Janice, I dont know what is going on here, everyone loves you! You have the biggest sweetest heart and smile around.
Judging from the comments left before me I see that I am not the only one who thinks that way. We love you Janice and although I dont know who hurt you I hope it all gets sorted out!
Hugs and love.

Janice you are the most loyal, honest, caring, trustworthy and faithful friend  that  anyone on Minti has.  I am so sorry that  you have been wrongly accused.  You do also have good friends here!

Oh my goodness!  Janice I am so sorry for your hurt.  I hope that everything is sorted one way or another.   You know that there are so many people here that love you - I do - and I am sure that they must out-weigh anyone who doesnt.   Big hugs.  Rach xx

I was only just told about this blog. Folkartist is actually sitting with me as I write this. She told me because she was as shocked as we all are. Does this say something to you my friend? For someone to come to me, in person, and because she was/is concerned for you and for what is going on.....like me, she thinks so highly of you too...

Janice...maybe this is just (like Lui said) a misunderstanding....I honestly hope so.

I can not imagine anyone thinking bad of you. You are one of the most honest and loving people here on minti.

Ya know something, I hear many many many things from around here. More than I care to know, more than I would ever repeat...but you are the ONE person that I have never ever heard anything negative about. You are just so loved and respected....

I am so sorry that you have had this experience and I so hope that it gets cleared soon....but for time being....this blog, the replies you have here...they are testament to you and the way people think of you...

You are loved my friend....and for all its worth...I love you dearly!

Your friend ALWAYS!

Hugs

Lavinia

xoxox

I have missed a couple of your blogs on here but they can wait a little longer as this one has taken my breath away. These private groups are not supposed to be for putting others down. This is so sad. I could not imagine how it must feel. Keep being you Janice as it would not be the same here without you. I don't blame you for wanting to get out of the groups, this is supposed to be a site for helping each other. Keep up with your beautiful, positive, inspiring blogs! I look up to you a lot. Take care, Lynette xx

Dear Janice,

I'm completely in the dark with any bad comments made about you, however agree with kseers when she says we must turn our backs on this behaivour....may this time away strengthen us members to stand against people who want to control others through fear mongering and gossip....it doesn't belong here on minti or anywhere else.......

Janice in your time of reflection may the buoyancy of hope come quickly as this place is is empty without you

God bless you and keep you, love rue

JJ, I can only presume that it is a misunderstanding... It would be impossible for anyone to think ill of you. 

We have been down that road, when I thought you thought ill of me and you have picked me up and dragged me up before when I had it wrong.  I send you 3 things; an angel, a native american, a white dove - hope, love, peace xox

You know what, i came on this site and joined for the information and help it could give me.. i never imagined i would actually make friends here but i have..and I think its really sad that people hide behind the computers and bitch about others.. isnt that what high school is for??

Janice i would like to say i always enjoy reading your advice and blogs (even thou you may not know me im a huge fan lol :)).... and  you seem like a very caring genuine person..

Now im not one to say anything bad or nasty.. but come on.. GROW UP people... and Janice shake that toosh of yours as you turn your back to them and walk away....

Steff xx

Well, it's taken me a while to comment Janice.... for that I apologise.... it's taken me a while to CALM DOWN!!!! This whole thing has made me more than mad! You of all people.... who do these people think they are??? COWARDS are what they are my friend as they don't seem to be capable of making their opinions public. They instead choose to hide behind the "private group" banner. Anyone that has had any dealings with you Janice knows full well that you are not anything but an honest, straightforward, caring, giving, supportive friend. How dare anyone even begin to think otherwise??? It is beyond comprehension..... you disloyal???? Sheesh, if your disloyal then I'm elle mcpherson. There are more people here on minti that respect you and have the honour of calling you friend. I know you Janice and this whole thing is just absurd. So to whoever it is that is involved in this complete farce.... well done!! You've just made it completely clear to one of the most trusted people on this website how weak and immature you really are. Janice, I wish there was some way I could take away the hurt and pain but sadly I can't. You know I am here to support you as you've done for me. I think you're truly fantastic Janice and stuff the small minded people that think otherwise.

much love to you and steve,

fi xoxo

P.S Ok so I haven't calmed down yet..... I will...... some day!

OMGosh Janice. What is the world coming too. I can't believe someone would be like this to you. You have got to be one of the nicest people on minti, so honest and genuine, and i can trust you in every way. Who ever this person is grow up. Hugs Janice.

What is this site coming to? How ridiculous that someone could say that YOU could be disloyal! You would have to be one of the most loyal people I have ever come to know! I am sorry this has happened to you Janice - I know what it is like to be talked about in a group behind my back & it's not nice. I still love you and always will!

Teshia xxoo

Well said Janice!  You are a shining light to mums on Minti - you are so lovely and I am sorry you have seen the nastier side of Minti.  Sadly it is there and I feel the same way.  Let us all turn our backs on it and decide to be helpful and encouraging members of Minti - as you always have been - and not wrapped up in who said what to who and whose friends they are.  This is not high school!  Thanks

sadly this is a place i have found that no one is sacred. someone has got something to say about someone. whether it is good or bad.

I have just learnt over the last year and a half to keep my distance, trust no one really cause ppl who you think are your friends talk about you behind your back or say stuff you told them in confidence. I have my friends from here, 1 that was from another site and 3 from here that I do trust and the others there is always a bit of not sure.

I just take it now as they are jealous and want to be like you, cause no matter what you are the mum of everyone here. I know I dont talk to you a lot and I dont do blogs often, but I know if I had a problem I could go to you and know you have the right thing to say. I wish there were more people like you Janice.

Very sad to read of your experience Janice.  Be assured you are a wonderful shining example of the type of person we want more of here at minti. 

You are a feature of my chats with various people about the attraction and success of this site and I am very proud of you for standing tall against this type of behaviour.  Thanks for having faith in the many of us here at minti who wish only well unto others 

Aww, Janice, you are such a wonderful person, I just can't believe that anyone would have a bad word to say about you.  You open your heart up to everyone on Minti and this is what you get, it is just so wrong!.

It is wrong that people have made you feel so down.  I hope that you have a good day today.

You are loved by so many Minti people.

Angie

Oh Janice! I cant believe that anyone could say such a thing about you. You are a beautiful person. Even thou i dont know you all that well, you have always been so lovely to me. I love reading your blogs. You are always so positive and caring.

I hope that you are feeling better today. Obviously you have alot of people who genuinly care about you here, so dont let one or two bad eggs get ya down!

Big hugs, Cass xoxox

oh Janice, I find it so hard to belueve that anyone could find anything to object to in you! They have a warped view of reality. Im so sorry you've been hurt. Please read & re-read all the wonderful comments below and hold your head high. Some opinions are worth reading, some are not, so leave the groups that have hurt you. Then just concentrate on those who know your value!

Oh my beautiful Mum ..

Iam so very sorry to hear you so sad this breaks my heart you are a wondrful persondont you let anyone ever tell you differant . It makes memad that all this group stuff has been going onfor a while and now someone as innocent friendly warm and loving as you is hurting and thats not fair. I hope this has no affect on your future support and advice on minti . You are very popular on here and to me you are amazing and i love you loads. This placewould be dead without you

Thinking of you xxxxxxxxxxx love you heaps xxx

Janice, I feel so saddend that you have been made the object of derision within Minti. This is an act of ultimate betrayal of your genuine care,love and concern for every single member of the community. I also along with the majority, have felt your heart touch with me and mine.

I cope with things as they are because of your words and wisdom, without that knowledge and experience you passed on, I for one would be learning the hard way. I hope you get the apology you so richly deserve and are not going to allow the saddness of this, take you away from us all. I think you make very valid points on private groups, and being in existence for humans they do breed conspiracy and gossip, sadly.

It may be a good time to re think our motivations behind our individual needs to be members of groups, and think on how we all could work better at being more open and honest with our time here. If you Dear Janice can end up being so cruely treated, then who next, your Sister in Soul Marg,the kind and positive Pauline27!!!!!!!!!!! No, I for one am re-evaluating my membership in private groups.

Much love, respect and healing thoughts to you. Luv Winnie.xxxx

Awww poor you, Janice..

Just reading people's comments here, reinforces how valuable you are to the Minti community, and how we'd all be lost without you :)

I may not totally know of the things you speak of, but all I do know is, each and every person deserves to be treated with respect..
And when one is not getting back that respect, they have a right to walk away.. just as you do :)

You are a wonderful person, trust me, I know when I see (or read. hehe) one :)

Don't let the comments of other people, affect the way you view yourself..
'cause honestly, look at this page of yours, it is FULL of positive comments about you..
Look at what you mean to other people.. look at what you mean to me :)

I am like you, I try my best to be there for people, but sometimes the odd person comes along..
And for some reason, they don't appreciate you the way others do..
And who's fault is that ? Most definitely not yours !
Their words and actions are a reflection of their character, not yours :)

All I can say is, you're a great friend..
And if I could ever count on anybody, it would be you :)

You're a ray of sunshine on Minti.. and don't ever let anybody tell you otherwise :)

Love Thuy xoxoxoxox

Janice,

I'm so sorry you feel betrayed. you're one of the most positive people around here.  Because of how private groups work, a lot of people go there and air out their dirty laundry... or more like they make dirty laundry. It is sad, really.  Before I was an admin, I kept my Minti relationship in public. You woudn't find me corresponding with anyone in private because there really is no reason for it.  After being here for more than 2 years now, I knew how gossipy people can be and after becoming an Admin, I find the gossiping even worse.

Please don't let others here make you feel bad. We know what kind of person you are and that is all that matters.

I just hate to see someone as great a person as you become "hardened" because of what people say.

Are you kidding me??
Some people would go and do this to you.. That is JUST NOT right and I am very upset to hear that this has happened to you. How people can be so ignorant and rude..

This is so NOT TRUE about you.. Its the total opposite.. You are the MOST LOVING person I have ever met in my entire life.. I adore you dearly and you know that.. I miss you terribly and I wish I was there with you now to give you hugs and whatever else that you needed done.

I am with Helen on this one.. I have NEVER heard anyone bad talk you in any way..

This still shocks me, like Jess I am at a loss for words.. My goodness.. Wow..

I hope I can chat with you soon, we need to talk :)

And I do agree.. DO not let this bug you (though I already know it has) but these people (whoever you are and you KNOW who you are) are stupid, mean and disrespectful people that have NO idea what they're talking about!

Love you sooo much Janice xoxoxoxo

I don't believe it.  I just don't believe it.  I am at a loss for words...  (and you know a loss for words from me is rather serious).
I'll be trying to catch up with you ASAP..

Love you Janice, and don't let it get to you please, you have other things more important to think about...  Like me.. :)

im i reading right??? people saying bad things about you??? NO WAY...what in the world do they have in their little minds to say bad about you???

some ppl just dont have anything better to do than judge others when they need to have a good look at themselves....im sorry you have had this happen janice......you are a great woman and didnt deserve this....

naomi xxxxxxx

This is awful Im sorry this has happened and you are so much better than this. You are a well respected member here on minti.

WHAT!!!!  DISLOYAL???  I can imagine how you are feeling. Dear Lady to call you disloyal is an introversion of their own feelings.  This had to come from a scared little person who has not figured their life out as of yet and propaly never will. Guess what?? I love Ya,I miss you and many others love Ya and stand beside you. So delete away just don't ever delete me!!  Cause I'd just come back and bug you any way!!! Hugs!! Hugs!!! and more Hugs!!!

Good grief Janice

I cant believe this, I have NEVER heard anyone say a bad word about you, and anyone who has been does NOT know you as we do !!!!!!! You have to be the most respected member here along with Marg. This is crazy, but please rise above it, I am so sorry you are hurting right now

Sending you all my love, hugs, support

xxx

janice

this is so sad.

where do people get the time and energy to do such things? life is so short and its a shame that there is such goings on

when we are so tired from work and housework and socialising its so good to "hop" onto minti .

you are a highly respected member on minti with lots of sound advice and experience im truly saddened to hear that you have been treated badly.

hugs and kisses 

take care

cheers annie

It saddens me to hear that people are calling you disloyal and generally being awful to you, I do not know who is responsible (and I don't wish to know) they are obvoously not nice. You are one of the nicest people I have meet on Minti and are a very supportive friend, I hope that you are able to use that wonderful strength you have to see past these individuals and continue to enjoy and share with us your knowledge and experience.

It makes me so angry to know you're hurting so much and that someone has made you feel this way. I know you and I know what you stand for and if anyone were to speak of you in such a way then they just don't know you and that's their loss and ignorance. I've been a part of some horrible groups that I left for this exact reason, I couldn't stand what was being said and the group mentality was very disappointing to say the least.

Don't worry about others say about you, I learnt that the hard way, they aren't worth your time. You have so many special friends on Minti that value you and love you and I for one am so proud to say that I know you and I love you more than you know.

xxxx

Hi janice I would say you are one of the nicest people on minti and I always look for your blog. I can't imagine anyone hurting you, as to hurt you would hurt alot of us. YOU ARE SO POPULAR

Love Pauline

i have no idea why would ever DREAM to call your disloyal! i left all private groups awhile ago hun and it did me the world of good, im now back in a couple but i try stick to who i trust.....

hunni keep your head up i for one feel you are one of the most loved ppl on this site! dont let the opinions of a few loosers make you feel badly.

xxxnat

hi janice,

hugs????

xoxo

Hey,

Sorry that there are so small minded ppl on here and that they have affedted u in this hurtful way, hope that you stay on minti to help those of us who need it. 

cheers Queenie xoxoxox

Janice I love you, you know that, and it hurts me to know end that this has happened, don't wait for them to delete you, go to your groups and leave, we live and learn (unfortunately) xxxxxxxxxxxx

Oh Janice, it saddens me to see this sort of thing going on on a parenting site at all.I value your friendship you have been so kind and know when to say the right things. You and Steve lift me up when I'm feeling down. Thank you for breing a fab friend.(and Steve)

You are right it is childish that this behaviuor is happening. I just ignore it and just talk to my closet friends

Take care lovey

Love Trace xxxx

mum i love you dearly, and you know that.

I really enjoyed our discussion last night and i can't wait til the middle of september when i can finally meet you - you know i give huge hugs hahaha so you wanna take a big breath before you give me a hug haha.

I understand what you are going through, as i have been through the same thing myself recently. Alot of the members on here aren't who they appear to be and it really is sad.

Just know that i am here for you ALWAYS.

Love you xoxo

Hi Mum..

I Dont know what has happened here, but if i see in any of the groups that someone is bagging u, they want to watch out...

You are the best mum ever and always being there for us all, and it disgusts me when some act the way they do on here , and it makes you wonder how they survive in the big world..

yes i have being known to say some Ignorant comments on here, but i would Never stay in a Group where one of the closest person that i Trust, love and respect was being given a hard time....

Whomever it is that has Upset u, well they can kiss my friendship Good bye as well...

xx cazza

Aw hun, i value our friendship, the love and support you give me. I can totally see why others call you mum, even sometimes get jealous! im sorry that you have been hurt by these people, and these people should be ashamed.( to who ever you are talking about)) You are Definately one person i look up the most on this site xxxx

Ohhh janice, I dearly value the friendship and advice you have offered me, I have no idea who you are talking about or what has been said. Unfortunately there are some very small minded people out there who have nothing better to do with their spare time and if thats the way they wish to waste it then so be it. I feel you have done the right thing by not naming and shaming these people but general asking to be removed from these groups. I sincerely hope this does not affect your opinion of Minti and the general community here as there are many members who do appreciate everything you have and hopefully continue to offer.

Thinking of you, Karen. xx.

 Oh my goodness! I honestly don't actually know to which bitchiness you refer. That isn't what concerns me. What really concerns me is you, lovely lady! I am most upset on your behalf. 

Big big bigger biggest hugs!!!

Cath xxooxxoo