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Temptation got the better of me!!!

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I been feeling a bit empotional today . Buti managed to see that councellor yesterday she rang me yesterday morning and said she could squeeze me in for 30 mins at 3.15 . That was a long 30 mins lol. There really wasnt much she could say as she isnt really trained to deal with this sort of stuff though she will try to help in the time between me getting more suitable councelling sorted. She was nice though andshe gave me some numbers where i can get the help i need she gave me both mobile and landline numbers its councelling for woman who have had a pregnancy ended in trauma. Also they will speak to me over the phone in an emergency if i really need to talk . Thing is though its at the hospityal where it is based i told her thati  have already refused an aappointment as i dont want to go there i will go to the hospital for this meeting but that is all . But she said that was ok because in these circumstances i obvioussly wont be comfortable so they will arrange a place to meet up instead like mcdonalds or something. So thats cool and she gave me the number for the mental health team but i think i am going to stay away from that one for now and try this other one.

Obviously with my story being in the papers its on the net too . Seeming that there were so many lies printed i decided to give my pennys worth . After all i did this to get their butts moving and to get heard so it is known to people of  torbay so it encourages others it may have happened to to come forward . Anyway here my comment

Some of above is NOT true . The foetus was white like stated above but also black when i first approached the hospital to make a complaint against the female gynae Dr i was told to speak to the gynae matron who told me i could not make a complaint simply because all i apparantly saw was bbloodclots . I admit there were blood clot in the bottom of the urine sample jar but above these laid my foetus. Thias is how my miscarriage was announced before my eyes was the baby that was minutes before inside my belly only a few days previous (4 days) we had a healthy heartbeat . How cruel. Therefore i had no choice but to take it to the herald hopefully stop this happening to another torbay mother in the meantime. After this i was suddenly able to make a complaint. I was told this dr would be questioned they said they had no idea why she did this to myself and my partner (my father was also present when partner was shown foetus). I demanded a full apology & explanation also for this crazy woman to NEVER again work with another woman either miscarrying or suspected miscarriage. I think she has issues and does not deserve this position . This happened on 6.5.08 now being 30.5.08 i still have NO APOLOGY, NO EXPLANATION & NO hearing of this woman being even spoken to on this matter . I lost the foetus on the comode i used the comode just as my partner was leaving i felt something much bigger than a clot i grabbed my partners hand when it was brought bk to me i knew for sure what it was. She called them 'the groceries' she wanted to examine me and i refused to let her near me until my partner was present she had done enough at the time i was holding the sample that contained my foetus . I told them tuesday they have until todays post for my explanation and apology if they fail to do this i will mach there myself and recieve it !!!!! Also i havent had a follow up with the gynae dr in question although when i went to the hospital for my scan she was in the early preg unit she had the cheek to say hello and asked if i was ok ? I totally ignored her juststarred . They seem to think if they ignore me long enough i will go awasy maybe they should get a reality check and realise i wont . I wll NEVER again be treated in torbay hospital no matter the circumstances it was bhad enough i had had a miscarriage without being shown the proof only now i also demand to know what thius womaan did with my foetus as she never once mentioned the foetus in the medical notes. I will stand for my angel in heavem there was existance and they will admit it . All involved in this should be v ashamed ecspecially the gynae dr i will never forgive her for this . Heres hoping this doesent happen to anyone else i cant get the images of wat i saw out my head and i would hate to hear someone else has been through this its disgusting... Emily Fairchild, Torbay
 

   

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But i will tell u one of them had a rough time before she was even seen and the other was someone telling me its disgusting and that i should take it to the BBC if i feel able.

Tonight i put the pups on the net on preloved pets and my friend has put an advert in her shop window so hopefully they will go soon.

Barry says i have to go drs on monday moany bugger that he is lol . He is getting sexually frustrated i think lol . No seriously i am still bleeding its been nearly a month now i know they said i couldent have unprotected sex for 4 weeks but this is taking the mickey . Funny thing is i seem to be getting fat although im not eating and my abdomen is swallen but i really dont see the point cos i aint going back to the hospital .

Luv Emz xxx

 

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AZMom
May 31st | AZMom
Re: Temptation got the better of me!!!

Emz

Seriously, go to the Dr's.. if nothing else get your HCG levels checked to make sure they have dropped...I don't mean to scare you, but I don't want you to end up in the same situation I was!!! Better safe than sorry... I will message you elsewhere..

Lorna x 



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MrsSanders
May 31st | MrsSanders
Re: Temptation got the better of me!!!

Hmmm, bossy boots here. Get to the Doctor first thing Monday,  please promise, please. Swollen tummy not good, please take a deep breath and go. Keep your chin up and just think of your little girls, they need you well. Thinking of you lots and will ring when I get back.

Luv Winnie.xxxx



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      emmie
May 31st | emmie
Re: Temptation got the better of me!!!

Hey miss bossy boots,

I will ring the dr monday and see what she thinks but either way im not going up the hopital well torquay one anyway but i was thinking maybe its my period cos i have been having period pains today they did say i would have a period after 4-6 weeks hmmmm we will see

Luv Emz xxx



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mumof2b
May 31st | mumof2b
Re: Temptation got the better of me!!!

I pray with all my heart that this is resloved for you soon........you need to heal.

Emz, please go and see your doctor......I'm worried about you!!!!

Amanda xxxx



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      emmie
May 31st | emmie
Re: Temptation got the better of me!!!

Hi  Amanda,

i hope so too itys really getting silly now . This is whati keep telling them i need to heal from this god sake its been nearly a month yet i cant do that untill i have the explanation etc.

I will ring my doc monday but if she wants me to go hospital she better make it paignton or newton but im wondering if its a period as i got a few period paind today so i will ring her and see what she thinks it has been nearly 4 weks now .

Luv Emz xx



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lonely28
May 31st | lonely28
Re: Temptation got the better of me!!!

Emmie I am so sorry that this is still going on and on for you. I was hoping with all my heart that there would be some sort of resolution for you. Enough is enough really. Can't these people see that you need this to begin the healing process??? Surely someone at that so called hospital understands.

Please get to a doctor. You aren't sounding good at all and none of us here want to see your health suffer anymore.

fi xoxo



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      emmie
May 31st | emmie
Re: Temptation got the better of me!!!

Hey Fi ,

They really are dragging it out arnt they ?? it will be 4 weeks tuesday . I ve had enough of playing games i want answers i dont want them still drafting i want them in my bloody hands . I keep teelling that patient liason service bloke that i need this to start to heal and all he keeps saying is sorry its not being done as quickly as you would like i know how angry and frustrayting this must be (and i swear the nxt time he says that im gonna scream his eardrums out) and they are working as quickly as possible and how this meeting wll have senior staff but i just want it NOW . Jesus what does it take to put  pen to paper .

I am going to ring them monday im wondering if its a period?? If they want me to go hospital though they will have to send me elsewhere

LuvEmz xxx



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cathbusymum
May 31st | cathbusymum
Re: Temptation got the better of me!!!

I'm glad you spoke to the counselor. Keep talking, I think that will help.

Oh Em, please please see a doctor. Go to another hospital if you have to. Just don't leave it and ignore it. I know how hard it must be at the moment.

My thoughts are with you, Barry and the girls



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      emmie
May 31st | emmie
Re: Temptation got the better of me!!!

Hey Cath,

Yes i think i had to really it was that or drive myself mad lol i chose the councelling lol.

Im gonna go to the drs on monday and see what she thinks im thinking maybe my period has showed its face too but i would prefer tpo check it i think but if they do want me to go hosp they will have to send me elsewhere if not i will go private.

Luv Emz xxx



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lillkatheryn
May 30th | lillkatheryn
Re: Temptation got the better of me!!!

Hey sweetie, I just looked up the article on the web...You know how I feel about it all and you, so I really am still at a loss that this hospital can just hike up their pants and admit that were in the wrong and take what comes with it!  You are always in my thoughts, and you should get to the docs...Not the hospital, but someone....I don't want to see anything else happen to you, you know?  Take care, and promise me you will see a doc?  Lots of love!

Letti



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      emmie
May 30th | emmie
Re: Temptation got the better of me!!!

Hey Sweetie,

Yesi  know and i coulkdent sit back and let them lie . Its about time they admitted they were in the wrong. I told Barry i will ring her on monday. I just worry she gonna say i have to have a d&c but i aint going thereif they knock me out or not but it s worrying im getting fat for some unknown reson and that my abdomen is swollen, God its never ending.

Much love Emz xxx



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natelz1
May 30th | natelz1
Re: Temptation got the better of me!!!

emmie hunny, you have been traumatized, thats for sure, my heart is with you, but you HAVE to see a doctor!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! There might be stuff left or something, go to a different hospiatl, but something is wrong and you need to be alive for your two other girls hunny!!! Please go to doc hunny, please?????



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      emmie
May 31st | emmie
Re: Temptation got the better of me!!!

I said to barryt last night i would ring my dr monday and see what she says but i worry she is going to say i have to have a d&c and if they send me to torbay i will refuse to go but  will have to get it done but i will gfo private i would rather pay than go bk there. i was meant to do a preg test 2 weeks ago to make sure it is neg cos if still pos i would have had to go bk to get any bits removed so i will go shop in a min and make sure it is negative

luv Emz xxx



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