Oh Emmie, I read this last night and words failed me, it is just so awfully sad. Make your plans, get well and get out unless things have changed substantially by then. You will know if Barry is genuine by his actions in the meantime - as Helen says he would be booking into a course right now if he was serious about not living up to that "once a wife beater..." thing.

Poor little Kylie - she will be losing a great mum, Barry should have been wise to that playing-one-parent-off-against-the-other game - it's only natural for kids to try it so she cant be blamed. Now who's going to listen to her reading?

oh ems  what a year you have had

did i understand correctly? you have 3 loose teeth as a result of this  what does he mean he didnt mean to hit you. sounds like a bit of force there.  he definately needs anger management. this  isnt right . sorry wont put an end to it he needs to do more.

if he keeps saying sorry or asking you why arent you forgiving him my suggestion would be to ask him what does he plan to do with his anger ? throw the responsibility back at him. he needs to own it a sorry isnt enough.

sending positive vibes for your op

hugs and kisses annie xxxooo

Oh Emz, often it is true, 'once a woman beater always ...'.  All the best in your op, and I hope that the time you are resting will give you the time you need to think, to heal and to make the right decisions for you and your family.

Much love and prayers.

Peace
EF.x

I just found out about this emz I am feeling your pain right now and I agree with you once a woman beater always a woman beater. I hope you are ok. I have smacked my eldest on the bum when she was 2 years old for the same thing (she drew blood on her friends elbow). You are not a bad mum. NEVER think that no matter what he says, he is the lowest of low to hit you and deserves NOTHING from you at all. BIG HUGS to you. Sending strength and healing energies your way.

 Lexi xxx

OMG EMME. I hope you do the right thing. You are not a bad mother. Look after you and chloe wont you sweetie. Im thinking of you sweetie.

Love Kell

oxxoox

Oh Emmie.  I am not going to go on.  Enough has been said by others.  You need to be safe.  Take care of you...and Chloe.

XXOO-Angela

Oh Emz.......

What can I say except to back up what has already been said!!!!!!

You know I've done courses on DV, if he was really sorry he would be even now looking to get on a course to stop this ever happening again!!!!!

Don't be like me and wake up 20 years later to a whole bucket full of sorrys that no longer mean anything and you don't care anymore because your confidence and self esteem was smothered years before.

Get your surgery sorted, and make plans............

Don't leave without getting advice because if you don't plan this properly, there is a chance that you will have no option but to go back and he will be even worse then as he will feel like this all powerful being.

There are plenty of resources and bodies of DV help organisations out there, Talk to them first and get things put in place so when you do leave its done in a way that you are looked after and not alone

I'm here for you hon

xxx

Emmie, my heart just goes out to you. I am so very sorry to hear what you've been going through this year. I admit I was worried when you wrote about how Barry was treating Buster, and it seems my suspicions were right. I couldn't be more sorry to be right. You know what you have to do - you've said it several times - so I won't tell you again. Do you have friends or family who can help you? Obviously you have to have your op, but once you've recovered from that, you can make the world be your oyster again. If you ever falter or lose your resolve, just remember this: "First my dog now me is my chloe next?" You and Chloe deserve so much better. It's a shame Kylie isn't your natural daughter as you have no right to take her away. But she's not going to have a happy life with a father like that.

Awww sweetheart. You deserve so much better. I want to come over there & knock Barry's lights out. He has no right to hit you EVER & if they do it once they will do it again, no matter how many times they say they are sorry.

You are a fantastic mother to both the girls & dont let anyone tell you different. Love you sweetie xoxoxoxo

Hey Em,

I don't think you are a bad mother, you did what you had to do in that situation.   Don't beat yourself up on it.   What has happened has happened!   I think that you and your partner need to have a chat and maybe counciling.  If not get the hell out of there......

Take care, thinking of you........   Angie xx

OMFG how dare he hit you, I hit my boy my partner won't hit him but that is because he doesn't know his own strength at times. But never would he hit me because I hit our son. You are not a bad mother she needed it and deserved it, bad luck if barry cannot figure that out for himself. He will soon learn that he needs to grow up and become a father and partner first and friends to the girls 2nd.

You are a very strong woman from what I have read of your blog's and I think you just need support and we will all be here for you no matter what your decision maybe. But get through this op and get better before you do anything about this. You need your strength back and you need to feel 100% certain about your decision.

Cheers Queenie

xoxoxoxooxoxoxox

Hi Em....lm always here for you if you ever need to talk - we all are here to support you and be a shouldar to cry on hon. l agree with everyone else "GET OUT" for your sake and the girls....you dont need any more stress in your life....l feel for you going through all this and you dont need abuse as well on top of everything else...you are already a very stronger person to be going through what you are going through, l know you will make the right choice for you and the girls.....as for giving Kylie a smack, l support you all the way....it never hurts to give a smack on the bum. When my boys where biting l use to bite them back, they soon learnt it hurt and didnt do it. Wishes for the op on Wedensday, l will be there in spirit holding your hand all the way.

Hugs my friend

Heather xxoo

 omfg Em. I have been thru this even with the teeth and all. GET OUT.  Op first, gather your strength and then that's it hunny. Don't tell him of any plans either. Get as much help as you can, there should be numbers you can ring for help in this situation. Get out now for Chloe's sake.  It'll be the best thing for you and Chloe. It might seem hard now but staying is harder in the end. I'm so sorry you are going thru this. I'm here if you ever want or need to chat hun. 

Stay strong. Biggest of hugs

Cath xxoo

 Dear Emz, thought there was more behind your last blog but was hoping I was wrong, with what I was thinking, alas I'm not. What can I say as a victim of abuse my heart goes out to you and my words would be GET OUT....sorry.

But first you need to have this operation on wednesday, regain your strength before you can cope with any other events.

What you did to Kylie was right a smack on the bum never hurt any child and it is about time Barry woke up to himself and realised that Kylie is playing one parent against the other.

I'm here for you anytime, even on skype if you like.

Loads of Love Mum xxxx

Omg hun, I don't know what to say.. I hope you're ok :(

All I can say is, a person's actions often reflect their true character, and if you feel that his actions (bearing in mind, previous ones), are a true reflection of who he is, then it is best to leave..
Sometimes you become comfortable in a situation, and hope that things will get better, but sometimes, they don't..
And that is when you have to draw the line, and question whether it is best to stay or to go..

I agree with Fi, no matter what you decide, we will ALL be here to support you..
We only want the best for you, hun :)
Do what, in your heart, feels to be the right decision

Thinking of you sweetie,

Love Thuy xoxoxoxox

Oh emz...... where to start! That's just so.... I've got no words at the moment. You've been through so much in such a short amount of time and now this. You are one strong woman and don't you ever forget it. Try and take it day by day till the operation that you so desperately need. There is no way in hell he should of hit you... maybe this is the warning sign that so many of us miss. The choice is your's of course and you know that we are all here to support you in whatever you decide. Take care of you and sending you loads of hugs,

fi xoxo

oh emmie! im so sorry to hear this, i only have one suggestion for you LEAVE, ive been thru it and i know its hard and i know there are reasons to stay but dont stay if he hits you ever!

i hope things improve for you

xxxxnat

did i read that right?.......... he hit you?......... sorry hun thats must be such a horrible situation to be in. I hope what ever u decides best for u n c and k works out for the best! If my girl bite my other girl i think i would bite back or smack too.. and if some guy hit me id be gone in a flash.. but thats from being in that situation in the past and knowing some things never change..

i hope it works out..... what ever u do.........

xoxox

Oh Emz, what a nightmare... I guess things were always going to come to a head at some stage, you can only take so much pressure from so many angles and this is quite unacceptable.  You both need to talk to counsellors, alone and maybe together in the future.  Bloody merry sort of Christmas NOT!  Talk to you real soon little sis. xoxox

sorry to hear that sweety. I have to agree with you. she lives in your house, you should be able to disapline her as well. In my house if you bite you get bitten back. my kids stopped biting very quickly. I smack my kids to and I dont care what ppl say.

I have my opinion on being hit by someone, but that is really irrelivent. In the end it is only your choice. But no one desrves to be hit, no matter where you are that is assult.

you are in no way a bad mother, so please dont say that Em.

Good luck tomorrow and on wednesday. Be thinking of you.

omg. No you shouldn't put up with that. YOu are better then that. Get out of there and say bye to his abusive ass!