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Apr

I just can't figure it out!

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Honestly,

The situation that caused the current "bickering" on this site was started by me and my questioning authority.  There were quite a few people who agree with me and willing to verbally state that.  And I am sure there are plenty more that do agree but feel too intimidated by other members of this site to state what they honestly feel.

Stating that there is a sheep mentality and people voting as such is totally the truth.  Voting in breach JUST because ADMIN says someone is in breach is just as stupid as doing what a doctor says JUST because she is a DOCTOR.  I would question a doctor for evidence and proof that some treatment is needed just as I asked Angie for proof that this member was in breach.

I don't think that is even the issue.  I feel like this one member took it upon herself to make it an issue.  She has chosen to blog all over Minti and "defend" admin (as if they even need it). 

Angie and I have entered into communications and are dealing with the issue.  Enough said.

Can the pettiness stop and crappy blogs and the low voting.  It really is getting old.

And for those of you pissed off at my comment, Please Please Please feel free to take the issue up with me personally.  Don't bitch behind my back.  I am a big girl and can take the complaints.

 

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mum2b84
4.10 (Good) | April 5th | mum2b84
Re: I just can't figure it out!

Can the pettiness stop and crappy blogs and the low voting.  It really is getting old.

I didn't vote. I didn't know anyone was still carrying on about this but don't you think this blog is just continuing the argument?

SHOOT so is my comment...



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llmunchkin
3.47 (Average) | April 5th | llmunchkin
Re: I just can't figure it out!

Heyo Chickee,

I am glad that you brought the discussion about the seriousness of voting on reports into an open forum so that everyone could have an opportunity to ask questions about it, or comment on it - well done.  It is a vital part of the site and has the potential to affect everyone.

Like I said, I have been guilty of laziness and voting based on the integrity of the reporter, or not checking the facts properly myself too.  I guess we all want to know that if/when our advice, comments, pictures or a report is made on one of us - that everyone would consider the facts duly and vote accordingly.  It is sensible, it is logical, and I am glad that you wrote about it, as it can be really confusing - especially when you first gain admin voting rights.

Cheers champ - Lui xox



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Arna
5.00 (Excellent) | April 5th | Arna
Re: I just can't figure it out!

Hun, forget it.  As far as I am concerned, you had an issue, didn't know where to put it, so put it in the only group we go to when there is no where else to go (weeeee!  head spinning, too many 'where's!).

Conflict resolution is an every day part of life (hey, we are parents!) and if there is something on minti that is bothering you, then it helps you and others wondering the same thing to see if it is just them.

I went in to see who the reported member was (sneaky me went and saw the resolved reported members!) and there have been soooo many for spamming etc, I could not find who you were talking about.  I did try.



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cathbusymum
5.00 (Excellent) | April 5th | cathbusymum
Re: I just can't figure it out!

After going over yesterdays blog in the bulletin board, Izzy is the voice of reason. She made a comment about what was reported. That should of been the end of it. After that it got a bit personal and now look at where it is gone! Enough everyone please!! Yes, its now a joke, what better way for EVERYONE to move forward. This is my opinion, no one has to agree.

Lets all talk about something else.



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      DarkenedAngel
5.00 (Excellent) | April 5th | DarkenedAngel
Re: I just can't figure it out!

yeah, I'm going to go read a few love stories. there's a few popping up on the activity list now.

Bye!



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lonely28
5.00 (Excellent) | April 5th | lonely28
Re: I just can't figure it out!

This is all getting so way outta hand. Obviously I have no idea what the report was about and really I try to stay out of the whole voting thing unless there is something to back up the claim for reporting. I vote when I vote cos I choose to, not out of cohersion and prompting by other members. There seems to be other underlying issues to this whole thing. People are taking the personal route when there is no need. You have stated your side, lui has stated her, alana her's and so on and so on. Questioning authority needs to happen from time to time, we do live in a democracy. Freedom of speech is something we all have the right too. So really guys, if you don't like it, ignore it, don't read it, whatever!!!! A life without passion is only half a life, a life spent worrying what other people think is no life at all. Let's live our lives with passion and respect, stand up for what we believe in, don't take things so personally and enjoy what we have. It may not last forever....

fi xo



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Domestic-warrior
3.85 (Good) | April 5th | Domestic-warrior
Re: I just can't figure it out!

I didn't get to see the reported thing by angie but i agree with you...we need the evidence no matter who reports it.  You asked the question and rightly so, what is the big deal?



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DarkenedAngel
5.00 (Excellent) | April 5th | DarkenedAngel
Re: I just can't figure it out!

I agree that there is nothign wrong with questioning the actions of the admin and reminding people to check any for evidence before they vote on reported things, but I did think that referring to everyone that voted on that issue in the reported section as sheep was a bit of a harsh blow.

I voted as well - for the first time in ages, I dont' need to explain why I voted the way I did, neither does anyone else, and I don't need to verify whether I checked further into it, and neither does anyone else. Does that make me a baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaad person? No. It just makes me a stubborn member that knows that I don't have to explain myself to anyone except the admin IF they bother to ask.

It's just become a joke now that people are starting to take the piss out of, so don't mind the sheep jokes, it's become all in fun. I mena, really, sheep jokes are an Aussie classic!

As for the rest of the bitching that went on and probably still is going on in some places, just ignore it.



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      Kellzacar
3.95 (Good) | April 5th | Kellzacar
Re: I just can't figure it out!

Well sad DA

I'm having fun with my aussie sheep jokes but that's the aussie  girl humour in me..... those who now me well are laughing about it all....

I agree with everything you have said about voting . .  5 stars from me, u are special as its the 1st time i have voted today , , ,

cheers kellz



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           HarrisonsMommy
3.24 (Average) | April 5th | HarrisonsMommy
Re: I just can't figure it out!

Alana,

You clearly have chosen to not be friends.  Why are you bothering to comment in my blog.

And if you decide you must make your ideas known, why dont' you address the issue at hand.



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                Kellzacar
5.00 (Excellent) | April 5th | Kellzacar
Re: I just can't figure it out!

Hi Angela,

 you said, and i quote "And for those of you pissed off at my comment, Please Please Please feel free to take the issue up"

So i truly didn'[t think that you would mind if i commented.....  Sorry if this offends you, i will not comment in here again.

Have a lovely day and peace be with you

hugs Kellz



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                     HarrisonsMommy
2.04 (Poor) | April 5th | HarrisonsMommy
Re: I just can't figure it out!

hello Alana,

You didn't comment to me, you commented to DA.  I simply asked that if you want to comment in my blog, one that you apparently feel so compassionate about, that you comment to me.

You chose not to.

If you want to discuss things with me, please feel free to do so.  I have never been one to back down from an arguement nor am I one to back away from a disagreement.



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                cazza
5.00 (Excellent) | April 5th | cazza
Re: I just can't figure it out!

Dont you think thats a bit harsh,, looks to me that alana was trying to enlighten the atmosphere,,

 



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                     monyq83
3.63 (Good) | April 5th | monyq83
Re: I just can't figure it out!

Yes, I agree with Cazza.

Alana and her sheep jokes created for a great night last night and lifted everyones spirits between a select few people. I can see all she was trying to do was for the better of Minti, bring her charachter into here and try and do YOU  a favour by turning it around into a funny situation. Pity you obviously dont have a funny bone in your body, or you would have seen that she meant nothing by it, but instead youve just made yourself look stupid.



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                          llmunchkin
2.52 (Average) | April 5th | llmunchkin
Re: I just can't figure it out!

'A select few'?

Would that be the select few who feel that their opinion is the be all and end all on the site - because it would seem that way.

Angela never dictates what you should or shouldn't write, and keeps her opinion to herself when she thinks other people write something stupid.  I don't believe she has done anything to deserve such a nasty personal comment from you.



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                               monyq83
3.92 (Good) | April 5th | monyq83
Re: I just can't figure it out!

1. I was not having a dig at Angela, I support her all the way and believe she has done nothing wrong. Yes, she should have given us an explanation as to why the member was reported, BUT I dont believe Clay would have hired her as Admin if she wasnt mature enough and trustworthy enogh to make decisions for the better of Minti and treat all members equally, which is what shes always done to my knowledge. So why not just have faith in her and support her decision? Anyway, my dig was at HM for having a dig at Alana.

2. I wrote 'select few' to avoid people such as yourself from jumping to conclusions as to who it was I was talking to, but obviously you couldnt help yourself and jumped to conclusions, as always, anyway.



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                                    monyq83
3.92 (Good) | April 5th | monyq83
Re: I just can't figure it out!

Oops my bad I misunderstood that. Didnt realise HM's real name was Angela, thought u were referring to Angieh.



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                                         llmunchkin
5.00 (Excellent) | April 6th | llmunchkin
Re: I just can't figure it out!

Gosh, not jumping to conclusions or anything are you...?

You seem to have taken it upon yourself to have a little crusade against HM and myself over the past 24hrs - try to address the discussion and keep your personal pettiness to yourself.



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                     HarrisonsMommy
2.33 (Poor) | April 5th | HarrisonsMommy
Re: I just can't figure it out!

Not really Cazza.  Alana has done nothing but to add more and more conflict to this situation.



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      HarrisonsMommy
3.00 (Average) | April 5th | HarrisonsMommy
Re: I just can't figure it out!

Don't think it is at all funny DA.  I think it is rediculous that anyone would vote on such an important matter without evidence.  I don't give a crapola about who the reporter is.

And I never asked one soul to indicate if they voted and why, so why you went off on that tangent is besides me.  Frankly I don't want to know...it is just to scary.

So how would you refer to the voting that took place?  Do you honestly believe that all 25 had some insight into the situation that I did not?  Do you honestly believe that they were voting as informed people?  I think not.



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           DarkenedAngel
5.00 (Excellent) | April 5th | DarkenedAngel
Re: I just can't figure it out!

1. I didn't say the voting problem was funny, I said the sheep jokes that are starting to get bantered around are all in fun.

2. How the other 24 people voted I have no idea, and I'm not going to ask them because no one has to explain why they voted on something the way they did. Admin made that rule very clear a long time ago.

3. If you didn't have evidence and wanted more, it's simple, ask, stick a comment about it in the reported section, and either don't vote or vote the other way.

Members that have been unfairly voted off can apply to Admin to be re-instated and their accounts can be brought back if need be as if nothing ever happened, so there's no point making a big issue out of it.



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                HarrisonsMommy
2.58 (Average) | April 5th | HarrisonsMommy
Re: I just can't figure it out!

1. Voting like sheep is nothing to laugh at. 

2.Again, DA I haven't  asked about if and how anyone else voted so I don't know why you continue to bring that up

3. If you don't have all of the facts here, stop commenting.  I have previous stated...I emailed angie about evidence, I chose not to vote because there was no evidence.  Enough about that.

As for past members, it is up to them to argue their case to admin.  I am merely stating that current members need to beware because they are at risk of becoming the next victim of the sheep mentality of voting



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mumof2b
5.00 (Excellent) | April 5th | mumof2b
Re: I just can't figure it out!

I actually agreed with you Angela, I wouldn't and didn't vote on something just because Admin said so....I'm my own person.

The topic should have been left in your blog and that's it. Nothing else should have been said in anyone else's blog and it didn't need to be.....it just highlights the divide that Minti has with certain members and I for one would rather just get on with commenting on the good stuff.

Amanda xxx



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      HarrisonsMommy
3.00 (Average) | April 5th | HarrisonsMommy
Re: I just can't figure it out!

Amanda, do you mean that the issue with the lack of evidence should have been left in my blog?  If that is the case then I have to disagree. 

When a communtiy can't think for itself and follows the herd, mistakes happen, people get hurt, and it is just plain stupidity.

This issue affected all members of Minti and it needed to be available for all to see and discuss.

 



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           mumof2b
5.00 (Excellent) | April 5th | mumof2b
Re: I just can't figure it out!

No, I actually agree that the evidence should have been public, we need to make an informative dicision (sp?), sorry i should be in bed.

What I meant was that the disagreement should have been left in your blog.



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                HarrisonsMommy
3.00 (Average) | April 5th | HarrisonsMommy
Re: I just can't figure it out!

Gotcha



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      lonely28
5.00 (Excellent) | April 5th | lonely28
Re: I just can't figure it out!

HERE, HERE



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