important to me.....sheesh where does this man get offf.....He then went on to tell them if they lived with him they would not be allowed to have a messenger because it is dangerous....and totally irresponsible of me to allow them on the computer........I moniter it all does he think I am stupid........ he then said tiana would not have a boyfriend either......what an ohh I have a boyfriend is too much from his 12 year old daughter at least she is comfortable enough to tell me and giggle as she says it that she does have a boyfriend...... Then he gives John the sex talk and John tells me a few things that happens to the womans body when aroused argggghhhhh.......well I talk to my kids alot about sex as I feel reach the age they are ready to know  it but to tell them some of things he told John mate even my husband was shocked and embarrased...... This man is really delusional when it comes to the kids.....he thinks walking back into their lives that he deserves respect from them the way he wants it becasue he donated the sperm...... well too bad I would never say it to the kids but have said it to him before He screwed up he walked away he told them he could not get custody of them because it was not convenient for him at the time we went for it but now he wants to walk in and play parent all of a sudden well it doesn't always work...... and the worst thing he could ever do is run me down to those kids...... The kids are soooo close to me that John asked me if he could call me mum at the end of last year......I love them like my own and they too love me like theri own.....I just hate it when they go away and are sooo upset about so much it rips me apart but as I said before in my advise this is one of the reasons why we do not sugar coat any more hey because in the end they will find out........