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Or did it do more damage than it was first thought? As manyy of you know Kylie isnt my daughter naturally. When Kylie was born it wasnt because her mother was in labour it was a matter of getting her out before it was too late . She was born with paracetamol and anti depressants inside her . She was lucky to survive. She was born at 2 Ib 13 oz . She was n intensive care and it was thought she would not stay alive for 24 hours. But she is a strong cookie and she pulled through. She was intensive care for 3 months all in all . When she could finally go home. Barry had to go to court to get a residence order. Can yopu believe that the childs father the mother had moths before told the hospital that yet without entering the court he couldent take his own daughter home. She was the tiniestt thing i had ever seen.
But why all this ? Kylie was born through Csection her mother was 7 months pregnant when she decided she didnt want her child. Barry didnt even know for sure she was pregnant the only clue he had was her period was way overdue and getting fat but she wouldent do a test. So she was 28 weks confirmed but an emergency scan. After she took a packet of anti depressants and a bottle of paracetamol and took a 24 hour walk . She was found walking in the road bareffoted miles away. Barry had to make a big decision. If it came to the crunch and only 1 of them could be saved which would he prefer they save. Of course he chose Kylie who wouldent? Her mother was sectioned to a mental instutution. she spent the first 6 months of kylies life there .
4 weeks of her being home barry met this woman andi (she was a bitch) we didnt get along very much so i usually visited when she was at work. She was a nurse. She kindo f took over kylie barry wasnt allowed toso anything with her. She wasnt allowed tosee her mother WTF??? . Anyway Barry took my advioce adventually and left her. She kept all of kylies stuff and wouldent return it . She demanded to have mothers rights . Reported barry to social services police all sorts kylie had nothing .
Barry and Kylie were rehoused into a family hostel where i later moved in with them . Kylie barely saw her mother . Whe n she did she would come bakc hungry and dirty and often cut and bruised.
Adventually we movbed to devon as i needed to escape my family my step father wasnt a very nice person and i didnt want kylie brought uparound that. In the last 4 years her mother has visited 3 times . Never alone always with friends. Her last visit she took kylie to the rainbow house for the whole of 2 hours 2 hours is all she got to replace the last 12 months. She cameback i looked ut my kitchen window and i pointeed oiut to myit friend becky swhe had downed 2 cans of beer . She practically ignored her all day .When it came to bath time she put her in 2 cold baths and i mean freezen cold kylie was 23 years old 2 years on she still remembers like it was yesterday. She has messed her head up alot in trhe last 3 and a half years we have lived here now she doesent have any contact with her .
Ive had alot of behaviour probllems with Kylie bringing kylie up has been a constant battle . I aways thought she was doing well at school . U ntil yesterday seems she is struggling inb alot of areas im left wondering if all this has effected her brain i know it sounds razy but i just dont know anymore
Anyway i will stop rambling on i just think its too much of a coincidence she is strugling so muvch in school. Anyway i better go Kylie wants cbeebies website on .
Luv Emz xxx |
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Re: Just a coincidence?
I think that Kylie has a lot of emotional scars that run very deeply... Whether or not she was affected by her traumatic birth and subsequent time in hospital. It is worth seeking further tests if you feel that there might be a chance, perhaps you could discuss with the head of her school? There may be a series of tests or a centre for testing that they can refer you to.
Jaydee always shocked us with his comprehension skills, awareness and understanding of what is going on around him... Even at 8mths, I jokingly said, 'why don't you crawl over to that pen, pick it up and take it out to the office for Daddy..." I went back to reading my book and was shocked when he scooted past me with a big grin on his face, and went to the office to give the pen to Daddy.
Kylie is very bright and sensitive, I am sure that she is deeply affected by the abandonment of her mother and subsequent confusion from when her mother wanted to see her and didn't turn up or call etc. There has been a lot of turmoil in your life recently with losing the baby as well, all of these things add up. Perhaps some one on one time with a counselor or tutor could benefit her too... Just so you can all get your feet on the ground and be on the same page together ready to move forward.
You are the best mum she will ever have, your concern and care are very real, so don't be afraid to take action now rather than later. xox  WE LOVE Kylie (Lui & Jay, the Fairy Princess Kylie Club) xoxox
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Re: Just a coincidence?
Awww Emz, I felt so sad reading that..
You know what?
You have been a better mother to Kylie, than her biological mother could ever be to her..
Every child begins life with some sort of hang up, but it's how they get through that pain, that makes them the person that they become..
Alisha began life with jaundice, an infection, and being far too underweight..
But now she walks around, follows me to the toilet (LOL), and has got a milk gut. lol
My point is, scars may not fade, but with your guidance, I am sure that Kylie will turn out fine..
She is a wonderful little girl, and with a wonderful mother like you, she has a great future ahead of her!!
Don't ever blame yourself for what Kylie went through.. It is not your fault at all..
You are doing your best to give Kylie the best life..
And if anyone can get through this "hang up", it is you and Kylie !!
Hey, and don't worry about the ramble, I do it ALL THE TIME.. LOL
(You've seen my blogs :P hahaha)
Do take care Emz..
And know that everyone here on Minti, including me, believes in you, and knows that Kylie will be ok in the end :)
Thinking of you and your family,
Thuy xox
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Re: Just a coincidence?
Sorry Thuy it makes me sad too.
Funy you say that as thjats what i told her mother last time i spoke to her after she called me a bad mother and said i took her child away. If she didnt try top kill her i wouldent have needed to.
Kylie has pulled through in stregnths which shock me. When she was a baby she could sit in my hand and not even come half way up my arm now she is nearly the biggest in her class . Though it seems her behaviour and also her learning is lackuing its like she is still going through terribnle 2's but a bit worse.
I am mad the school havent brought her learning difficultiers to my attention sooner but i guess now i know its time to deal with it i have to see my doc tuesday so i will discuss this also .Maybe i can get her assessed or something.
I have done everrything in my power to help kylie buty its time to admit there is a problem . She is a strong kid and i know with the right help and guidence she will get throughthis and i will help her as much as i can.
Yeah i ramble all the time i get carried away and dont know when to stop haha.
All of your guys support is just amazing and i apreciate it so much . She will get through this i know she will it will just take time and alot of work.
Luv Emz xxx
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