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Finally things are moving!!!!

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Well things are really moving now . I got a bit mad that that matron never phoned me i waited untill lunchtime and then got on the phone i rang the hosputal this time i never asked for P.A.L.S. instead i chose to explain to the person on the other end of the phone whats been going on 1 day not allowed to complain the next i am . I told her she was meant to call me last night after she spoke to the nurse in question yet i am still waiting. She was suprised at that and said nobody can stop you from complaining i told her whatthe matron had said and she said ok hang on a moment and i will put you through to the executive i think she said of the hospital they will be able to help you further. I told her what had happeneed i am now waiting for her to ring me back she wasnt too imressed it took the papers for me to be ableto complain. She advised me i should contact the miscarriage assosiation as at the time i was very upseet . Also as you can proberly guess seems my foetus has not been put in my notes or anything i want to know what happened to it so i wanted to ask if i had that right also i explained how upset and hurt i am. Also how the nurse has made me feel so angry and the hospital not helping me much. Theey were fantastic help here i will copy paste the message its nothing i havent told you guys.

Thank you for contacting The Miscarriage Association. I was very sorry to hear that you sadly suffered a miscarriage recently and can appreciate what a difficult time this is for you. I do hope our organisation can help provide you with any support and information you need.   It was sad to hear about the lack of information you have been given about your foetus and it's understandable that you feel angry about this.   The hospital will have routine procedures for what happens to miscarried babies or foetuses and they should be able to tell you what that is and what has happened in your case. If you can't get this information from the ward or a bereavement officer, why not try the hospital chaplain?   Hospitals should be responsible to dispose of the remains in a sensitive way and they really should be talking through with you, how this is done if this is the case. It is possible that if you are making an official complaint and also talking to the media that this might make them a bit more cautious in talking to you and it may have been passed on to the hospital trust (which you could always write to). This however shouldn't really make a difference in you finding out the information, which you are entitled to do.   I do hope you can find something out soon and if we can help in any other way, do contact us here at anytime.   Best wishes   Lisa at The M.A.   She lead me into the right direction i googled torbay hospital trust . Isaid aboutthe complaint and me wanting to know whats happened to the foetus silly me pressed the wrong button and sent it to the wrong person yet i still got a reply it went to a website  

Your message has arrived via our website and I have forwarded it to the hospital’s manager for women’s services.  I know that she is aware that the matron spoke to you earlier this week.  I very much hope that she can help you – I know she will do everything possible.  We are very sorry indeed that you have had such an upsetting time.

I didnt personally get this email until after 5 so i guess the manager will get back to me tomorrow at least i hope,

As for the herald they called last night to make sure much hasnt changed before my story gets published which should be early next week. The reporter i have been doing this with is at a funeral today but she will be calling Barry tomorrow to ask him a few questions basically the same as me just from his point of view. So really they are moving faster .

Afterall ive been waiting 2 days just for a meeting time for that witch to apoligise to me. I wonder if she even got pulled??? But still i should find out tomorrow . I will not be taken as a fool and they can ignore as much as they like i wont go away until i have it sorted i will be their worst nghtmare lol.

Also i got called into Kylies school today when i got the call they said it was reguarding her behaviour but unfortunatly it doesent stop there . Kylie is sppending alot of time out on the naughty chair lately . The behaviour reason i was called in was because she was being rude to the dinnerlady. They are supposed to line up quietly to wait fortheir lunch no talking til hey are sat down well Kylie would not shut up . She was told to stop talking 5 times and each time she said NO !!! For this she was put on the timeout chair apparantly sahe is like this quite alot. I asked if she was a bully because of the way she is with chloe lately she said she is kind to everyone just wont do as she is told . I explained to her i was going to speak to her because i get it at home too i shown her what Kylie did tp Chloes head yesterday when she tipped her out the buggy she was amazed . The other problem is more to do with her learnming she is struggling at school i think its her concentration its just that the teacher says to the whole class go find something to do everybody will find something yet Kylie will just stand there . She cant make up her mind for herself thbe teacher has to give her a few things to choose from and if there is more than 2 she gets confussed . But they said they would inform me if this got worse or ifother problems in this area develop so we will see what happems

Luv Emz xxx

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hermy
May 16th | hermy
Re: Finally things are moving!!!!

so glad for you and maybe you can have some closure now that they are moving......hope that things improve for you with Kylie......maybe  it's just going to take some time for her to get over all that she has been through.......i do understand how hard it must be......all the best to u all, and i hope that all things are on the improvement............luv Sandra xxx



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      emmie
May 16th | emmie
Re: Finally things are moving!!!!

Hi Sandra,

When they finally get their butts moving . I shouted at the manager earlier i lost my temper oops. I gave her her poxy present from her mother today she was expecting a parcel . She gott her a beaded necklace and braclet that came on a card which we can get for £3.00 and i paid £1.60 to recieve it she tried breaking them Not impressed once again she has managed to upset her grr.I just hope it gets better soon.Great to see u on here

Luv Ya Emz xxxx



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cathbusymum
May 16th | cathbusymum
Re: Finally things are moving!!!!

Hi Em,

Your sounding a lot more positive which is great. I hope the trust can get things happening properly now. The paper will surely make a difference once the story is published. I hope so anyway.

What to do about kylie, hey? It seems now the school is involved with her behavior, the school counsellor might help. It's best to do this before she gets any older.

Been thinking of you hun, hope pepsi and the pups are behaving themselves too.

Cath xx



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      emmie
May 16th | emmie
Re: Finally things are moving!!!!

Hi Cath,

Yes i have been speaking to a good friend of ours and he really helped me decide i now need to keep strong and keep it together else i will drive myself mad.. I havent actually heard from the trust yet which im a bit annoyed about but as i type my article is also being typed and i will be contacted as soon as she is done she has spoke to barry this afternoon she was at a funeral yesterday. Im really nervous about it though i mean what looks am i going to get my photo is going to be printed too. All the mummys at th e school aahh never thought of that til now .

Im wondering what kind of weekend we are gingto have actually as i have to give her a present from her mother when daddy gets home she has not even been mentioned for months. But i will be trying to get chloe in creche and i want to see for myself the way she is at school as i can understand the behaviour and i have gave her possible reasons for that but he learning baffles me as she was smart and confident at her old school.

Ive baracaded the pups ha they cant get out unless i lift it up for peps to get in then they chase her cos she is getting tight they are ragging her now and she only lets them have 2 feeds a day oh except buster because he is getting used to the house more as he will be living here and guess what the cat is scared of him he was chasing her last night it was so funny she crapped herself and she is the most dominate cat lol.

Luv Emz xxx



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anniebabe
May 16th | anniebabe
Re: Finally things are moving!!!!

hi ems

its good to see that the hospital is now starting to respond . its always best in writing and email is just as good. the media will get them into gear as im sure the hospital wouldnt like any attention going their way

ems take care thinking of you

annie



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      emmie
May 16th | emmie
Re: Finally things are moving!!!!

Hi Annie,

Starting to yes very very slowly they are annoying me the matron was supposed to ring me 3 days ago . Yes i am also demanding my apology in writting. Matron is apparantly calling me monday by then it will be a day under 2 weeks of the incident and i still havent had a apology im getting very annoyed with them it will be in the paper before i get an apology. Im getting mad.

Luv Emz xxx



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Kellzacar
May 16th | Kellzacar
Re: Finally things are moving!!!!

Hi Emz,

WOW matey you are really sounding confident about the whole process and that is GREAT . .Getting some power over the situation is very helpful and I am so glad that you have been able to do this . .  I hope that you will get the answers that you are seeking, you deserve that . .

As for Kylie I wonder if she is just reacting to all the stress etc that is going on at home . . Kids tend to be very perceptive and she probably doesn't really understand much of what is happening . . .

Take care sweetie . . . Cheers Kellz



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      emmie
May 16th | emmie
Re: Finally things are moving!!!!

Hi Kellz,

I have to be matey if i dont man i will be a lump on the floor and it will all drive me mad. Which i cant allow as i cant be medicated for depression it makes me worse. I will get the answers i need and i do nneed them if it kills me.

Im not quite sure what the deal is with Kylie . Because she has a new teacher i told her whats been going on and that today i will be giving her her birthday present from her mother which barry has in his car we had to pay the postage as she didnt barry pixked it up from PO yesterday he has the brainb of a pig. But the thing is she was behaving like this for a long time now about a month and a half . This moerning she was perfect i never really told her off once i trold her thats how she issupposed to behave all the time she agreed but we will see lol.

Luv Emz xxx



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MrsSanders
May 16th | MrsSanders
Re: Finally things are moving!!!!

Hi Emmie, you are sounding much more positive about things, and I hope now that the trust are involved the complaint will be handled in a more respectful way. Ah young Kylie, it was only a matter of time before her behaviour would flow over into school, may be they will be able to help in time. Perhaps if there are any furtther meeting with the school, Barry should be there too, just might make him wake up to reality?????? where Kylie is concernd.

Remember about Sure Start, they may be able to help get you some time out. Thinking of you and sending you healing vibes.

Luv Winnie.xxxx



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      emmie
May 16th | emmie
Re: Finally things are moving!!!!

Hey Winnie ,

Yes im hoping now that the trust are involved things will start getting somewhere and for the record i still havent heard from that stupid matron yet i have my application for my notes whats the bets i get my notes before i even get an apology.Yet i bet they get moving soon as we speak the reporter has called barry and will be in touch as soon as the story is finnished i bet the hospital move then.

Yes i know i was expecting it . Yes i told him next time he should go kylie was poooping herself with me talking to her teacher let alone daddy that would put the fear into her and maybe he will see she isnt the perfect angel he makes out she is.

Oh yes i must get in touch with those because i want chloe is creche 12 days a week if i can she is just too bright. Afterall Kylie was 2 when i put her in creche and chloe is 2 the end of next month.she is growing up way too fast

Luv Emz xxx



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Arna
May 16th | Arna
Re: Finally things are moving!!!!

Hi Emmie,

Really sounds like you are going to be heard about all this!  yay!  Today, your hospital, tomorrow, the world!

I read your comment in my blog, and I'm glad you are able to keep your sense of humour, means you are much stronger than anyone thought possible, maybe even yourself!

As for Kylie, sounds like maybe the teachers are taking the wrong approach with her.  If I were closer, I'd volunteer to spend time at school working with her etc, but that would be one terribly early start and one late finish for me! lol

You keep being positive, and remember that you have so much strength within yourself.



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      emmie
May 16th | emmie
Re: Finally things are moving!!!!

Hi Honey,

YAY really coming along huh??? I still havent heard from the matron barry just called to say herald rang him to ask what happened in his eyes and how he feels .As i type my stoery is being written she will get in contact when she is done.

Ah yes well you are so funny i needed a arna blog with all those sileys i was feeling really miserable but your blog did make me chuckle quite a bit hows the bruises ??? I was a mess the other night and a friend of ours carl said i need to be strong now i need to stand tall of what happened and figght for the the presence i had of my heavens baby anmd i feel he is right after a long think of course and thats exxactly what i will do i will fight!

I am not sure about this learning thing because here she is bright and confident they explain her as quiet and stands there when the children are told to find something to do. i was saying to barry at the other schiool we were getting brilliant reports and they say she is bright and really gets involved in activities. The behaviour im not suprised by but she does keep saying she dont wantto go school like today.I may be getting chloe in creche if she does i may go in and see for myself exactly what is happening.

Yes positive cant go negative not now must keep strong i keep telling myself that . Well i suppose i better sort this run out for the pups ive been in bed all day im, getting nervous about this article being published what looks am i going to get at the school omg hide me

Luv Emz xxx

 



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nell18-3
May 16th | nell18-3
Re: Finally things are moving!!!!

Hi Emz

Hope you are ok and taking care

Glad to hear things are happening and you are finally being heard

Take care

xxx

 



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      emmie
May 16th | emmie
Re: Finally things are moving!!!!

Hi Helen,

They are beginning to annoy me now i want to go down there and question her myself at least that way it will get done.

Luv Emz xxx



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ellosunshine
May 15th | ellosunshine
Re: Finally things are moving!!!!

Hi Emz

I hope you are feeling much better. Im glad to here things are starting to move on at least even though it seems pretty slow. Im sure things will move on much quicker once the story in the paper gets released and i wonder if there is anyone else out there that got treated how you did. It is so dodgy that the hospital didnt even give you advice on the procedure of what they do with miscarriages or recommended you to anyone straightaway like the hospital chaplain. I was wondering exactly how does Barry feel about the lost? Maybe his behaviour i.e. being lazy and not so supportive the last couple of days is how he is dealing with it and also with Kylie as well. You said she didnt take it very well. Do you think a children's councellor might help her because of her behaviour lately at home and at school. Just a thought. Do you have family or friends nearby? Because what you really need right now is some real good peaceful time out for yourself. You have been through so much and you just need a break from all this.

Thinking of you

Jo



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      emmie
May 16th | emmie
Re: Finally things are moving!!!!

Hi Jo,

Pretty slow is a exageration on affraid 3 days ago that witch was meant to be questioned guess what its happening monday now im getting very angry and frustrated with them. The story should be in the papers hopefully the beginning of next week and hopefully if there is other women this has happened to im hoping they will come forward and share their story. No i got nothing not until my scan 2 days later and then all i got was a leaflet for miscarriage assosiation no advice on anything i was released 2 hours after loosing the foetus. Barry is devastated but he wont talk to anyoneabout it except from me. he has told the paper how he feels but i dont know what he said i wont know until its released.He is always like this this is just him . I get more support out of the sofa lol. Not sure what im going to do about kylie at the moment im going to see how she goes because this hasmnt only just started its been going on for ages its just now the school have pulled me about it.. I have my dad and nan my nan is senile and last time i left my dad with the kids hew fell asleep and the only friend i want to talk to right now has been coming round to check how im doing but i would not expect her to look after the girls she is about to have a hysterectomy so just have to deal with it.

Luv Emz xxx



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