I'm here but im not. What i'm doing is only blogging in my blog section, reading articles, voting on them, commenting, and going into the groups im in and sorting out the one's i really do and don't want to be in, and then i'll be blogging etc in the groups i decide to stay in.

I'm not back for good. I'm just here, minding my own business, and don't want to see or read anything nasty. I'm so over it all. I do apologise if i seem a bit rude, but with everything that's just on, i just want to minti on my own for a little bit, and give me time to calm down. I do hope that you all understand.

I'm just sick of other members leaving with all the pettyness, nastyness ,backstabbing, reporting, accusing etc that's going on right now.

I can't handle it anymore, so i'm having a break from minti, until i feel comfortable to come back and to start doing what i usually doing on here.

If you haven't got my email address and you would like to get in contact with me, there are some members who have it, and i give them permission to give it out to you. But please, send a message first to say who you are, and your msn details so i don't accidently block you.

I do hope things get better on here in minti for everyone's sake. I don't know and can't say when i'll be back, as i don't know that myself.

To all of my friends, stay safe, take care, and hopefully i'll chat to you all soon.

 Kerri..........

I'm pretty annoyed right now. What the hell is going on with alot of great members leaving minti. I get close to some of them, and get comfortable with a few of them, and they know who they are, and they end up leaving. I am so angry but sad at the same time. What is going on??????

Everyone's leaving, and i don't understand why. Please, all the members that have left, or leaving, please come back, and stay. We all love and miss you so much. This isn't fair, but i know it's something you have got to do.

Finally we are getting more cooler weather now, and able to take kids out more now, and take youngest to the park more often, and go for more walks during the time she's not at Kindy etc. she does need to lose a bit of weight, but she's slowly losing it, but not as much as i'd like, but i know she'll eventually lose it.

I prefer the cooler weather so i can actually do more with the kids. The elder 3 do go ride their bikes around the suburb with their mates etc, and that  is their exercise, and do eat healthy, and eldest daughter is going through puberty, so she will gain a few kilo's, but she does exercise enough to not gain so much weight.

Youngest daughter i have to walk more everywhere, and take her to more parks etc. So, everyone who know's me here in SA, you'll most likely see me more now, as i'll be doing alot of walking.

Hey cazza. Well done on going to 2 gold stripes. You deserve it big time. You always work hard, and always saying nice things to and about everyone.

Things are now looking up for us. Hubby's attitude has changed a little, and he's getting even a little bit emotional at times too now. He is finally realising and understanding that we have feelings also, and we are here to help him ( me and the kids ) and he didn't realise how much the older kids were hurting, and after the wake up call of them saying what they did to him ( alot of it was what he thought was nasty, ) but that's what the kids were thinking, and he didn't realise how hurt they were. the therapist was explaining to him what they mean, and the kids feel so much better now they've got everything of their chest.

But hubby know's if he show's one sign of going back to his old ways, he's history. I'm starting to feel as though i can trust him again, just a tiny bit for now.

Happy birthday to my hubby today. He's 38. Yesterday being Valentine's Day, he bought me 2 Valentines balloons filled with helium, and a teddy bear. Even though we're married, he's still soppy on this day.

I was surprised he bought me the things he did. He's usually a tight arse, but i think he appreciated me more than i think he does.

Anyways, we are going out for his birthday tomorrow with the family, and he has to work in the morning also. Poor bugger. He also had to start at 5am this morning, and when i called him up before to wish him a happy birthday, he sounded so tired. Poor baby.

Finally finished all the spring cleaning for now for inside the house. Will wait until the new season starts ( Not March ) But June i'll start another spring clean inside.

We are doing outside now, but there's not much to do, but it has to be done, so it'll take us today to do some more, then next weekend, then that's us finished. Can't wait until this place is the way we want it.

I've put so much stuff onto freecycle it's not funny anymore. I love freecycle, as i love to give away stuff we're not using, as it gives other people an opportunity to recycle the things we dont want anymore or no longer use etc, and it saves putting it all into the bin or in opshops sometimes.

So there's not another big spring clean again for 4 months. Yippeeeeeeeeee. But i do feel better now in myself that i've done this now.

My gosh. I've just cleaned out  my youngest daughter's bedroom and didn't realise she had so much stuff. I have bags and bags of clothing to get rid off. I've just put them onto freecycle, and hoping someone will take the lot.

Tomorrow while im at shopping, i have to buy garbage bags to put the rest of the clothing in that are in 5 suitcases out the back full of clothing. I put a wanted ad on freecycle sometime last week saying that i was in need of clothing for the family. One person kindly responded and said i could take as many suitcases and garbage bags as i wanted, so i took the whole 5 suit cases, and about 6 garbage bags full.

FOr the past 2 days, i've been sorting out the clothing i want for my family, and we still have heaps of clothing over. I have to transfer the clothing from the suitcases to the garbage bags tomorrow when i get home from shopping ( as we don't have any at home ) and i will advertise them again on freecycle.

There's just too many bags of clothing and toys to take down to the op shop, as it's only a small shop and i could literally open up my own op shop with the amount of clothing and toys i have.

I also cleared out everything in my daughter's room, and so did my children, the elder one's and they are happy about the spring clean, as they can clearly see now what they have and what they need to get now.

I've finally finished all my washing today, and now have bought clothing in and folded it all up, and put the clothing away, and i've done this about 4 times, and now i have to wait now for the washing to dry on the line to bring in and fold up and put away, which won't be done until tomorrow as it's still to wet to bring in tonight and im too exhausted, and that is it now until i do my housework on Thursday,

It's never ending is it. Now all the kids rooms have been spring cleaned, and now all i have to do is clean out the toy boxes in the lounge room on thursday after i've mopped, swept, and done a few loads of washing as it's a kid free zone on Thursdays for just over 5 hours so i can get alot done on those days.

It's my eldest daughter's birthday today, and she turned 12. Only one more year until she's a teen. Oh no...... that mean's i'll have 4 moody teens in my house. Holy mackramoni.

Luckily i've still got my 4 year old to keep me sain. Next year she'll be in High School, so i'll have 4 in high school as eldest son is repeating a year, and gone back to school.

This is what i got in an email this morning. Thought i'd pass it onto you all.

A little boy asked his mother, 'Why are you crying?' 'Because I'm a woman,' she told him.

'I don't understand,' he said. His Mom just hugged him and said, 'And you never will.'

Later the little boy asked his father, 'Why does mother seem to cry for no reason?'

'All women cry for no reason,' was all his dad could say.

The little boy grew up and became a man, still wondering why women cry.

Finally he put in a call to God. When God got on the phone, he asked, 'God, why do women cry so easily?'

God said:

'When I made the woman she had to be special.

I made her shoulders strong enough to carry the weight of the world,

yet gentle enough to give comfort

I gave her an inner strength to endure childbirth and the rejection that many times comes from her children.

I gave her a hardness that allows her to keep going when everyone else gives up, and take care of her family through sickness and fatigue with out complaining.

I gave her the sensitivity to love her children under any and all circumstances, even when her child has hurt her very badly.

I gave her strength to carry her husband through his faults and fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart.

I gave her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his wife, but sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him unfalteringly.

And finally, I gave her a tear to shed. This is hers exclusively to use whenever it is needed.'

'You see my son,' said God, 'the beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair.

The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart - the place where love resides.'