Good move Jo, a new start for a new you. Guilt, hun dont go there, remember he knows the buttons to push, and your status as a fantastic Mum, is the only way he now knows to demean you. All attacks on you only reflect his pathetic sense of himself. All this is his doing, his choice and his actions no less. Each stab at you shows how intimidated he feels at your ability to be strong, independant and capable of not needing him.  We all need a little space from our kids, to recharge and keep in touch with ourselves, this benefits our children, as happy Mum makes for happy children. So you keep that Sun shining on you and be true to you, no guilts. I so agree also, with Maria, keep records and record the fool, let him hang himself out to dry, he has shown he is capable of utter stupidity.

Luv,Winnie.xxxx

Hey,this is perfect! New start on Valentines Day! Time to love yourself! You are starting to see little silly x for what he is and you are so right!!! Time to build a new and better life!! Good for you! The really hard stuff is almost over,getting that negative little silly x out of your life and most importantly out of your mind!  I love Maria's idea to record,you can bet him at every turn,just stay ahead of him so he can do no more harm.

Hi Jo, you know that as mums we are our own worst critics so stop being so hard on yourself write down a list of all the things you have done for your kids and pin it up on the fridge or somewhere where you can see it every day to remind yourself what a great mum you are.  He has totally destroyed what little confidence you have in yourself so you need to find it again.  And mums need 'me' time to carry on being good mums otherwise you will be a very cranky mum and that's not good for the kids, so don't feel guilty.  And it is none of his business what you blog about, we are all entitled to our own personal space where we can say or do what we like without the need to feel we are being judged.  He just needs your blogs so he can play his mind games and in future if he starts on you on the phone tell him you will put the phone down, men like him need attention and if you take that away you take away their power.  My x used to get very abusive on the phone so we installed an answering machine which recorded anything he said so we could take it to the police he soon stopped ringing. 

Just be yourself Jo and we all love you just the same xxxxxxxxx

You are doing a great job, and you know that.  Stuff him, he lost control of you and is trying to get it back.  Just don't play his games and have that 'me time', you need it.

This is the best way to Go and then he wont have no ammuntion to get at you...

Hope all works out for u, and remember we all believe in you...

xxx vazza

Good one Sweet, at least you can have an outlet this way, which you need and you know my thoughts on that thing the X. I only wish you & your children the very best and it is time for some happiness for you all.

Your not a bad mother at all, you know that and don't let him tell you otherwise....and everyone needs some my time Keep your chin up sweetie.

Hugs Janice.

Hey Hun

For starters - you are not a bad mum! You are a great mum!

Dont let him get you down, you are a wonderful caring person and you dont deserve what he is putting you thru! And if writing in your lounge is the only way to get away from him, then good, keep on doing it! It is frustrating him more than anything else not being able to spy on you!

I hope you have a great weekend!! xox