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When your kids blame others for their own misbehaviors, watch out.
If you always accept what your child says and scold the other child, you may be raising a blamer. Try not to get in the middle. Use the family meeting instead.
“Look what you did, you stupid kid. It’s all his fault.” Page 3 from Billy the Blamer in Character Building on BackTalk Street
Your kids will have lots to say about blaming. They see it at school, in the neighborhood, and maybe they’ll see it in themselves too.
The Family Meeting
Let’s use Billy the Blamer’s story from BackTalk Street. Here are some questions to consider for your family meeting:
- What’s wrong with Billy blaming others for his mistakes?
- How do you feel when someone blames you for something you didn’t do? Why?
- How do you think other kids feel when you blame them? Why?
- Is admitting a mistake better than blaming? Why?
- What advice would you give a blamer?
Your kids will have lots to say about blaming. They see it at school, in the neighborhood, and maybe they’ll see it in themselves too.
To avoid your child from becoming defensive, discuss blaming by reading a short story about it. This means you won’t be directing the conversation at your child’s behavior and he’ll feel freer to share his thoughts.
Key Idea: When you know how your child thinks, you’ll be better able to help him. Why? Because building character starts with getting your kids to talk.
One more thing, remember to set up a weekly time for holding family meetings. You’ll enjoy the meetings and you’ll be building character in your child.
Pick up Character Building on BackTalk Street. It has games, puzzles, stickers and discussion stories about the kids and their misbehaviors on BackTalk Street. Read the stories at your family meetings. Enjoy the discussions.
All these family meeting blogs will become a Family Meeting eBook. Do you want to have your comments, questions, tips, and first name included? Just leave your comments below.
If spelling or grammar are problem, don't worry. I'll do the editing. To assure you of quality no links or objectionable material will be included. |
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Kids with self-respect have character and discipline. Character is a force of gravity. It keeps kids grounded. Respect is the fruit of character and discipline. So how do you help your kids respect themselves and build character too?
Self-respect is the fruit of discipline; the sense of dignity grows with the ability to say no to oneself. – Abraham J. Heschel
The Family Meeting Increases Family Values
Compare your kids to a beautiful evergreen tree. Its roots are surrounded by rich soil. That soil is your family values. To keep your kids grounded, healthy, and strong, they must be loyal to their family values.
Discuss your family values within the Family Meeting
What are family values?
How is self-respect a family value?
What is self-discipline?
How does self-discipline increase self-respect?
How do kids act when they don’t practice self-discipline? Give examples.
How can family members become strong like the mighty evergreen tree?
What is one practical thing you each can do to increase your self-respect?
Write it down. Make it a promise. Post it on the refrigerator.
The Family Meeting can guide your kids to become strong respectful people of character. It only takes 30 minutes a week. If your kids are like most kids, they watch TV 23 hours a week. Do those programs build self-respect and character? The Family Meeting does. Make time for family meetings. I know you can.
Want to have your comments, questions, tips, and first name included in my next Family Meeting eBook? Just leave your comments below.
If spelling or grammar are problem, don't worry. I'll do the editing. To assure you of quality no links or objectionable material will be included.
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If you’d like a ready-made notebook to keep track of your family meetings, Pick up my Family Meeting Diary at http://www.kidsdiscuss.com/parent_resource_center.asp?pr_id=kd006 It will become a treasure of how you created a loving family.
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Being on Jury Duty these past few days inspired me. I saw the fairness in our system. The lawyers were professional and respectful.
The judge respected the lawyers by letting them lay out the case and she respected the jurors in the manner she gave us several instructions. She never gave us her impressions or tried to sway us in any way.
The jury, without knowing each other, came together to discuss and make decisions. Each member took the task seriously and we made the best decisions we could with the information we had.
If you get the call to be a juror, take it. You'll be inspired too. |
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Kids enjoy slumber parties with their friends. Why not enjoy a slumber party within your family? Look inside to find out how.
Building character takes more than rules. It takes fun times together. A family slumber party will be remembered long after it is over. It will warm your hearts.
"The grass isn't greener on the 'other side. The grass isn't greener on your side. It's Greener where you water it." - Source Unknown
The Family Meeting:
To water the grass within your home, hold a family meeting to plan a family slumber party. Find out the answers to the following questions:
When shall we schedule it?
Which room is best for the party?
Who’ll get out the sleeping bags?
Who wants pop corn for the party?
Do you want to talk and giggle late into the night?
What else would you like to do at the party?
Conclusion for the Family Meeting:
Besides looking forward to the slumber party, realize how much you are teaching your children. They’ll learn to brainstorm good ideas, make group decisions, enjoy each other, and build a creative character too. Let the weekly family meeting help you parent with excellence. You can water the grass within your home.
How do you have family fun?
Additional Help:
Our Family Meeting Diary records your parenting skills and proves you helped your family grow with fun activities. Pick it up and play today.
Want to have your comments, questions, tips, and first name included in my next Family Meeting eBook? Just leave your comments below.
If spelling or grammar are problem, don't worry. I'll do the editing. To assure you of quality no links or objectionable material will be included. |
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Would you like to build a happy character in your kids? Even if your family lacks talent, have fun together. Create a music night. Look inside to find out how.
"How do you spell Love to your children? T.I.M.E " - Source Unknown
Hold a Family Meeting:
Don’t let your kids become shy, fearful of making mistakes, or feel their opinions don’t count. Loosen them up by planning a family music night.
Help your kids discuss the following:
Find a night that fits for everyone
Decide which kitchen utensil will be the microphone
Pick out the best music to play
Ask, “Who wants to sing?
Dance?
Clap to rhythm?
Whistle?
Mime a song?
Play an instrument?
On Family Music Night
When one round of songs is finished, take turns using the different ways to make music. Keep playing and exchanging until everyone has tried every method.
Become an orchestra. Pick the best song for everyone to express themselves together.
The family meeting helps everyone look forward to music night. When the members can be silly, express themselves without criticism, and have fun together, your family will be building a happy character within each person.
Additional Help:
Record your Family Meeting Discussion in our Family Meeting Diary. Years from now read your Family Diary and remember how much fun you had.
Want to have your comments, questions, tips, and first name included in my next Family Meeting eBook? Just leave your comments below.
If spelling or grammar are problem, don't worry. I'll do the editing. To assure you of quality no links or objectionable material will be included. |
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Dear Parents,
Family meetings create an unbeatable bond between parents and kids. In family meetings parents have the opportunity to build character, plan events, discuss problems, and have fun with their kids. The family meeting is the natural forum for guiding our children.
Your Invitation to Write Your Family Meeting Comments into My Next eBook:
Want to have your comments, questions, or tips, and first name included in my next Family Meeting e-Book? Just leave your comments on some or all of my blogs about the family meeting.
If spelling or grammar is a problem, don't worry. I'll do the editing. To assure you of quality, no links or objectionable material will be included.
I'd love to include your ideas, questions, and comments.
With warm wishes for your family meeting success,
Jean
Jean Tracy, MSS |
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Dear Parents,
Family meetings create an unbeatable bond between parents and kids. In family meetings parents have the opportunity to build character, plan events, discuss problems, and have fun with their kids. The family meeting is the natural forum for guiding our children.
Your Invitation to Write Your Family Meeting Comments into My Next eBook:
Want to have your comments, questions, or tips, and first name included in my next Family Meeting e-Book? Just leave your comments on some or all of my blogs about the family meeting.
If spelling or grammar is a problem, don't worry. I'll do the editing. To assure you of quality, no links or objectionable material will be included.
I'd love to include your ideas, questions, and comments.
With warm wishes for your family meeting success,
Jean
Jean Tracy, MSS |
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Help your kids discuss family fun events before it’s too late. Don’t know how? Find out with the power of family meetings to bond your family with fun activities like the one below. It builds character too.
The Family Meeting
The thunder is roaring. The lightning is crackling. Enjoy the dark with candles. This is the time to create pleasant memories.
Discuss how to prepare for storm events:
Talk about what it was like before the light bulb
Plan a candle light game night
Talk about safety and candles
Ask who will find the candles?
Find out which board games the family enjoys?
Where are they stored?
Will there be cookies?
Who will get them?
The Family Meeting is perfect for planning family fun and building character. When the power goes out, light the candles. You don’t have to wait for thunder and lightning. Get your kids to discuss how to have family fun now.
Why not pretend the power is out tonight? Enjoy your kids.
What does your family do when the power goes out?
Additional Help:
Pick up the Family Meeting Diary to keep a log of your family meetings. Years from now, it will become your family memory book. Why not start today? |
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Help your kids discuss family fun events before it’s too late. Don’t know how? Find out with the power of family meetings to bond your family with fun activities like the one below. It builds character too.
The Family Meeting
The thunder is roaring. The lightning is crackling. Enjoy the dark with candles. This is the time to create pleasant memories.
Discuss how to prepare for storm events:
Talk about what it was like before the light bulb
Plan a candle light game night
Talk about safety and candles
Ask who will find the candles?
Find out which board games the family enjoys?
Where are they stored?
Will there be cookies?
Who will get them?
The Family Meeting is perfect for planning family fun and building character. When the power goes out, light the candles. You don’t have to wait for thunder and lightning. Get your kids to discuss how to have family fun now.
Why not pretend the power is out tonight? Enjoy your kids.
What does your family do when the power goes out?
Additional Help:
Pick up the Family Meeting Diary to keep a log of your family meetings. Years from now, it will become your family memory book. Why not start today? |
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Most kids don’t know how to make a friend. They may be shy, too loud, brag, or try too hard. If your child wants friends but doesn’t know how to make them, look inside.
"A cheerful friend is like a sunny day spreading brightness all around."
- John Lubcock
The Family Meeting
Teach your child how to make friends within the family meeting.
Let’s say your child has a basketball and sees some neighbor kids but doesn’t know how to approach them. Discuss with your child how to ask them to play.
- Talk about why he must look cheerful
- Instruct him to smile
- Ask him what he’d say
- Tell him call out to the kids in a loud clear voice
- Role-play together how to make friends with them
Use the family meeting to teach your kids social skills. When kids discuss and role-play how to make friends, they’ll be prepared. Enjoy watching them become friendly children. You’ll be teaching them an important skill for life. They’ll be happy and confident too.
Additional Help:
Life is hard when your child needs friends
and you don't know how to help. If you're
looking for solutions, pick up my
Social Skills Kit for Kids
with 50 fun social skills to choose and role-play at: http://www.kidsdiscuss.com/parent_resource_center.asp?pr_id=kd011
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