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Spoke to the matron.....

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What a waste of time that was. Apparantly i never saw the foetus and neither did Barry because i miscarried on tthe toilet of course means ididnt see it WRONG. I told her i 100% saw it and so did my partner and i dont think this should be happening because i cant get it out my head i cant eat or sleep because of it. If i never saw it how can i describe it . As much as she was making excuses for the nurse she rekons i saw clots that is what was in the bottle . What a load of crap. So i kept my cool though it was hardbut i managed it . I said well i will be writting a written complaint she said it would go straight to her and she will basically discard it so i said fine answer to the papers and put the phone down BTW punishment for the nurse who has made thingsmuch more painful for us is to be told i am upset that i saw my foetus whixch shelater said was blood clots .

Im sorry but yes i am upset and i am heartbroekn and not seeing things properly BUT i dont mistake a foetus with a blood clot. Admitadly therewere blood clots in the bottom of the urine sample but it also contained the remains of our unborn baby and it wasnt only me she shown she showed barry when he arrived too . I know this is sick but a blood clot is not black and white and it was cured up like the way baby curls in your tummy so yesi  know it was definatly the foetus they can denie it all they like i wont back down.

So i rang the herald express our local newspaper and asked how i could go about them publishing a article for me ?? They put me through to the editor so i asked him he asked what it was about so i told him that ihad had a miscarriage tuesday and to have it confirmed the foetus was put on the table and i was then given it . He said he is more than happy to do it for me and he would get the reporter to ring me back. She did she was lovely she asked a few upsetting questions about what it looked like and how i felt etc. The time it happened what department etc i also told her about the nightmares and wanting to know what happened to it after at the end of it all she could say was omg how terribleim soo sorry i told you she was lovely lol . She said she will haveto throw the information  igave her to the hospital so they know i am serious and its a matter of waiting their reply but i have already spoke to them and all they arewilling to do is tell heri am upset but lets see if they still denie me seeing the foetus. Then once she hears backshe is going to get back to me. Also they have arranged for the photographers to come and take photos tomorrow at 6.30pm . Didnt really want it to come to this because i dont really want it to be local news but i will not be made a joke of and i wont be told a foetus is a bloodclot they can cover their asses as much as they like i know what i saw and barry knows what he saw so we will see.

Luv Emz xx

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Kellzacar
May 13th | Kellzacar
Re: Spoke to the matron.....

Hi honey,

I am still reeling at what you have been through . . The whole thing makes me sick to my stomach and still brings tears to my eyes . . I hope you get something from doing this article in the papers . .

Have you been in touch with your local support group for women whom have suffered miscarriage as they can not only help to counsel you BUT they can also help you to be heard more seriously by the hospital and its administrators . .

You are in my heart honey and as I have said before, I wish I was there to wrap my arms around you and hold you . .

HUGE HUGS Kellz xxx



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      emmie
May 13th | emmie
Re: Spoke to the matron.....

Hey Kellz,

Its disgusting isnt it?? Sure wont be going into hospital if i ever have another miscarriage i think i will just sit on the toilet. Seems to be getting a rocket up their ass alreaddy all of a sudden she iis happy for me to make a complaint. I did tell her i find it funny all of a sudden she is willing to help me now i have goneto the papers maybe the fax made her realise im serious aboput this and of course they need to make their servbice look good.

I got some councelling sorted today i get to see the GP councellor 5th june and in the meantime she did me a referral for miscarriage councelling so its just a matter of waiting now .

Luv Emz xxx



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MrsSanders
May 13th | MrsSanders
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Emmie check out PT, there is some info in there you really need to see, it may help.

Thinking of you, Luv Winnie.xxxx



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      emmie
May 13th | emmie
Re: Spoke to the matron.....

Oh my how did u know i was just there thats scary i came from there to here . Do go back and see what i have to say you know i think your amazing love you heaps . Shame your so many miles away .

Luv Emz xxx



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mumof2b
May 13th | mumof2b
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WOW Emz..........I'm so proud of you for following through with this, It can't be easy. But someone needs to stick it to these people and show them that they can't get away with treating you so badly.

Amanda xxxx



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      emmie
May 13th | emmie
Re: Spoke to the matron.....

Hey Amanda,

I cant say it is easy but i need to do it We know what we saw and we will fight to get it heard it breaks my heart to think somebody else could be going through exactly the same thing and its so wrong and just to be told  am upset is stupid and nowhere near enough.

Luv Emz xxx



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cathbusymum
May 13th | cathbusymum
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You are being brave to go to the paper. I hope this can help give you the closure you need. Don't forget about the counseling tho, I think thats important for you and Barry too. You do sound like you are getting a bit better.

Love and hugs, Cath xxx



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      emmie
May 13th | emmie
Re: Spoke to the matron.....

Hey Cath,

I have to i cant let this happen to somebody else . What if they arnt as strong as me and fall like a sack of crap . I want that woman dealt with they can cover their butts as much as they like we know thetruth. I saw the dr today and she has made me a appointment with the surgeries councillor for the 5th June in the meantime she has sent a referral . Ive told barry he should see a councillor toobut he isnt the slightest interested. I am i need to start being strong i need to keep my head above water for chloe she needs me  . Luv Emz xxx

Luv Emz xxx



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lonely28
May 13th | lonely28
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You go girl... nobody deserves to be treated like that especially you. The nerve of some people REALLY!!! Talk about covering their asses..... I hope that they get what's coming to 'em emmie. The hell you were going through was bad enough but then to have it compounded by what you saw..... UNBELIEVABLE!!!!! You take care of you and I hope that you get the result your looking for,

fi xoxo



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      emmie
May 13th | emmie
Re: Spoke to the matron.....

Hey Fi ,

Thats right nobosy deserveds to be treated like that and if i can stop it happening i will. Some people really think because your upset and hurting you see things differant i think not . They are covering their asses big time this is NOT something we would say happened when it never we both saw it and i have my dad for evidence if i need it he was with barry when he was given the specimen bottle. Hopefully it will all turn out well and that woman doesent deal with another miscarraige again just the thought of another woman being                putthroughthis sends shivers up my spine but we will see .

Luv Emz xxx



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Arna
May 13th | Arna
Re: Spoke to the matron.....

Oh sweetie, you got a fire burning there haven't you.  good strong passion, and there is nothing wrong with that.

Every blog of yours I read is sounding as though you are graudually getting there, and it was very brave of you to involve the media.  Still, can't have the stupid cow doing it to other ladies.

There is a big difference in clots and a fetus.  For starters, a fetus is less clotty looking and more elastic looking.  I'd like to see how this miserable cow would react if the same thing happened to her!  And I'd make sure you were her nurse too!

Kick up your stink and make sure that the world knows how you were treated!

You know we are here for you, and always will be.



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      emmie
May 13th | emmie
Re: Spoke to the matron.....

Hey Arna,

Oh yes i certainly do lol. But i wont stand for it im not going mad honest.

Yes i am getting there at last . God i have cried so much the last week i think im running out of tears. I had to i know what i saw and so does barry and barry says he saw skin too i didnt look at itt as closely as he did however barry is willing to tell them what it looked like to him. For them to toally denie it got me riled and the thougfht thast she could do it again tosomebody else and seems she works as a gynecological doc i dont think she desaerves that position for whhat she did .

Yes hun there is a huge differance i admit there were cllots at the bottom of the bottle bbut the rest of it was the foetus they can say what they like to cover their asses we know what we saw we arnt stupid. To be honest i would love to have her as my patient it would be pay back when she is cryingand shaking i will reassure her thast its ONLY a miscarriage see how she feels see how she feels with the boot on the other foot .

How rude is that i wasnt finnished. They brought this on theirselfs it could have been resolved without them getting looked on by the community now the whole of torbay will know exactly how sick they are and what they have put us through . Iwill fight them til i have nothing left.

Luv Emz xxx



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Libby24
May 12th | Libby24
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sending you heaps of hugs and love sweet Em. you so dont need to go through all of this and i hope the place gets what they deserve.

thinking about you sweety.



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      emmie
May 13th | emmie
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I hope so too , im sorry but it was wrong and i wont give up until they admit so .

Luv Emz xxx



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lillkatheryn
May 12th | lillkatheryn
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The nerve of those people at the hospital!  Of course they don't want to get into trouble, that would be huge case for mental distress, and you could try sueing them for what they put you thru!  It's horrible that you have to have nightmares because of it.  I do hope that they get exposed and that they make ammends with you.  I don't know what that would need to be, but they better bend over backwards to try!  I feel so much for you and to read what the hospital is now doing, that makes me so angry! 

I wish I could take away your pain and those images from you so you can be at peace, but I'm not God.  He will, in due time I know.  Be strong and I hope that the paper can help you.  Take care Emz, and I'm always thinking of you!



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      emmie
May 13th | emmie
Re: Spoke to the matron.....

HeySweetie,

I know they really anger me and the dr wonnders why i am so angry they make me that way, It is mental distress sweetie all i wanted was a full apology from the nurse erself so i can tell her how much pain im in and the thoughts she has putin my head about my unborn child because i dfo now worry where it is now . Also im barely sleeping because i get nightmares freom it now they are telling mew its just a blood clot im sorry but a blood clot isnt blavk anbd white and itdoesent have skin growing on it . Thats head games we know what we saw and barry is willing totalkto them about what he saw but now it will go much further . I dont care what happens to thgat nurse . i will fight them until i am out of fight. I tried to sort it by either a full apology or her position changed or retrained . They chose to denie it all so now they have a fight on their hands and its not asif i didnt warn them.

IU guesas in time it will get easier its justy going to take time . I just hope i am able to fall again ittook 2 years for me to get get pregnant but still cant bring back whats gone . Hopefully the p[aper will be a great help cant get worse than the hospital at least they have agreed to publish for me.

Luv Emz xxx



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nell18-3
May 12th | nell18-3
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This is so wrong you are having to go through this on top of everything else. Emz

What disgusting treatment you have had, its heartbreaking for you

Sending you Hugs

xxx



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      emmie
May 13th | emmie
Re: Spoke to the matron.....

Its certa9inly not right helen . You would think they would be full of apologys but nothing not e ven 1 sorry i wont have it,

Luv Emz xxx



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