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Labour- It was worse then i thought

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Well a few poeple have been wondering how my labour went so i thought i would share. It isnt a pleasent story but ill still share.

I thought with bad pains for almost 6weeks i would have had a smoother labour but it didnt turn out that way.

Ill start from wednesday 16th July 2008. I was having mild contractions roughly 4-5 minutes apart. I had an appointment with the widwife at 2.30pm and were planning a day to be induced. I rang the hospital and told them about the contractions and they told me to hold off at home till my appoinment if i can. I decided to tough it out and wait till 2.30pm. I went in and i was hooked up to monitors and they could clearly see i was having good strong contractions between 2-5minutes. They gave me an internal examination and was only 1cm dialated. They dont admit patients unless your waters break or if your 3cms dialted with regular contractions so i was sent home with panadiene.

That whole night and thursday i was still ahving the contractions and they were staying between 2-5minutes apart and were slowly getting stronger.

On Friday i woke up in bad pain, i had a shower and seen my plug come out. I rang the hospital and was told i could come in or wait it out but they will definetly be seeing me that night. I went to my mums and hung out there till i couldnt handle it anymore. I was badly constipated, i hadnt been to the toilet in 2days :(       We went and got KFC for dinner and we also went and got prune juice to see if that would help me out.

All this time the contarctions were getting stronger anf by 11pm i couldnt take it anymore. I rang the hospital and let them know iw as ocming in and off we went.

When i got there i was put in my room and put on machines, baby was fine, i was fine and contarctions were nice and strong at an even 3minutes apart. I had an enternal and it was so painful, i was 3cms at 12.30am 19th July. I had my iv put in for the penecillan due to having strep b. The 1st drip failed but the 2nd got in thank god.

Time was passing by and i was in loads of pain. At 2am i had a small dose of pethadine, it just made my leg sore and made me tired, it did not dull the pain at all :(    So here i was already in pain with a really sore thigh.

I then got in the shower on the birthing ball but that didnt help either. I went bak in the bed and my drip fell out and blood started squirting everywhere, so i had my 3rd drip put in, in my other hand. I tried the gas, once again it did nothing besides make me feel sick so i through it to the ground!!

Nows the hard part because i dont remember much cos time just flew. I was getting contarctions so cose that iw uld only get 5second breathers in between. I remember crying and asking the midwife if i could please ahve a 10minute break ahahahaha... At this time i had mum rubbing one side of my back and goran the other side, who by the way was shitting his pants!!!!

Then i yelled, "i need to push" the midwife said no i dont think so lets go to the toilet to see if you need to poo. I told her i didnt, it was the baby, but she insisted it wasnt and to go toilet. So there i was on the toilet and i told her i have to push so she said ok push..   I started squeeling!!   I went bak on the bed and she put the monitor bak on mmy bellya dn seen no heart beat for bubs. She put an electrode on hishead and still no heart beat.

All thsi time i was screaming and panicking and she told me to get on my side, next minute 5other doctors came in. An oxygen mask was put on me and my legs up in stirrups. My mum said i was trying to cover myself up but i dont remember. I was told to push, so i tried pushing nad nothing, then all the doctors starting going nuts and i was given an episiotomy so they could get the vaccum in, i dont remmebr it tho thank god. They tried to get him out with the vaccum once but he slipped back so they had to cut me again :(  They got him out the second time and the cord was wrapped around his neck 3times. Ashton was out at 7.35 am 19th July 2008.

It took 1minute to get bubs to breathe, and then i  had a quick hold and he was taken to Special care, and goran went with him and mum stayed with me. Then they got mum to leave so they could stitch me up, it took like 45minutes.

Well ill write about my hospital stay tomorrow, its nealry 12am an dim dead tired lol, my luck ill get to sleep and bubs will wake up hahaha, but thats ok. Im really enjoying being a mum. For a person who loves her sleep, i dont miss it at all. Today i was rubbign my bellya nd realised i feel no more kicking, it upset me so iw ent out to ashton and started crying. I was crying because im so happy he is finally here and he may not be in my belly but i can hold him and watch him and do evrything for him now. Hahahaha, im crying now, im just so happy its all over and i have my baby boy, i love him so much

Ok bed time, hope id idnt sicken anyone with my birth story lol, and to top it off my hospital stay was crap as and my stitches hurt and my boobs are huge and dont stop lekaing, my tops are always saturated :( but good thing is my body is nearly back to normal YAY!!!

Dannii xxo

 

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HarrisonsMommy
July 28th | HarrisonsMommy
Re: Labour- It was worse then i thought

Wow, Dannii, you will forget all the bad stuff and remember the good.  It is mother natures way of ensuring the human race continues, cuz if we remembered all the bad stuff, we would never do it again!



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toosh
July 24th | toosh
Re: Labour- It was worse then i thought

wow you did have a rough time...brings back memories - although thank god I didn't have to have an episiotomy to get the vacuum in! So glad you are enjoying being a mum so much - I knew you would!

Teshia xxoo



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Arna
July 24th | Arna
Re: Labour- It was worse then i thought

Gosh hun, you really had a bad time there didn't you?  I wish I could've been there in the earlier stages to help you out, but we are at opposite ends of the country.

At least your little man is here now, though still need to have words with him about making us all stress like that and for passing on that habit to Puggle!  lol.

You rest up as much as you can and enjoy your little bundle.



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janicepovey
July 24th | janicepovey
Re: Labour- It was worse then i thought

 Sweetie sorry to hear that you had such a bad time, with labour.....but i'm sure you only have to look at your beautiful son and smell that beautiful baby smell and know that it was all totally worth  while.

Love Janice xxxx



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jmrtmumstheword
July 24th | jmrtmumstheword
Re: Labour- It was worse then i thought

wow i bet life feels very different for you now, it is amazing how we go through our first pregnancy and not knowing what is expected of us or what our bodies may endure but hun you truly are a brave girl and that will rub off on your son too which is a good thing

but i must say us women can do some pretty unimaginable things when we are backed into a corner, thats not a bad thing i mean your body pretty much told you what to do and you did it very well for someone who was put in a very scary situation

i wish you all the best hun and try and rest as much as possible ok

take care and congrats

Nikki xx



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cazza
July 24th | cazza
Re: Labour- It was worse then i thought

Hi danni

you sure did have a rough time as did ashton to come in the world, and i am happy all is well for you both now..

Its alright to cry and feel emotional, you have being through  heaps...

Gorgeous boy he is ..

xx cazza



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kseers
July 24th | kseers
Re: Labour- It was worse then i thought

Wow, Dannii - how scary for you!  I just wrote a piece of advice on tearing/stitches, but it sounds like you have them pretty bad!  Poor thing!  I'm just glad he's ok and you are too - though you must be sore and tired.   Do they know how/why his heart stopped, was it the cord?

I remember particularly after my 2nd was born actually feeling a bit of loss or grief over not having her in my tummy any more - it's a lovely feeling but it is even more special to have them out.  Congratulations!



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ajv00
July 23rd | ajv00
Re: Labour- It was worse then i thought

Wow, Danii, what a trying time for you.   Glad it all turned out ok.  I reckon labour is not all that it is cracked up to be.   Well he is one hell of a gorgeous man!

The love that you have for your child is out of this world.  Who thought you could love another person as much as your baby?

Take care, hope your getting some rest - Angie



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ellosunshine
July 23rd | ellosunshine
Re: Labour- It was worse then i thought

Hey Dannii

Was thinking about you and how it went. I am so happy you and Ashton are home safe. Got me worried when you said there was no heatbeat and the cord was wrapped around his neck, that would of been so scary. The pics of Ashton are so adorable I am glad you are crying with happiness and not with PND. Being a mum is the best thing ever

I totally feel for you with those stitches. They are so painful having them and trying to do simple things like shower and go to the toilet. I am hoping if i get to have a baby number 3, that i will be stitch free... lol...

Take care

Jo xxx



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Domestic-warrior
July 23rd | Domestic-warrior
Re: Labour- It was worse then i thought

Ah Dannii, it's different eh?  Some births are easy and some are hard and i've had one of each..well two hard and one easy.....but in the end you have your little guy, Ashton, and he is ok and you are ok to.

The bad memories will fade, i also couldn't remember a lot of my son's birth, not until my second child when the midwife was reading the notes back to me did i really know what happened and i was shocked....crazy eh?

I was also going to mention maybe you could talk to the health nurse or midwife about the events to get it straight in your head.  After being in hospital i had a midwife come to my home and she was actually present at the birth and asked if i wanted to go through what happened.  I think she did this because she freaked out when a problem occurred and she frightened me, but it might help you to get some questions answered if you have anything lingering.  Don't be afraid to ask.

Well done dannii.....

Julie x



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missnickley
July 23rd | missnickley
Re: Labour- It was worse then i thought

Oh Danni that is so scary reading that there was no heartbeat, luckily I had already seen pics of him so I knew it ended ok but I was still getting a little teary just reliving it with you.
He is so beautiful and you are fantastic!



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Juzzy
July 23rd | Juzzy
Re: Labour- It was worse then i thought

Oh Dannii,

You poor thing. I bet you think it was all worth it now that you have your little boy. How scary for you when they couldn't find Ashton's heart beat. The same thing happened to me and i ended up with an emergancy c-section. I am so glad that didn't happen to you and your little boy is fine. How big was he? He looks tiny in the photos.

Take care and i look forward to hearing more about your very cute little bub

Juzzy xoxox



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mum2four
July 23rd | mum2four
Re: Labour- It was worse then i thought

Hi Danni there is no dygnaty in childbirth but it is a wonderful thing too,but you will forget the pain and remember the joy,altho very scary i know.I had a long and painful labor with my first andhe was 8lb10oz born, had many pains with my last 2.But we go back and I am sure when the time is right you will too.

                                                   Take care Cham



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mumof2b
July 23rd | mumof2b
Re: Labour- It was worse then i thought

Oh sweetie, not a nice experience at all but your boy is well worth it and you'll have so many good memories to make up for it. I'm so glad you and Ashton are okay.

Amanda xxxx



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Rukia
July 23rd | Rukia
Re: Labour- It was worse then i thought

Sounds so similar to Alex's birth. They were ready to take him to KEMH. But thankfully he was ok.

Make sure you sit in salt baths everyday if you havent already been told and not to walk much till they have healed over. I tore really bad with Alex. All they way up too, was very painful. Cause you aint feeding you can take anything for it. Lucky. LOL

Have fun.



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KatieUK
July 23rd | KatieUK
Re: Labour- It was worse then i thought

 Wow honey. I'm impressed you and Ashton got through that!! You brought tears to my eyes, but I'm so glad you're both at home and happy. Take care and enjoy him x



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emmie
July 23rd | emmie
Re: Labour- It was worse then i thought

awww honey im so sorry yu didnt havwe the birth you was expecting and what a big scare you hsad . Reading ths put tears in my eyes but happy ones to see you being so haopppy didnt i tell u it wouldall be worth it in the end enjoy your perfect little boy. xxx



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smashie
July 23rd | smashie
Re: Labour- It was worse then i thought

ohh dannii its grat you love him so much and the tears and moods are also to do with the baby blues they will pass as will the bad memories.



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superpo
July 23rd | superpo
Re: Labour- It was worse then i thought

I'm glad you made it through it, and it does make it all worth it to finally have your baby with you, doesn't it? I had a rather bad experience the second time around; ended up having a c-section and  they thought there was something wrong with his lungs so swept him off to who knows where to check him out. I didn't get to see him for an hour or something after he was born, and it felt like an eternity! It's awful, isn't it? I just wanted to see my baby! At least I finally got to, and he's certainly fine now!

I'm so glad both you and Ashton came out of it okay and you get to enjoy being a mom now. He is a beautiful baby. I think it's an extremely emotional experience even if everything goes perfectly, so I can understand you crying from happiness! There's nothing like becoming a mom!



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nell18-3
July 23rd | nell18-3
Re: Labour- It was worse then i thought

I had a labour like this and its definitely not pleasant at all so i really feel for you

make sure that you relax and something I used to do when I was sore after all my stitches was to sit in a salt bath, sounds terrible and painful but it actually is the complete opposite, the salt seems to make all the stinging pain disappear, it also helps with the itching embarrassment there as you heal.

I used to use ordinary table salt and just pour it into the bath, its honestly worth a try

xxx

 



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BrightonBelle
July 23rd | BrightonBelle
Re: Labour- It was worse then i thought

(((HUGS))) This sounds very much like my labour with Amy only I refused to be cut and tore anyway (some things are just gods way!) I too had to have an electrode attached and then a ventouse and remember the awful pain but here I am doing it all again, I believe that seeing your little one develope and grow helps to block out some of the memories and pain and before you know it you will be longing to do it again (I know thats hard to believe right now, but its true)

I hope your recovery is short and that you get to fully enjoy being a mama, I do missed being pregnant but now you have the most beautiful baby to sit and stare at!

Take care

Clare xxx



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alishas-mummy
July 23rd | alishas-mummy
Re: Labour- It was worse then i thought

Aww poor you, Dannii..
I'm so glad that Ashton is out now.. what a scary experience for you :( *big hugs*

But I must say..
I loved your last paragraph..
You almost made me cry !!!!! LOL
It's great that you love being a mum...
You're right, even with the sleepless nights, you can't help but love your child so much :)

Oh, maybe you should get some breast pads, so they don't leak onto your tops ? :)
Even if you're not breastfeeding, you can still put the pads in, i reckon, so you're not getting wet all the time :)

Lol have you lost your baby weight already ? How lucky !!!!! LOL
Oh, and I hope your stitches feel better soon :)

Love Thuy xox



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      alishas-mummy
July 23rd | alishas-mummy
Re: Labour- It was worse then i thought

And I also wanted to add..

You have a lot of courage sharing your story..
I know it must not have been easy for you..
So thank you :)

Hope you're resting up..
And enjoying that cute adorable son of yours :) hehe

xox



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           dannii17
July 23rd | dannii17
Re: Labour- It was worse then i thought

Hey Thuy,

Yeah it was hard to write cos i dont like thinking about it but its all good now and he is here and healthy and happy so im happy. I do use breast pads, ive been using them since 32 weeks lol, they just soak through within an hour, i have a big milk supply and its only the start :(   I hope my body clicks soon that im not using the milk.

I really do love being a mum, i knew i would but not this much. I thought id be nervous and stuff but im not, im really getting teh hand of things.

Ok i really have to go to bed, thinking about it, ishould jsut wait till ashtons next feed.

Dannii xxo



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                ellamia
July 23rd | ellamia
Re: Labour- It was worse then i thought

Hey Danni

It must of been tuff writing this your a brave woman. And yes your body will adapt to the milk supply soon just hang in there around 3 months it all has it all worked out. Remember the first 6 weeks are the worst. :) We all here for you



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                     dannii17
July 23rd | dannii17
Re: Labour- It was worse then i thought

Yep it brought it all back and made me cryw hen writing this, and now im crying again hahahaha.. It was just so painful and then to be told he wasnt breathing killed me and when i looked ta my mums face and gorans face i was too scared to look over at Ashton, but when i heard him cry all the pain went away and i couldnt wait to get over to special care to see him.

3 months of sore leaky boobs!!! This is gonna be horrible.



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                          ellamia
July 23rd | ellamia
Re: Labour- It was worse then i thought

Your not breast feeding hey? your bottle feeding. Want some help and quick help? Try cabbage leaves and express only just a little our of each breast when u really need it. It will evently go away. Had to do this with both mine as Ella went of boob as i fell preggas and mia well she was too thin. you can also buy a product to stop the breast milk.



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                               dannii17
July 23rd | dannii17
Re: Labour- It was worse then i thought

The nurse from the hospital cam eover today and she said to have a warm shower and massage them to get some of the milk out, but i htought that would just stimulate thema nd make more milk. Miight have to think about buying something to stop it cos its bad, and i change the pads every 1hr and on one side have to wear 2pads lol



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ellamia
July 23rd | ellamia
Re: Labour- It was worse then i thought

Awww you poor thing . The main thing you are all here and all ok. :) Bright side from now on in hey

Love Kell.

Hopefully you will overcome this experience.



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      dannii17
July 23rd | dannii17
Re: Labour- It was worse then i thought

Hey Kell,

Yep thats the main thing that we ok now. It was a hard and painful experience but i enjoyed it because my little man is here with now.

I know everyone says they wont have anymore kids but i really dont think iwill, i cry when i think about the hospital, it really has traumatised me.

Well lets hope i can forget about the bad things.

Dannii xxo



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           ellamia
July 23rd | ellamia
Re: Labour- It was worse then i thought

No no shes right just longs if your doing it when its getting bad. If your not getting out that much it eventually dwiddles away. I had to do the shower thing aswell omg it helped so much even with breastfeeding just to realease it was fantastic :) LOL



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