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Please excuse my past blogs if it doesnt make sense if your new to reading, but if you have read it, you know what i mean. Major editing as advised by the police as a particular person lets call "X" thinks "X" is all that by "X" continually harrasing us, including getting "X" father to call us trying to scare us... ooooooo  im shivering... Sounds like "X" is the one who is scared that people could find out who "X" is cause of "X" reputation. Oh well "X" i hope your happy like you make out you are and out of our life....

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Well besides "X" trying to ruin it... we did have a fabulous family weekend!!!

The sun finally came out after almost 2 weeks of rain throughout the school holidays and it was nice for the last weekend of the holidays to have the sun out. We decided to take the kids and my son's best friend to the Jungle Bungle. Its an indoor play area wear you can climb through tunnels and go down slides etc... a great place to let the kids burn off energy while you sit at the cafe and have a coffee Unfortunately when we got there, the place was full as you can only have a certain number of children playing at a time and there seemed to be 2 birthday parties booked So our second alternative was to go to the Pet Porpoise Pool The kids enjoyed seeing the dolphins and seals performed and looking through the underwater marine viewing pool. They even got a chance to feed the huge seal and play ball with the dolphins in the pool and quite enjoyed there ice-cream snack before lunch. It really amazes me how kids can get so messy eating an ice-cream LOL...

We decided to have a pizza lunch at the park... only costed us $6.95 to feed the 5 of us which was pretty good. The kids didnt seemed that tired yet so we let them run around chasing the seagulls and playing on the playground. By late afternoon when we dropped off our son's friend back home, they were still chatting away not showing any signs of tiredness... haha... but we parents were

Sunday we went to my parents place for lunch. Its been quite a while since my husband actually saw them. I sensed he did feel a bit uncomfortable being there, as well as my parents but once my dad started talking to him like normal/before everything seemed fine. I was actually quite surprise my dad made an effort to get along with him again. Especially how Sander has treated me and the children and when he read the email Sander sent to me telling my family and friends "to F*** off as its none of there business" at that time the kids and i lived under my parents roof as we had no where to go, we had nothing and my dad was so pissed off with Sander how he treated his family like that. I still remember the words my dad said " What did i ever do to Sander? All I did was help him out and he treats us like this. He is not welcome here anymore". I have never seen my dad so hurt and angry like that. I am just glad that he seems to be accepting him again and trying to get along.

Well the rest of the afternoon was quite lazy for us, we did plan on going to the beach but it seemed a bit too hot and Lealiki needed a nap. I went and layed down with her but ended up falling asleep too... LOL... If it wasnt for my husband to wake me up because he needed help with a playstation game level, I would of still been asleep By the time Lealiki woke up, we decided to have a nice walk along the V-Wall instead. The V-Wall is a path next to the ocean and entrance of the river. It has a lot of rocks along the path where tourist or locals would paint and leave there mark or fish. Its very interesting to see who and where people are from. You can see people from all over Australia and the World has been there leaving there mark.

Almost 7 1/2 years ago, Sander and I left our mark there. We still see the rock and surprisingly there is still a touch of colour and outline where we painted but it is very very faded and almost washed away. We plan on repainting the rock or a new rock with the kids

Well that was our fabulous weekend we had. Hopefully the start of many new memories to come!

FIRST OF ALL... I JUST WANT TO LET EVERYONE KNOW WHO COMES ACROSS MY PAGE, THAT WHAT I WRITE IN MY BLOGS IS MY PERSONAL JOURNEY OF MY LIFE, THE GOOD AND THE BAD. I HAVE THE RIGHT TO WRITE DOWN ANY TEXT, EMAIL OR CHAT MESSAGES THAT WERE SENT TO ME AND I WANT TO SHARE OUT.

WHAT I WRITE IS THE TRUTH AND IF I HAPPEN TO MENTION YOU ITS BECAUSE YOU WERE INVOLVED IN MY LIFE BY SOMEWAY AND I AM NOT PUTTING IT DOWN AS SLANDER... I APOLOGISE IN ADVANCE IF YOU TAKE THINGS THE WRONG WAY BUT IM TALKING ABOUT MY LIFE AND WHAT HAS HAPPENED AND VENTING OUT MY EMOTIONS... WHETHER THEY BE HAPPY, SAD OR MAD...

NOW "X" has come across my page. THANK YOU FOR THE TEXT MESSAGES and PHONE CALLS, I WILL TAKE THAT IN CONSIDERATION... I know your not happy with what i write as things arent going your way... Now there are millions of "X" out there but YOU know who you are as YOU were the one who slept with him. People dont know who you are unless you tell them. But knowing now that you are STILL looking up on my blog shows that you have not moved on like you say...

TEXT MESSAGES SENT ON 26th April 2008

To gutless as i expected look i really dnt give a fark bout either of ive moved on n hope u can do the same simple im not ganna get mad i will just get even n my life has never been better grow up joanne move on n get your pothetic attempt of hurt off the net i will onlY rembr our mad sex!! thnx sander

Soo some things never change just thnk bout all those things u said bout joanne n her family n then told me n my family sander!! b sure to keep ya eye open 4 your names on the net

For the HURT YOU AND MY HUSBAND PUT ME THROUGH, yeah i admit i feel INSECURE at times but WHO WOULDNT, i am slowly moving on, we were enjoying a nice family outing when you started calling to harrass us... and i do believe TRUE LOVE does conquer all... Its good to know my husband is good in bed, it seems like he was the BEST you ever had AND NOW you dont have him... LMAO...

EVERYONE You CAN LOVE ME OR HATE ME its your choice if you want me in your life.

P.S. If ANYONE out there find anything about me or my family, please minti mail me as i love to see what is said and laugh about it

I havent written for almost 2 weeks and i thought i better write as alot of friends are wondering how i am doing and thank you for those who drop by my lounge

Well as i said "so far so good". Yes it has been a very emotional time and again i have experienced sadness, dissappointment, anger, happiness, hope but in the end things are changing and are working out in a positive way. My husband is being more open to me and we are learning to communicate again. The kids and i have been spending time down here with him for the school holidays.

It was hard at first for me for the first couple of days as i felt this isnt my home cause i just feel "X" pressence is still lingering around and the thought of "X" living here puts me off. So what i did was a total clean up of the house... ... and put it back to how 'i want it'... I can really see how my husband hasnt really been taking care of himself as the house is untidy (and he complained to me before how i never cleaned up) and there was alot of paperwork lying around which i went through. It made me really angry to find out there were forms there that i needed him to sign etc... which he claimed he never received such as the problem with the phone transfer we had. Also i learnt that his mother did send him almost $17000 in January to pay off some debts which i asked her to help him out with but i never heard from her if or when she was going to do that and he never bothered to tell me. How he handled that money really dissappointed me cause most of it seemed to of been wasted on his spending habits for himself and "X" which i found out that he gave "X" $500 to fix "X" car and he complained he had no money to me. If i knew he had that money i would of made sure it was put in good use, such as completely wiping out the credit card debts (which he sort of did but now is up again cause of his spending habits), used it to finally pay off his phone bill debt i had to pay for Oct-Dec and also whatever left over onto the joint personal loan im paying off.

As for "X". Im sorry if i offend anyone but i really dispise this immature little muffin, especially "X" knew that my husband is clinically depress, and he is married but "X" still digged "X" claws into him with false hope "X" will live a happy life with him. I warned "X"  was not capable of his problems but "X" was naive, especially for a 21 year old... oops its "X" birthday today, for a 22 year old. I really pity "X" and i hope "X" is out of our lives for good. But i feel "X" isnt as yet, especially when i find things out such as "X" being a pain into just telling my husband if "X" had the abortion or not and threatening to send down "X" family to pay us a visit. Can people tell me how much it actually cost to have an abortion if you are between 12-14 weeks which "X" was? If "X" did keep the baby, I really feel sorry for it as "X" would of only did that to piss my husband off and not for the right reasons

Anyway, my husband is still seeing his personal pychiatrist which is good to know. He is really sorry for the mess he has caused and is seeking proper help. We've also had our 2nd session with our marriage councellor last weekend. It turned out good as i was finally able to admit to my husband what i've been doing to learn to trust him... lol... Yes the things i have been doing since i found out he was freakily friendly with me and to see if he was for real this time is out in the open. If your wondering what i have been doing is you can say 'snooping' which is wrong but this is the only way to find things out if he is for real or not. And the things i've found i have gotten answers from him and he knows his mistakes and is trying to change for the better. I was even surprised he wasnt that upset that ive been going into his email accounts

I really do feel he is for real as i have started to see the change in him. But there are still a few issues we need to work on with our marriage councellor but i have hope that these minor issues will be overcome as well. If you are wondering, we are not moving in together yet, we will still have our separate houses. As i have maintained we are taking things slow. And despite the stupid things i learned what my husband has did, in the end of the day i am feeling happy.

I was the one who posted this question and answer annonymously  www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/626316/confused-did-i-just-get-assulted/

I finally told my husband about this and he wants to take it to the police. The thing is i am scared on what happens next. I mean like i dont want to go in front of a court or something and talk about it. Do you know how they handle these things? Would they just put him on a register so they know he did this and is capable if it happens again and is worst?

Well yesterday i just kept getting alot of harrassing emails from "X"which "X" made me really mad and i did alot of questioning on my husband to hear his side and really i do feel "X" is just jealous that "X" is not getting "X" way. At the moment "X" is not getting "X" way as earlier in the year when my husband went back to "X" told me ""X" didnt care my husband slept with me cause "X" knew he would come back and "X" ALWAYS GETS what "X" wants" I can see how upset"X" is that my husband does not want "X" as he realise it was depression that did the things he did which i believe but "X" has no right to continually try and harrass us. "X"even said to me a few weeks ago when i found out it was over between them that "X" would back off if my husband and i got back together but it didnt seem that way when "X"started the emails the other day. I couldnt believe "X" sent me this email:

Date: Tues 8 April 2008 From "X" To: Joanne Subject: Re: the truth!

OMG.

lets see I'm not sure what u r looking at love but from th photos I seen of
u OMG!

im younger

im prettier

im skinnier

and wel,l obviously better then u in bed

ha ha ha ha lmao

Regards,
"X"

Well i sent this email to my husband and he told me it is all untrue. I have seen a photo of "X" and believe me, "X" looks like "X" is 35 not 21 and without sounding vain i am soooooooo much prettier than "X" and so do my family and some friends agree As for the bed thing my husband said "X" just lies there lie a doormat... hehe... sorry its not nice to say that... And for the photos "X" have seen of me, they were old photos where i have been overweight... "X" hasnt seen me now which i have lost alot of weight, almost 10kg since i separated.

Now "X" didnt like the reply i sent which i told "X" that "X" was very immature, especially sleeping around then having abortions and cant take it that "X" is not getting what "X" wants now and "X" sends this:

Date: Tues 8 April 2008 From: "X" To" Joanne Subject" Re: the truth!

WHATEVER

I'm serious farrrrk off

before I make a visit

Regards,
"X"

Doesnt that sound threatening. "X" also sent another to my husband and i saying to leave "X"alone or we will regret it. We are thinking OMG, "X" started it. We decided not to answer back anymore as we know "X" is just looking for fuel to light the fire.

One thing i do know is "X" isnt a very nice person at all. My husband told me "X"family are just like "X"and what i learnt about "X" family i just couldnt believe it that my husband was attracted to this muffin and let our children be near "X". I really do see this is a person he would not be near if he was thinking properly.

Anyway as i said i am not going to let "X" get to me and my happiness that i deserve. I really cant wait till "X" is out of our life for good when we hear "X" has had the abortion done next Monday.

I feel sorry for "X" in a way as "X" has totally stuffed up "X" life.

Well i was feeling happy but funny how im now feeling a bit pissed off (sorry for the language). I opened an email and this is the email i got:

Date: Mon 7 April 2008 From: "X" To: Joanne Subject: the truth!

Hi,

ask your husband the truth when we last slept together

u seriously would belive anything he tells you

Now "X" seems pissed off with "X" life and it didnt go as "X" 'planned'. Having played around "X" is getting another abortion which we dont know if it is actually happening till we see proof. Do they give you paper work if you get an abortion that states where, when, who it was done etc..? I want to see that paperwork, not just a payment receipt. My husband tells me "X" has moved to ............... on the weekend where "X" will have it done and is now working there as "X" got a 'transfer there'.

Do you think this girl is trying to cause problems between us? I really dont know who to trust at the moment.

AAAAARRRRGGGG IM JUST SO FRUSTRATED AT THE MOMENT

I am actually  starting to believe that things are brightening up for my marriage. My husband and i are taking things slow and we are getting on pretty well. We both have the same feelings we did when we first met and started to get to know each other. How we are now is so much different to how we felt when we tried to get back together in New Years. Its hard to explain but the feelings are actually there and we do feel them.

We had our marriage councellor appointment on the weekend. It turned out very helpful for both of us and my husband actually was serious when participating, unlike before. Its funny how the things i try to convey to my husband these last few months/years was simply put down in a diagram by our councellor which actually clicked to my husband. I guess that is why men are not really good communicators and are more 'visual' when learning.

Well at present we are learning to improve our relationship and make it stronger by starting with ourselves. My husband is going to try to be more open and talk more to me while i'll learning to be more trusting/less paranoid and kind of wait for my husband to be comfortable with me to talk to instead of me seemily questioning him.

I am very positive things will workout for us this time round

P.S.  I know this may sound stupid but i decided to give him the link to my new minti account after all the trouble i went to deleting my old account.  I really wanted him to read your replies from my blogs before.