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May
2007

oh the madness...

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This past week has been tough on everyone. My in laws have been here a week now, and at first Matthew loved having them (he still does), but I can see that he has changed this past few days. When I'm home, he tries to push his Nana away and if he sees Nana doing something I normally do (like peeling his apples), he says "no!!" 

I dropped him off at preschool today and for the first time, he grabbed on to my shirt and wouldn't let me go. I stayed for about 15 minutes and he just absolutely refused to let me go.  It was tougher than his first day there ever. He is insecure as his routine has not been the same this past week. His nap times and bed times are the same, but the changes are getting to him. Poor little guy.

My husband is still in pain and has turned out to be a grouchy patient. His narcotics dull the pain, but doesn't take it away completely. I am told that this is the case with anything that has to do with the bones. His mom is the one doing most of the caring for him, but I still check on him. And on those occassion, I see his grouchiness and being 7 months pregnant.. it's not easy to shrug it off. So yesterday, we finally had come head to head. It's the first time his mom has ever seen us this way, but thank heavens she understands. Both she and my husband's father left for an hour to let us work things out... and we did.

It's been tough!!! If not for the in-laws, we'd be in a whole different situation right now. I may be in a hotel somewhere with Matthew and left my husband to care for himself. Well, maybe not... we're not like that...but our house sure wouldn't be a fun place to be in!

 

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MumKim
5.00 (Excellent) | May 2007 | MumKim
Sorry to hear things are tough at the moment
Glad you have great in-laws to help out though. Sending positive thoughts your way all the way from Australia
cheers
Kim and Crankenstien (Natalya)


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      Izzy
5.00 (Excellent) | May 2007 | Izzy
crankenstien?

Thanks for the positive thoughts... could always always use those.

Crankenstein? Is it because she's cranky? That's funny!



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           MumKim
May 2007 | MumKim
Crankenstien
she can be very very cranky!


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hermy
5.00 (Excellent) | May 2007 | hermy
oh the madness...
you poor thing this is the last thing you need.....hoping things will get better soon.......keep strong regards Sandra xxx


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Kristen
5.00 (Excellent) | May 2007 | Kristen
the timing is terrible
so sorry this is all happening at the same time.  Hang in there.  With my move I haven't had an opportunity to make the shirts for you.  So sorry!!  You just may have those babies before I can get to them.  :-)  You are doing great.  Stay tough and off your feet.


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KathrynR1402
5.00 (Excellent) | May 2007 | KathrynR1402
It has been tough!

Oh poor you! Just when you could do with all hands on deck to pamper you...!

And poor Matthew - all empathised out with daddy and needing mummy normal again, and even the novelty of grandparents isnt enough - change in every direction! Oh well, it's all good practice for him for when the twins arrive. That might even seem easier to him after this?

If it wasnt for my inlaws... I'm in that boat too! We've been blessed, havent we! I sat in a group of friends not long ago, and they were all sharing their in-law trials. Only two of us had great relationships with our inlaws (ironically and not with our own parents) while about 8 had problems of one size or another.



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      Izzy
May 2007 | Izzy
tough

You're right. It's a good practice for the changes that will come in 2 short months when the twins arrive. I just feel sorry for him. His daddy is not available, and mommy is just partially so...    Daddy should be very much available in a couple of months so if Matthew is feeling left out, at least he can have one on one with him.



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           KathrynR1402
May 2007 | KathrynR1402
tough
I did everything I could to build up Em's relationship with her daddy when I was pregnant so that she wouldnt mind if I was focused on the baby quite so much, and it seemed to work! Even down to when she fell over on Saturday and scraped the skin off her knee, & got really hysterical (never seen her like that before) and she only wanted daddy to touch her, not me, grandma, cousin, no-one except daddy. So it's good that Matthews dad should be "his" very soon, as he will sure feel like you belong to the girls when they first arrive!


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Marglr
5.00 (Excellent) | May 2007 | Marglr
ahhh
So you need him right now and he can't be there for you and he's going through tough times but it won't last. I got off the pain pills as fast as I could. They alter who you are and if he's never been through stuff as heavy as this surgery he's not got any coping skills. Thank the powers that be for your in-laws,they are a god send. It won't last,this time next year your little family will be humming along to a different tune,one of excitement and full force to the future.


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