I had to pack for 3 little kids, my husband and myself to make the 4 hour drive to my husband's parents on Wednesday night in order to make it there for Thanksgiving the next day. Then we make it back late last night (the drive became 5 hours long because of rain and traffic). Before I left, I had to help draft MInti's weekly pic of the week which did not turn out perfect. I had to leave it up to matthew and clay to finish it since I became too busy packing.
While at the inlaws enjoying good food and enjoying family, I logged in on MInti. I'm a part-time Admin, but I take my duties seriously. Perhaps too seriously that I couldn't log on while on a holiday with family. It is truly a personality flaw. Since the short time that I stole from family to log on Minti, I find negativity. What a downer for my supposed 'family' time. Again, it's my own fault. I shouldn't have logged on.
Yesterday morning, when I found quiet time at my in-laws, I logged on again for 15 minutes. While on, I saw an announcement in the Q&A. I reported it for "not a question". Of course, I don't expect everyone to agree to vote it off. If I wanted to truly delete it, I could have deleted it myself without reporting it. But I like to uphold Clay and Matthew's vision of a 'self-governing' community, so I reported it. But what do you know.... I find highly vocal members. A matter of a simple click "yes" or "no" has to be turned to an opportunity for argument. What DOES it matter where things are in this site? Well, it matters because when others see announcements are OK in the Q&A, it is a very short time before new members follow suit. And pretty soon, the Q&A is back to what it once was when it was left alone - half questions, half announcements. Now, someone would say, "SO?" Well, those members who does nothing but frequent teh Q&A to lend their experience and wisdom, stop doing so.
But then there is a member that made such an assumption about me - that I'm bored! Bored? Oh, how I wish I had time to be bored. I am raising twins (almost 18 months) and a 3 1/2. I am facing a knee surgery by the end of the week. My husband's job is not so secure so in a spam of a few months, we may have to uproot our big family. In anticipation for the "what if" I'm trying to get our house cleaned up in case we need to sell it. Then I have the wonderful job of Admin-ing Minti part time. One would think it's an easy job, but not so. With all the friction between members (endless-tiring-psychologically draining part of the job), there are tasks behind the scenes. I answer tons of emails (I'm frequently behind). And keep in mind, this is a part-time job for this stay at home mom for 3 little kids. I am here more than I should be because I take this job seriously. But with all this, I still manage to get snide remaks about being bored. Bored! Bored! Oh how I wish I was bored.
And then there are those who used to think I'm a good person (before I was an Admin) now think I'm the Wicked Witch of the West! Perhaps this kind of thinking is inevitable since I now have more "power" here Minti. But bare in mind, I still have bosses and I still want to keep the "self-governing" ideal here on Minti. So the 'power' that everyone thinks I have, I more than freely give and delegate to the community.
Oh, yeah.. and then I have my 18 month old twins, who are currently battling asthma. They have 3 different medications on their nebulizer that takes 25 minutes to finish and it's done 2x a day. That's 2 hours of my day, just sitting in front of them strapped in their booster seats so the nebulizer would stay on their faces.
No, friends. I'm not bored. I'm not the wicked witch of the west and I am not all "powerful" you all think I am. I am here part time but in most cases I am here too many hours than what is expected of me.
I am no super-woman and now I'm not trying for sympathy. But what I am requesting is that people be nice to each other. We are all privvy to each other's lives, but only to a point that they allow us - only to a point of the words that they write here for everyone to see. Nothing more. Be nice to everyone. Give off good vibes.
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Don't let nasty pasties get you down at all. HUGS for you
Lexi xxx
