Hi yep sometimes I would have to agree with  you,sometimes I feel Minti could be a good thing for ppl with depression ,but on the other hand it could also bring ppl down aswell if you feel you are not being supported .I have a few members on Minti and they are the only reason why I stay on here,I dont talk to anybody on msn either.I think we have a very clicky bunch on here and like in real life they have their little groups.

I dont comment much in people's blogs except for a few.I have sent messages to admin and have never got replies dont really e-mail members either.I for one don't really agree with the compliments as it shows the popular members and make others feel less worthy of them,my opinion anyway.Same for the gifts,I have given a few gifts out and compliments but I only send them when I feel the need for a special occasion and not for the hell of it.This way if a member is down or something special has happened in their life it is relevant to them at the time and have not used all my minti moula and compliments.These are just my opinions and how I feel about Minti at present also.Have to say if it wasnt for a few members I would not be staying around,as I sometimes find it very bitchy and clicky sometimes.

                                                         cham

Hi

To be honest, I dont know if i respond to your stuff or not. I just read something and if I have something to say I will say it. Im sorry you are feeling crappy. I dont have many members coming into my lounge but I dont go in their either as i have dial up still and it takes forever to leave a piccy. As for compliments, i have 12...some people have 20-30..doesnt mean anything..i hope! lol

Your not ignored it is really hard to get around to all members blogs and somtimes you simply just forget to check them or you thought you did and you thought you replied but it didnt work. Ive had that many of the times. But you arent ignored.

Hey there,

                Well now... who could ignore you??? I know I haven't been commenting that much lately but it's a little hard from the loo hehe. I approach minti like this. I blog for me, to get thoughts, feelings etc out of my head. If people comment then great, more the merrier but if they don't well so be it. Minti is kinda like my online diary and I pretty much write it for me. When I comment I hardly ever expect a reply and most of the time whoever I've commented to will reply but there are instances where they don't. I don't take it personally and just move onto the next part of minti. Just keep being you. You know the ones that appreciate you and there the one's that matter.

I really hope your home life settles down for you really soon. Must say, you've got me a little concerned..... I really do hope that you're ok,

fi xo

hey kerri,

sadly, i know exactly how you feel :(

one thing i've learnt though is, whether it be on Minti or in real life..
sometimes you can treat people so well and there will always be the few who don't treat you like you deserve...
but you gotta keep doing what you're doing, because then those who DO treat you like you deserve, will make up for all of that :)

and, speaking on my own behalf, i have NEVER ignored any your minti mails, blog entries, or anything like that...
i think you're a valued member of Minti, and if you had anything to say, i would DEFINITELY listen :)

love ya.. keep that chin up kk :)

Love Thuy xox

hello... I'm just another someone wanting to let you know that I'm sorry to hear you're feeling so down about things. I know I'm still trying to figure out how to make the most of my time on here, because it is hard to try and comment on everything you want to, or even read everything you want to or even keep up with everything! You seem to be pretty active as I see your name and avatar on a lot of things I read or comment on. But even though I "see" you around a lot, you and I haven't actually "chatted" yet or anything. Y'know what I mean? Maybe if you think of Minti as a big party where you go around and mingle and get into little group conversations with people (commenting) and then at the end of the party you have your two or three real friends that you hang out (minti mail) with after the party, it won't seem so frustrating. I'm still just mingling!

I hope you feel better soon!

hi kerry

you do belong and things just seem to be really rocky at the moment. I know I don't spend as much time here as I used to with work committments etc, and i haven't had any time to send out lounge greetings. I will get to it again one day.

take the time to get your homelife settled down. That has to take precedence. Just don't hink you are being ignored.

hey kerri,

hope things at home get sorted out and minti shines brightly once again for you

we havent mixed much here on minti however ill be in adelaide on holidays between xmas and new year catching up with friends and will be more then available, lets do lunch/dinner ...lol i know im not the grooviest here but can shout lunch /dinner ?

all the best, catch you around, rue

So sorry you feel that way Kerri

I promise I haven't ignored you, I just haven't spent a lot of time on here lately with my own issues

I still count you as one of my friends, Take care

xxx

I'm sorry that things at home aren't going too well and I wish you all the best for that.  I'm sure that everyone who is your friend will understand why you have done this and I'm sure if they're a true friend they will support you no matter what. 

Take care of yourself.

Hey Kerri,

Im so sorry that your feeling this way!! Please dont feel like this!! I write blogs and sometimes i get alot of responses and sometimes i get none but it really doesnt bother me, reason being : My blog is for me, I write to get everything out, and even tho its just writing it helps and feels good to get it out even if nobody cares.

I try to comment on as much blogs i can but sometimes dont know what to say.Lately i havnt even been on minti. To tell everyone the truth, since ive stopped coming on minti so often i feel better and have realised alot. Yes!! i love minti and love chatting to everyone and sharing what i have to say but really i have noticed how much time im not spending with my bf and i felt bad and still do. He never complained but i gave to much of my time to minti and not to the person i really love.

Anyways enough of my rambling, i hope things get better for you at home and i hope you return to minti soon, please dont take not getting replies to heart, if i did i would be very depressed, its not worth the worry.

Dannii xxo

I am sorry you feel so isolated on Minti, I too was under the impression that you had a lot of friends and activity on here. I used to spend a good two or three hours passing time of an evening reading and interacting, but circumstances in real life have taken that away. I dont get the chance to read and comment on all I would like to, so I have to be content to try to get round my small friend list, and catch one or two Items from activity if I am lucky. I so apologise to you if I have ever deliberatly ignored you or made you feel isolated. Sometimes in a crowded forum it is sadly all too easy for some to become isolated. When I filled my friends list, on my new page I deliberatly kept it small so that I could manage to interact with those in the time frame I have, even then I fail miserably. My advice is keep your list down to those people you interact with most and wish to keep up with, and you can send compliments and mail the rest of the community as and when you wish to or want to offer support. I am sorry life is so low for you at the moment and I send you some positive vibes to help you through. I also will urge you not to leave minti, as Marg said to me a little while ago, to share a little when things get you down is what minti is there for, to support, even if it is only one person, that person has taken the time to show a little care. So please dont stay away too long, and hope you feel a little better in yourself very soon. Thinking of you.

Luv Winnie.xxxx

Hi,

Sorry you are having such a bad trot.... and im sorry if im one that may have upset you in anyway....

Like you have mentioned that you are going to sit on the side lines for a while, I have seemed to be like that all along.... I read lots here on minti, about different members not likeing the others, minti members leaving 'cause the feel pushed out etc blah blah ( you know what i mean).... So i have choosen to to sit out and just read good advice that is given and comment on only things that i think that i might be able to help with....

You are on my friend list, and i have wanted to join you at the next minti meet here in adelaide....

so please take no offence to me when i don't comment on things, sometimes i feel like im a bit of an outsider on here and have not wanted to push my way into already formed friendships.... I can be a very quiet person....

When your feeling better, and if you wish me back to join your friends lists, just minti mail me and i SHALL reply, with an invite back to you..... and i will take no offence if you choose other wise.....

Take Care Mate, Chin up....

Hugs Frogie x

Hi Freo, Try not to take things too personally because the thing is people have all got limited time so therefore a lot of people comment at what they know for a start, no good responding to something you have no knowledge or interest in that field, plus they may not be on at the same time. I know some people like to respond to every comment made. If someone makes a comment in my blog, I will not always reply but sometimes go to that person blog or lounge to see what is going on for them. Sorry I did not know you had personal problems. Some people have made some close friendships on here as they may see each other outside of minti and also the ones that are getting more notice are the ones that blog all the time on here, at least every day. I know that I can not be on here everyday, only weekends and an hour here and there during the week. If you notice they also open there heart on here, a very hard thing to do, even get themselves in trouble from people in there real lives because of it. It actually is not an easy thing to do. To get a lot of comments they make a ton of them too. I am not saying you are not doing that, but I would just say accept what you get and try to get around to talk to others. Recently I have been looking up people that I haven't heard from in a long while. Did you know Jenlemen is leaving for Rwanda today? I haven't called into her blog for ages and noone has commented for a long time to her blogs but she still writes them and the beauty is we can go anytime and see what has been happening in her life and anyones and then catch up. Anyway rambling, met some minti mums today thanks to ellamia who put in a huge effort to finally get us together. I know you all did it in Adelaide once. It was a beautiful day and makes minti worthwhile in the end. Could not have met those nice people otherwise. We are from all different backgrounds ages, etc, but found things to talk about. Hope you stick around and join in the fun! Lynette xx

hello kerri

i am so sorry you feel this way i thought i did visist your lounge regually and comment on your blogs i am so sory if i did anything to offend you

belxx

Sorry you feel that way - I know I do sometimes too!  I'm never a mover or shaker or even a top member!  However I know I have met a few people here who I love to read and many more who probably only get a passing look.  Sorry if you are one!  I know I am bad at replying to comments - often because I have limited time on here.  I hope you will come back sometime and give it another shot.  In the meantime, hope things improve for you soon...

Hi Kerri,

I seem to log in when you are off line most of the time so often miss any of your blogs if they haven't been brought up on the activities page.  I've given up on the watchlist, seriously, it makes my head spin.

I'm not the best at replying straight away to minti mails, but will get round to it when I can.

If you need a minti break, then take it.  I know that there are a few days a week when I don't even turn my computer on at (those are the madly catch up on washing days).

Anytime you are having a problem, you can minti mail me, I'm a little slow to reply, but will in the end.  If you want more people to read your blogs, then send me the link when you write one and I'll pop by.  I had no idea that you were having a tough time, the blogs I have seen from you haven't mentioned anything about it.

Just remember, not everyone who visits comments, but you can see how many people have visited your blogs by looking beside how many comments are left where it says visits.

I know that I have many people on my friends list who haven't even logged into minti for a while, might be time for me to clear those ones out. 

Never feel you are alone.  Just because traffic might be slow doesn't mean you are alone.  There is always someone watching and always someone you can turn to.

Hi Kerri

As others have posted, I do feel sorry on how you feel about friends on here and also agree on what Domestic-Warrior and lillkatheryn had to say. There are people on my list too that i cant remember why i added them in the first place lol... but i do know they did comment from time to time. I try to comment on peoples blogs or help out in q & a if i can and one thing i do know is i have always appreciated there comments and YOURS as i know you have been one of my minti friends from the very start when i had my Destiiny23 account and helped me out. Even though i dont comment back when people comment on my blogs, I really do appreciate it as if it wasnt for the people here on MINTI, i dont think i would be a very strong person from the advice they have given me with what i have gone through. Now things are brightening up for me, i am trying to know help out those who helped me while juggling my young childrnens attention

Take care

Jo

I know how you feel.  I feel the same way sometimes when I come on and I don't see any comments on my blogs or replies to emails.  And like Domestic-Warrior said, I really agree with.  I just have to take it as people are reading, just not commenting and maybe others just have not had the time to come on and say hello.  I know I have a few people who I really miss when I don't see them on here, and then it's vice versa, where I'm not able to get on as well.  I have to say I am one of those people who will read alot of other blogs and lounges, but often not comment as I don't want to just be like oh bummer that happened, or how exciting.  Know what I mean?  When I comment, I want to say something nice or something that can make the person feel better or give support or the such.   But I know there are a few others that I've missed seeing on here, and you are one of them! 

I hope things get better for you at home and that you can come to Minti for the support and friends that are waiting for you!

i agree with everything you say. i feel the same way i have a shit load of people on my friends list and its only a handful of people that reply actually 2 people that talk to me all the time.i am like you why bother.i try and start some cool interesting activitiy type things on here and no one does them.i have 50+people look but dont comment.good on ya i say if ya wanna be friends then be friends.

good on ya i say tassie

I'm sorry you feel this way and that things are getting you down right now. I can't speak for everyone, but just to let you know I'm here for you.

You can minti mail me and I'll definitely answer!

Kerri,

I'm so sorry that your having such a tough time right now.  I know that it gets really hard when we feel so alone (been there myself several times).  Please know that just like my invisible man article, we can also treat others here on Minti the same way.  I know I have sometimes been guilty of this.  Please know that when you don't get a response from people I think it's more about what is going on in there own lives (a little self-centeredness)  which unfortunately is human nature. 

I want to thank you for all your many comments, thoughts and opinions...you are truly a special person and deserve nothing but the best!  I will be praying for you during this hard time in your life and please know that many of us DO CARE!!  You are teaching all of us a much needed lesson, that our actions or lack of have a very hurtful effect.

Take care of yourself and I will hope you know that you do have friends here!

Luv, Lisa

wiping everyone off ya friends list is fun for a little while because you can invade their lounges but they can't get into yours. But when the mess clears up and you want your friends back, you have to get them to invite you because the "Be my friend' link doesn't return to their page. Though that's a good way of determining who your friends really are! LOL
 

You're not the only one I've heard recently protest about being ignored, seems to be going around. Take some time out if you feel you need it. If I've ignored you I apologise and I'll try to make a better effort. I think it's more a case of I haven't noticed anything you've posted lately popping up in my usual haunts, I'm definatley not ignoring you personally. Sometimes I get so wrapped up in my own little zone I need a wake up call.

HI KERRI

i HAVE just come in just in time by the looks of this... You know that your true friends will always be there, and sometimes i have being told in the past its hard to know what to say at times...

Please reconsider deleting all your friends, and just think about the ones that are there for you and wont back stab you behind your back, and its easy to remove those ones, as i have done that recently...

Sorry if i havnt being here for you  much lately, and i promise to be there for you more often, and you have my number if you want to talk...

xx cazza

Listen, i think there are people on here that get the majority of the activity for whatever reason, because they chat regularly with other members and are friends, msn, i don't know.  But you need to just take Minti for what it is.....a little escape from the outside world, nothing more  and nothing less.  If you pin all your hopes on Minti well i think you are going to be let down.  It can be a supportive place to be and sometimes i think it is full of drivel.

When i'm not in a good frame of mind i feel like you too.  I usually comment alot and could say that acitivity back to me is average.  DON"T let it get you down.  I'm sorry that you are having a bad time at home....i have read some of your old blogs regarding your hubby etc.  People sometimes read but don't comment for whatever reason, maybe they don't feel they know you well enough to add something - take stock of what is what around here, are you being left out deliberately or is it a frame of mind? 

Sorry if i sound incensitive but i'm just trying to put things in perspective for you....i don't know you and i actually thought you had some 'close ' friends on here.  See how it can look to someone else?  Maybe people don't realise you feel this way....blogging in a private group can really help sometimes.

Some people have had trouble with Minti mail lately not being able to reply....i rarely get any...lol...although i would be hurt too if people didn't respond to my msg, a bit rude!

Hey hun, i am really sorry to hear you feel that way, its horrible and i know. i too am sorry if i have been one of the people that ahve negleted tyou, i am not online much, i kindof jump on for no longer th about 5 mins at a time, though its lots of times during the day.

Hope you feel better, big hugs xxxxx

sorry you feel that way.

i try to read and comment and things but sometimes things get missed.  i certainly hope im not one of them but if i have it was unintentional.

i did look at one of your photos but i couldnt enlarge and it was too small for me to make it out so i didnt comment.

we do care. lol sometimes everything seems to be going wrong.

please rethink or if you still wish to take a break at least take care i hope there is someone you can to talk if that is the case

annie