http://www.minti.com/members/jenlemen/advice/ Most Recent Advice on Minti by jenlemen Copyright 2009 Minti en-uk jenlemen Karen Maezen Miller is a author, a blogger and a Zen Buddhist priest, but don’t let any of that fool you. Underneath all the trappings of titles is a woman of heart and wit who also happens to have done her soul work. Every page of Momma Zen will convince you, I promise. I asked Karen to talk to me ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/8523/A-Conversation-with-Karen-Maezen-Miller-Mother-and-Author-of-MommaZen-Walking-the-Crooked-Path-of-Motherhood/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/8523/A-Conversation-with-Karen-Maezen-Miller-Mother-and-Author-of-MommaZen-Walking-the-Crooked-Path-of-Motherhood/ Mon, 31 Mar 2008 19:22:41 -0700 jenlemen Let's declare Minti a kindness zone this holiday season!  Wouldn't it be fantastic if we were trying to out-do each other in random comments of kindness!?  How can you spread the love? Send a kind comment on an article you especially love. Answer a question with postive words of encouragement. Compliment someone who is not expecting it. ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/8010/A-New-Wave-of-Kindness-Visits-Minti-this-Christmas/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/8010/A-New-Wave-of-Kindness-Visits-Minti-this-Christmas/ Tue, 04 Dec 2007 16:22:26 -0800 jenlemen My daughter is only nine, but already I'm beginning to see some unsavory tweenager behaviors.  You know which ones I mean--the eye roll, the grunt, the sarcastic response.  I'm convinced Madeleine isn't trying to torture me as much as she is trying out "older" behaviors for affect.  I have strategies for this kind of thing; I know how to get ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/7859/Digital-Revolution-How-You-Can-Leverage-Your-Kids-Interest-in-Tech-to-Improve-Communication/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/7859/Digital-Revolution-How-You-Can-Leverage-Your-Kids-Interest-in-Tech-to-Improve-Communication/ Thu, 15 Nov 2007 07:36:17 -0800 jenlemen My daughter Madeleine has been going through a hard time recently.  She's only nine, but I'm getting the sense that she really needs a little extra TLC (tender loving care) now more than ever.  This weekend we'll inaugurate our first Mother/Daugher weekend with a short bus ride away to a nearby big city.  We'll stay with friends to cut corners ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/7768/MotherDaughter-Weekend-Anyone/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/7768/MotherDaughter-Weekend-Anyone/ Wed, 31 Oct 2007 09:14:21 -0700 jenlemen Take a poll!  It's all in the numbers.This advice will be lost on you mamas with babies, but the parents of tweenagers will be deeply appreciative.I don't know about you, but most of the time when I ask a simple question like "Did you like your lunch?" or "How was math class?"  I get a truly non-committal grunt or nod ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/7767/My-NEW-Best-Parenting-Trick-that-Improves-Communication-95-of-the-Time/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/7767/My-NEW-Best-Parenting-Trick-that-Improves-Communication-95-of-the-Time/ Wed, 31 Oct 2007 08:37:59 -0700 jenlemen There's been some controversy in celebrity news lately as reports surface that (former) U.S. pop star Britney Spears is sometimes un-clothed in the presence of her two small children, ages one and two.   The internet is buzzing with analysis and advice worthy of a national emergency, with experts being called in right and left to give the "official" perspective on ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/7553/To-Cover-Up-or-Bare-it-All-You-Decide/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/7553/To-Cover-Up-or-Bare-it-All-You-Decide/ Sat, 29 Sep 2007 08:47:35 -0700 jenlemen My nine year old has been resisting any pokes or prodding on my part to make sure she gets out the door on time.  Since she's basically a very responsible kid, I'm realizing the issue isn't so much that she doesn't want to be on time (she does!)--it's that she's getting to an age where she doesn't want to take ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/7514/Tips-for-Getting-Out-the-Door-in-a-Hurry-with-School-Aged-Kids/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/7514/Tips-for-Getting-Out-the-Door-in-a-Hurry-with-School-Aged-Kids/ Sat, 29 Sep 2007 07:52:23 -0700 jenlemen I'm noticing a big surge in confidence these days in both my kids.  Here are some things we've been practicing over the last few years that are finally paying off. Let your kids try new things.  Too often as parents we are so nervous about our children experiencing failure that we hold them back without realizing it.  So go ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/7400/10-Things-You-Can-Do-To-Foster-Confidence-in-Your-Children-UPDATED/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/7400/10-Things-You-Can-Do-To-Foster-Confidence-in-Your-Children-UPDATED/ Mon, 03 Mar 2008 04:53:00 -0800 jenlemen Don't ask me why, don't ask me how, but I promise you, it works like magic.  At this point all I have to do is say "TEN" and they all start scrambling to do whatever it is I asked them to do.  No questions asked.  My friends and neighbors think I'm nuts.  "Ten?"  they wonder out loud, "What does that ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/7344/My-Only-Parenting-Trick-that-Works-999-of-the-Time/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/7344/My-Only-Parenting-Trick-that-Works-999-of-the-Time/ Mon, 03 Sep 2007 17:52:35 -0700 jenlemen I often write in my blog about our life with our neighbors.  So often, people write me privately asking "how did you do that?" or maybe more importantly..."how can I do that??"  Some people can't seem to crack the code on good neighbor relations.  Other people always seem to be in conflict with their neighbors no matter where they live.But ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/7174/Neighborhood-101-A-Call-for-Advice-Articles/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/7174/Neighborhood-101-A-Call-for-Advice-Articles/ Thu, 16 Aug 2007 07:01:08 -0700 jenlemen Any parent of a perfectionist knows how maddening it can be.  This is the child who is afraid to go to kindergarten because she doesn't know how to read yet.  The first grader who cries (literally) over spilled milk.  The fourth grader who refuses to go to the party because he might have to dance.  Call this behavior whatever you ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/7173/The-Perfect-Thing-for-Your-Little-Perfectionist-Wreck-this-Journal/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/7173/The-Perfect-Thing-for-Your-Little-Perfectionist-Wreck-this-Journal/ Thu, 16 Aug 2007 06:37:10 -0700 jenlemen Re: what can i do to be happy away from my kids?Asked by mdthomQuestion:since i made the huge mistake of returning to work too soon, i cant stand to be away from them at all. i know this isn't healthy. i wasnt like this before going back to work, so now i want to make up for lost time. and ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/7151/If-You-Have-to-Work-But-Still-Want-to-Stay-Connected-to-Your-Kids/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/7151/If-You-Have-to-Work-But-Still-Want-to-Stay-Connected-to-Your-Kids/ Thu, 16 Aug 2007 07:13:44 -0700 jenlemen If your kids are like mine, they've been running wild all summer, going to sleep with the late summer sun.  I love this kind of freedom and fun for summer holidays but know that it means disaster for school days when morning (and the bus!) comes so much earlier.  Here are the steps we're taking to get everyone back on ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/7150/Avoid-the-Bedtime-Blues-First-Week-of-School/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/7150/Avoid-the-Bedtime-Blues-First-Week-of-School/ Tue, 14 Aug 2007 05:32:50 -0700 jenlemen My friend Natala just wrote me and asked if I had any suggestions for taking a one year old on a road trip--"oh and by the way, this is a kid who hates to sleep in the car." Here you go, N--all the best advice I can think of for you and all the Minti moms in the same boat. ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/6982/Tips-for-Taking-Sleepless-Toddlers-on-Roadtrips/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/6982/Tips-for-Taking-Sleepless-Toddlers-on-Roadtrips/ Thu, 02 Aug 2007 11:48:18 -0700 jenlemen Tried and true tips, mostly created from my experience with Number One.  :) Pick the right school for your child.  It's easy to assume the school around the corner will have to do.  Make sure before you commit.  Your child will adjust much easier if the school environment is a good match for his learning style and temperament. ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/6963/Getting-Your-Reluctant-Child-Ready-for-Kindergarten/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/6963/Getting-Your-Reluctant-Child-Ready-for-Kindergarten/ Tue, 31 Jul 2007 19:50:18 -0700 jenlemen Do not draw for your child.  Kids need lots of room to draw, scribble, paint and experiment.  There will be a time for representational drawing later.  Right now it really doesn’t matter if it “looks like” anything to anyone at all.  The point is to enjoy the process of putting color on paper.  Your child will get more out of ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/6962/Dos-and-Donts-For-Parents-Who-Want-to-Encourage-Their-Artistic-Child/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/6962/Dos-and-Donts-For-Parents-Who-Want-to-Encourage-Their-Artistic-Child/ Tue, 31 Jul 2007 19:38:44 -0700 jenlemen I am surrounded these days by new mothers making the transition from one to two.  Here are my best tips from my own days of trying to figure out the two kid maze. Easy does it.  Transitioning to two children can be an overwhelming adjustment.  Do yourself a favor and refrain from using the ease you’ve achieved with one ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/6961/Transitioning-to-Two-What-to-do-when-you-have-your-hands-full-with-your-first-born-and-your-new-baby/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/6961/Transitioning-to-Two-What-to-do-when-you-have-your-hands-full-with-your-first-born-and-your-new-baby/ Tue, 31 Jul 2007 19:35:49 -0700 jenlemen I'm at a stage of parenting where everything feels new all over again. At almost nine, my daughter has the marks of becoming a "tween-ager" any second now with bouts of moodiness, and a little hint of attitude to boot. I have to admit, I am not relishing this new challenge in my parenting career! One thing I do know ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/6783/Evidence-based-Parenting/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/6783/Evidence-based-Parenting/ Mon, 16 Jul 2007 21:24:39 -0700 jenlemen In Self-Esteem, A Family Affair,  Jean Illsley-Clark talks about the different developmental stages kids go through and the messages they need to hear to grow up healthy and fulfilled in every sense of the word.   I was surprised to learn that ages 6-12 is the time when most children decide what family rules and values they want to keep for ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/6135/More-Advice-about-Sharing-Your-Values-with-Your-Kids/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/6135/More-Advice-about-Sharing-Your-Values-with-Your-Kids/ Tue, 29 May 2007 19:40:12 -0700 jenlemen Okay, so you figured out how to get the kids to bed--getting them to actually sleep is another story!  Here are four tricks that work with babies, toddlers and school-aged children.  They might even work on you!  Add your own tips and tricks in the comments below. Monkey see, monkey do.   Children are social beings.  Why sleep when you ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/5704/Bedtime-is-for-Sleeping-Tricks-to-Get-Your-Little-Ones-Down-for-the-Night/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/5704/Bedtime-is-for-Sleeping-Tricks-to-Get-Your-Little-Ones-Down-for-the-Night/ Wed, 02 May 2007 13:08:37 -0700 jenlemen We've never been the kind of family to take vacations--unless you want to count that weekend here and there cooped up in your aunt's living room looking at family photos.  But this past year when one of our closest and dearest friends announced she would hold her wedding in South Africa, my husband and I both felt deep down we ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/5598/An-Argument-for-Adventure-Travel-with-Kids/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/5598/An-Argument-for-Adventure-Travel-with-Kids/ Wed, 18 Apr 2007 19:31:45 -0700 jenlemen My neighbors recently agonized over what to do with their teenage son who was lobbying to skip school one day to see his very sweet girlfriend who had returned from an exchange program.  They certainly didn't want him to miss school, since he sometimes struggles with his assignments.  On the other hand, they realized he was being very upfront and ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/5104/Passing-on-Your-Values-to-Your-Children/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/5104/Passing-on-Your-Values-to-Your-Children/ Wed, 14 Mar 2007 11:36:21 -0700 jenlemen Kids learn early on that having mom or dad's attention is the best thing on earth.  Most kids prefer positive attention but will take whatever scraps are available as long as it means someone is making eye contact and talking to them--even if that means they are getting in trouble.When my kids were smaller and starting to act up, I ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/5056/What-Kind-of-Attention-Do-You-Want-A-Question-for-Kids-and-Parents/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/5056/What-Kind-of-Attention-Do-You-Want-A-Question-for-Kids-and-Parents/ Sat, 10 Mar 2007 09:14:04 -0800 jenlemen Have we hugged yet today?It doesn't matter if we already have or not.  Just asking the question gives me a chance to connect once more with my school-age kids whose lives are getting busier by the second.  Most of the time my kids will happily jump into my arms, no matter what the answer--but just in case they say "yes, ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/4945/My-favorite-kid-question-is/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/4945/My-favorite-kid-question-is/ Wed, 28 Feb 2007 12:14:12 -0800 jenlemen What do you do when things go right?  When major milestones are reached?  When stubborn behaviors give way to great new habits?  You could reward your kids, but that can get exhausting after awhile.  You could use praise, but new research is showing that verbal rewards can sometimes end up not being particularly effective.  Here are a handful of joyful ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/4944/The-Power-of-Celebration/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/4944/The-Power-of-Celebration/ Wed, 28 Feb 2007 11:34:04 -0800 jenlemen For those days when you just can't bear to brave the weather, here's a list of things to try: Make a bird's nest.   My little children loved to pretend they were little birdies when I would make a circle of blankets around them on the couch.  They would read books, eat snacks, watch a movie--all in relative voluntary confinement.  ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/4667/Rainy-Day-Magic/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/4667/Rainy-Day-Magic/ Fri, 16 Feb 2007 06:19:50 -0800 jenlemen Okay, there are days when you're willing to read books for hours, go to fun little kiddie places and be super-parent.  And then there are the other days.  Here's a list of things to do when you really don't have the energy to move off the couch. Washing dishes.  Yes, it's a mess, but it's the easiest mess to ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/4638/How-To-Entertain-A-Toddler-for-Hours-on-End/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/4638/How-To-Entertain-A-Toddler-for-Hours-on-End/ Thu, 15 Feb 2007 09:59:51 -0800 jenlemen Since my son came to live with me last year, one thing that I have great trouble determining is when he has a cold, is he well enough for school or not? He is always coming down with a cold bug of some kind but I am never sure if it is bad enough to stay home or if he ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/4589/How-To-Decide-When-To-Keep-Your-Child-Home-from-School/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/4589/How-To-Decide-When-To-Keep-Your-Child-Home-from-School/ Wed, 02 May 2007 13:15:32 -0700 jenlemen When I was growing up, no one talked to parents about this important subject.  Now that I'm a mother with my own history of positive (and negative) experiences, I want to make sure I'm doing all I can to keep my kids healthy and safe.  Here's my personal plan to do all I can to protect my children from inappropriate ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/4507/10-Ways-You-Can-Protect-Your-Child-From-Sexual-Abuse/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/4507/10-Ways-You-Can-Protect-Your-Child-From-Sexual-Abuse/ Thu, 08 Feb 2007 13:16:24 -0800 jenlemen When my husband suggested this holiday season that we get the kids a playstation, I about fell off my chair.  We are, by choice, a no-TV family.  Our only option for watching movies--a tiny 15" TV (no antenae) and built in DVD player hit the skids months ago.  Why would we give in to the video game world now?  after ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/4506/In-Defense-of-Video-Games-A-Sane-Approach/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/4506/In-Defense-of-Video-Games-A-Sane-Approach/ Thu, 08 Feb 2007 11:57:07 -0800 jenlemen Many times as parents we don't understand why our children seem unaffected (or downright ungrateful!) after an afternoon or weekend of kid-focused activities.  We make plans with our children specifically in mind and then spend a serious amount of time and energy to bring joy to their lives.  All this effort--not to mention money--and no one seems that much happier ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/4286/The-Key-to-Your-Childs-Heart-Child-Directed-Play/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/4286/The-Key-to-Your-Childs-Heart-Child-Directed-Play/ Sun, 28 Jan 2007 17:47:08 -0800 jenlemen Hi my daughter will not give up the boob and she is 2 in feb I can not stand it any more and my husband is always giving me flack. I want her to stop but when i say no she gets so hurt and cries. I dont no how to get her off, I also need her of because ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/4249/10-Tried-and-True-Tips-on-Weaning-Toddlers/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/4249/10-Tried-and-True-Tips-on-Weaning-Toddlers/ Fri, 26 Jan 2007 11:50:39 -0800 jenlemen Parenting is a serious challenge for parents who are trying to stay true to their creative path.  Here's a grab bag of ideas to keep you focused without compromising your commitment to the ones you love the most. Zen in the laundry.  I have spent plenty of time resisting the mundane tasks of housewifery thinking that they were keeping ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/4221/Creative-Parents-How-To-Stay-True-to-Your-Path-While-Raising-Kids/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/4221/Creative-Parents-How-To-Stay-True-to-Your-Path-While-Raising-Kids/ Thu, 25 Jan 2007 08:21:49 -0800 jenlemen The other day Madeleine went to a craft store with a friend.  She returrned with a bright hot pink foam mailbox that she had put together from a little kit with her friend.  "This," s.  he declared, taping it with packing tape to the wall outside her bedroom door, "is my mailbox.  NO JUNK MAIL!" We hardly paid attention until ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/4193/6-Sensational-Notes-Your-Kids-Are-Waiting-for-You-to-Write/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/4193/6-Sensational-Notes-Your-Kids-Are-Waiting-for-You-to-Write/ Wed, 24 Jan 2007 05:01:01 -0800 jenlemen I have decided that my worst parenting mistake so far must be keeping my eight year old in good ole Washington DC instead of cashing in on the drama out in Hollywood, California.  I swear we could drop any concerns about retirement and put all our eggs in the show biz basket and start cleaning up big time.  Thankfully, there's ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/4156/Drama-Queen-Rx/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/4156/Drama-Queen-Rx/ Mon, 22 Jan 2007 19:37:53 -0800 jenlemen Hi all again. We would like to start trying for number two. Our little boy is now 1 (this week). How hard is the transition to having 2 children? It one of those subject where elders tell me 'it will be soooo hard'. But they also told me the sleepless night would be 'sooo hard'. We all take it in ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/3973/Expanding-Your-Family-How-To-Tell-When-Youre-Ready-for-Another-Baby/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/3973/Expanding-Your-Family-How-To-Tell-When-Youre-Ready-for-Another-Baby/ Sat, 13 Jan 2007 21:28:18 -0800 jenlemen My sister Kris recently referenced our mother's brilliant Quiet Hour idea in a recent article.   This reminded me of my days with toddlers who wouldn't nap.  I was pulling my hair out with a newborn and a three year old when my mother suggested I teach Madeleine how to have a Quiet Hour.  She might as well have been speaking ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/3872/How-To-Create-a-Quiet-Hour-When-Your-Toddler-No-Longer-Naps/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/3872/How-To-Create-a-Quiet-Hour-When-Your-Toddler-No-Longer-Naps/ Wed, 10 Jan 2007 07:03:52 -0800 jenlemen We're living in an age where the latest scientific research on nutrition, development and a host of other topics is just a click away.   But just because the scientific record is established on what is optimal for mom and baby doesn't mean that women have the support they always need to make those things happen.  Take breastfeeding for instance.  ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/3859/I-Tried-But-It-Just-Didnt-Work-What-to-Do-When-Things-Dont-Go-as-Planned/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/3859/I-Tried-But-It-Just-Didnt-Work-What-to-Do-When-Things-Dont-Go-as-Planned/ Tue, 09 Jan 2007 13:42:10 -0800 jenlemen Even the most patient mother-to-be starts to feel a little restless in those last days before baby makes her grand arrival.  Chances are by the last week out you have already laundered the baby clothes, prepared your hospital bag, and organized enough around the house to feel prepared for the big day.  But what do you do AFTER all those ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/3471/While-Youre-Waiting-For-Baby/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/3471/While-Youre-Waiting-For-Baby/ Sun, 11 Feb 2007 11:30:22 -0800 jenlemen when you realise that someone has really helped you out in the past or provided you with a life changing experience how do you thank the without sounding corny, or that someone has told you to thank them. i caught up with an old flatmate today and now that Ive got home Ive realised how much this wonderful person helped ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/3435/Say-Thank-You-Tips-on-Expressing-Gratitude-for-Parents-and-Children/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/3435/Say-Thank-You-Tips-on-Expressing-Gratitude-for-Parents-and-Children/ Thu, 21 Dec 2006 11:00:18 -0800 jenlemen I keep having nightmares I'm back in labour. I feel so angry and upset about how it all went. It was an experience that I don't want to go through again and I wish it would just leave me alone. Any ideas how to move on? Talk, talk, talk and then some.  You'll experience some pressure from friends and ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/3409/Dealing-With-Difficult-Memories-from-Labor/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/3409/Dealing-With-Difficult-Memories-from-Labor/ Wed, 20 Dec 2006 16:24:26 -0800 jenlemen It's one week until Christmas, and by now every celebrating parent is in a panic, hoping what's under the tree will meet up to the imaginations of wistful children everywhere.   No doubt Santa's toys and games are sure to delight, but what about a little homemade something from the heart to remind your kids all year long of your deep ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/3339/Inexpensive-Presents-to-Show-Your-Kids-You-Care/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/3339/Inexpensive-Presents-to-Show-Your-Kids-You-Care/ Mon, 18 Dec 2006 12:52:31 -0800 jenlemen I was making dinner a few weeks ago, listening to NPR, when Kris Holloway came on to talk about her book, Monique and the Mango Rains.  The story sounded familiar enough--Peace Corps volunteer comes home, wants to make a difference, tells her story--but this one had a twist.  Instead of simply highlighting her own experiences, Kris Holloway was passionate about ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/3147/An-Interview-with-Kris-Holloway-For-Parents-Who-Write-Dream-and-Want-to-Change-the-World/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/3147/An-Interview-with-Kris-Holloway-For-Parents-Who-Write-Dream-and-Want-to-Change-the-World/ Thu, 14 Dec 2006 06:11:53 -0800 jenlemen Sometimes the first few days make all the difference in the world when it comes to breastfeeding. Here are a few suggestions for getting started: Prepare before baby.  At your next prenatal appointment, ask your caregiver to look at your nipples to screen for any potential problems.  Your doctor will give you tips on how to prepare your breasts ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/3088/Essential-Tips-for-Getting-on-the-Road-to-Breastfeeding-Success/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/3088/Essential-Tips-for-Getting-on-the-Road-to-Breastfeeding-Success/ Thu, 15 Feb 2007 08:59:37 -0800 jenlemen A recent visit with a new mother reminded me how essential it is that you have the right kind of company in the early days of being a mom.  Here's a short list of things to keep in mind--for visitors and new moms alike: Quiet.   Birth is such a major life event--for mother especially.  Most women I meet in ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/3079/6-Things-Every-New-Mother-Needs-A-Visitors-Guide/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/3079/6-Things-Every-New-Mother-Needs-A-Visitors-Guide/ Mon, 11 Dec 2006 14:44:35 -0800 jenlemen As an artist and writer, I'm always looking for any chance I can get away to recharge and/or stock up on some inspiration for my work back home.  This weekend is one of those times I am stealing away--without kids.  Here's a list of things I always need to keep in mind when I'm leaving the kids behind. Preserve ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2974/For-Parents-Who-Travel-How-to-Prepare-Your-Children-for-Your-Absence/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2974/For-Parents-Who-Travel-How-to-Prepare-Your-Children-for-Your-Absence/ Thu, 07 Dec 2006 13:36:36 -0800 jenlemen It's the holidays and no one wants to be sick--there are presents to be bought, wrapped, shipped, etc.  So imagine my dismay to realize that I'm getting sick at the busiest time of the year!  Here's what I'm doing to get back on track with my health asap. Start guzzling copious amounts of water immediately.  I once was good ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2940/Oh-No-Im-Sick-Emergency-Tips-for-Parents-Who-Cant-Afford-to-Be-Under-the-Weather/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2940/Oh-No-Im-Sick-Emergency-Tips-for-Parents-Who-Cant-Afford-to-Be-Under-the-Weather/ Wed, 06 Dec 2006 05:05:37 -0800 jenlemen Sometimes I get in these zones with mothering where everything is "no, no, no!"  My kids hate always hearing no,  and I hate always being negative.  I've noticed that most of the time when I get stuck on "no" it's because I don't like how my kids are speaking to me or I have a problem with the nature of ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2931/How-to-Offer-Kids-Constructive-Guidance-Without-Punishment/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2931/How-to-Offer-Kids-Constructive-Guidance-Without-Punishment/ Tue, 05 Dec 2006 19:34:32 -0800 jenlemen I can still remember the neighborhood kids playing long into the night while we were snug in our beds.  As a child I simply could not imagine that bedtime could be happening when the sun was shining outside--who cared if it was nine o'clock at night!  Here are a handful of suggestions for getting little ones back on track with ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2921/Some-Suggestions-for-Dealing-with-Daylight-Savings/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2921/Some-Suggestions-for-Dealing-with-Daylight-Savings/ Tue, 05 Dec 2006 13:35:09 -0800 jenlemen The holiday season is a perfect time to teach our children what it means to love peace and to work towards reconciliation.  Here's a simple list of ideas to help your family show how much you care this Christmas: Reach out to that family member you haven't spoken to in years.  Explanations aren't needed.  Just a simple card, saying ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2920/8-Peace-Loving-Ideas-for-Families-Who-Care/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2920/8-Peace-Loving-Ideas-for-Families-Who-Care/ Tue, 05 Dec 2006 12:20:00 -0800 jenlemen This is the month of the year where you need it the most and get it the least.  Here are a few tips from an article I wrote with my sister Patience a few years ago for our book "A Soulsisters Guide to a Very, Merry Christmas"   With her permission, I've adapted the contents for Minti parents who are in ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2918/Christmas-S-e-x-Four-Ways-to-Put-Parents-in-a-Great-Mood-this-Holiday-Season/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2918/Christmas-S-e-x-Four-Ways-to-Put-Parents-in-a-Great-Mood-this-Holiday-Season/ Tue, 05 Dec 2006 12:25:22 -0800 jenlemen If you are a talkative, social parent like myself,  it can be hard to know what to make of the one child at your house who can go through his days virtually silent, except for the sound of pages turning.   I'm overstating the case, but you know this kid when you see her--quiet, reserved, shy even--that is until you she ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2867/Six-Strategies-for-Connecting-with-Quiet-Kids/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2867/Six-Strategies-for-Connecting-with-Quiet-Kids/ Sun, 03 Dec 2006 21:18:15 -0800 jenlemen Anyone who knows me knows I have tortured myself many a Christmas over getting the presents bought, wrapped and shipped before the clock strikes five on the last day the post office is open.  It's a constant struggle for me since both my husband and I have a big family full of sisters and nieces and nephews.  Browsing through the ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2781/Great-Gift-Ideas-for-Girls-Ages-Six-to-Sixteen-Tips-for-Parents-in-a-Hurry/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2781/Great-Gift-Ideas-for-Girls-Ages-Six-to-Sixteen-Tips-for-Parents-in-a-Hurry/ Wed, 29 Nov 2006 16:59:05 -0800 jenlemen One of the sweetest anniversaries we ever had was when my daughter Madeleine was a toddler and no babysitter was available so we could have a night out.  My husband took the initiative to make it an amazing evening, but it would have been just as sweet if I had been the one to come up with the idea first.  ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2778/How-to-Have-A-Nice-Anniversary-Without-A-Babysitter/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2778/How-to-Have-A-Nice-Anniversary-Without-A-Babysitter/ Wed, 29 Nov 2006 11:01:24 -0800 jenlemen I have to confess that sometimes I think of the dinner hour as some kind of boot camp for good manners.  My kids can be tortured by my constant instruction about how to not do this or that.  Every once in a while I come to my senses and have the goodwill to make dinner fun.  Here are a few ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2777/Making-Dinner-a-Party-Six-Sassy-Suggestions/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2777/Making-Dinner-a-Party-Six-Sassy-Suggestions/ Wed, 29 Nov 2006 10:35:32 -0800 jenlemen You know how it goes.  Your angel child is suddenly acting like a little devil, and it's all you can do to keep from losing your cool.  When everything seems to be falling apart, it's easy to attribute my children's antics to general bad behavior and stop the guessing game right there.  But a little slething usually reveals a problem ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2725/Mystery-Solved-A-Parent-Detectives-Checklist-for-Figuring-Out-Whats-Wrong-With-the-Kids/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2725/Mystery-Solved-A-Parent-Detectives-Checklist-for-Figuring-Out-Whats-Wrong-With-the-Kids/ Mon, 27 Nov 2006 19:31:20 -0800 jenlemen This last weekend in the United States, we celebrated Thanksgiving Day.  For those of you who might not be familiar with the holiday, Thanksgiving is as much about getting home to be with family as much as any history that gave us the holiday in the first place.   As a case in point, my youngest sister drove through the night ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2705/Holiday-Madness-What-to-Do-with-the-Kids-When-You-Have-a-Houseful-of-Guests/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2705/Holiday-Madness-What-to-Do-with-the-Kids-When-You-Have-a-Houseful-of-Guests/ Sun, 26 Nov 2006 07:13:02 -0800 jenlemen  Yesterday I took four little boys on an outing to our downtown area.  The four were close in age with two four year olds, a five year old and a six year old.  As is typical in boys this age, the play revolved around fighting, imaginary weapons and yes, guns, even.  If you're a peaceloving mama like myself, just the ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2698/A-Guide-to-Gun-Play-for-Peace-Loving-Parents/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2698/A-Guide-to-Gun-Play-for-Peace-Loving-Parents/ Sun, 26 Nov 2006 06:11:32 -0800 jenlemen Tomorrow we are celebrating a major holiday in the US and the grocery stores are packed with shoppers making last minute purchases before they have to get in the kitchen and start cooking. Today in particular I felt a huge wave of compassion for the mothers who had to run errands with cranky toddlers in tow. It took me my ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2675/10-Tips-for-Surviving-the-Store-with-a-Toddler/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2675/10-Tips-for-Surviving-the-Store-with-a-Toddler/ Wed, 22 Nov 2006 08:47:42 -0800 jenlemen When my daughter Madeleine was a pre-schooler, I'd find myself going slowly insane whenever I needed to bring her along to the store.  Every bright and sparkly item had her name on it--as far as she was concerned--and she didn't understand why Mama didn't just give her this or give her that.  Over time we came up with a good ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2624/The-Gimme-Monster-and-Other-Advice-For-Kids-Who-Want-More-More-More-UPDATED/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2624/The-Gimme-Monster-and-Other-Advice-For-Kids-Who-Want-More-More-More-UPDATED/ Wed, 18 Apr 2007 09:20:58 -0700 jenlemen My son Carter is going through a particularly tough stage right now.  His little hands won't quite cooperate when he's learning to write and he often dissolves into tears when the ideas in his head don't match up to what he can actually do.  Here's a little list of six things that are working for us as we look for ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2587/When-Kids-Get-Frustrated-6-Strategies-for-Smooth-Sailing/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2587/When-Kids-Get-Frustrated-6-Strategies-for-Smooth-Sailing/ Fri, 16 Feb 2007 05:42:27 -0800 jenlemen We all have little moments in parenting where we realize there's more to the story than what we're aware of at the moment.  This list is designed to equip with you with a kind of non-judgmental radar for potential sticking points in your own adventures as a loving (and sometimes in-need-of-love) parent.  Honest conversation and feedback welcomed in the comments ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2556/5-Signs-that-Parenting-is-Tapping-into-Your-Childhood-Pain/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2556/5-Signs-that-Parenting-is-Tapping-into-Your-Childhood-Pain/ Tue, 14 Nov 2006 10:03:15 -0800 jenlemen Sometimes in our efforts to keep our kids cared for and safe, we can lose sight of the adventures of trust and patience required to make our kids feel confident from the inside out.  Here are ten keys to building self-esteem: Let the delight shine through.  Toni Morrison once said that the only thing your kid really needs to ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2553/10-Ways-to-Build-Self-Esteem-and-Confidence-in-Your-Kids/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2553/10-Ways-to-Build-Self-Esteem-and-Confidence-in-Your-Kids/ Tue, 14 Nov 2006 09:22:30 -0800 jenlemen Stars and charts are all the rage in child-raising world--and for good reason.  Kids (and grownups) love being recognized for what they do.  Better still, rewards let us know we're on the right track and complying with the powers that be.  As a self-confessed gold star junkie, I am a big sucker for any system where my efforts get proper ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2536/To-Reward-or-Not-to-Reward-The-Million-Dollar-Question/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2536/To-Reward-or-Not-to-Reward-The-Million-Dollar-Question/ Wed, 18 Apr 2007 08:58:14 -0700 jenlemen I wrote this essay late this summer and wonder now if some Minti members might find it helpful as we each in our ways learn how to deal with fear in parenting.We are arranging stones on the kitchen counter, Madeleine and me. She is eight and I am thirty-eight, though in this moment age has no meaning for either one ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2430/Fearless-Motherhood-A-Story-about-Making-Peace-with-the-Possibilities/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2430/Fearless-Motherhood-A-Story-about-Making-Peace-with-the-Possibilities/ Wed, 08 Nov 2006 20:06:15 -0800 jenlemen After what seemed like an eternity of infancy and toddlerhood, my children now spend the majority of their time at school or in transit from one activity to another.   These transition times are opportunities for playfulness, and nothing spells affection and love to a child more than the cheerful presence of a playful parent.   Here are five quick, easy ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2414/Fun-Mom-101-Five-Ways-You-Can-Have-A-Blast-with-Your-Kids-UPDATED/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2414/Fun-Mom-101-Five-Ways-You-Can-Have-A-Blast-with-Your-Kids-UPDATED/ Wed, 12 Sep 2007 06:29:47 -0700 jenlemen Most of the time, I hold sister loyalty in the highest regard.  As the oldest of four sisters, I uphold the code of "You don't mess" when it comes to the sister clan.  Come down hard on glitter and pajamas, however, and I am forced to go head to head with the ones I love the most.   This morning, my ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2315/In-Response-Why-Glitter-Shoes-and-Pajamas-are-the-Perfect-Choice-for-Grocery-Store-Shopping/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2315/In-Response-Why-Glitter-Shoes-and-Pajamas-are-the-Perfect-Choice-for-Grocery-Store-Shopping/ Fri, 03 Nov 2006 05:48:54 -0800 jenlemen There's a little angst in the blogosphere these days amongst the mother bloggers.  Some are worried that the wonders of real life are being replaced by the pull of the computer screen.  Others are scared that all this posting and commenting is making us disconnected and crabby with our kids--not exactly the qualities we want to be remembered for.  As ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2295/Constantly-Divided-Help-for-Parents-Who-Blog-Obsessively/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2295/Constantly-Divided-Help-for-Parents-Who-Blog-Obsessively/ Thu, 02 Nov 2006 14:29:05 -0800 jenlemen Becoming a mother is an all encompassing life change.  Often, in our efforts to keep this bundle of joy fed, changed and happy, we can easily lose sight of taking care of the mothership.  Almost every episode of feeling overwhelmed can be addressed with a little self-care and a nod to our pre-pregnancy days.  Here's a list of my personal ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2266/10-Self-care-Essentials-for-Preserving-Your-Sense-of-Self-After-Baby/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2266/10-Self-care-Essentials-for-Preserving-Your-Sense-of-Self-After-Baby/ Wed, 01 Nov 2006 08:35:41 -0800 jenlemen Every couple deals with the stress of having a new person in the family in different ways.  Some (and I won't mention any names) cope by turning up the sex machine, finding any and all opportunities to hook-up when times are tough.  Other couples (you know who you are) go through periods where just the idea of sex makes you ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2265/After-Kids-Staying-Connected-to-Your-Partner-When-Youre-Not-in-the-Mood/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2265/After-Kids-Staying-Connected-to-Your-Partner-When-Youre-Not-in-the-Mood/ Wed, 01 Nov 2006 09:15:11 -0800 jenlemen Fighting between siblings is hard on any family.  I have my own list of strategies for dealing with those conflicts, but sometimes I find it helps to respond first to the casebuilding with a healthy distraction or a story instead.  By telling my kids stories about happier times or potential good days ahead, I'm building into them a sense that ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2231/Five-Tell-all-Tips-for-Reducing-Sibling-Stress/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2231/Five-Tell-all-Tips-for-Reducing-Sibling-Stress/ Mon, 30 Oct 2006 09:13:36 -0800 jenlemen If candy is an issue at your house most Halloween seasons, here are ten snappy strategies to reduce, ration or limit the loot without being a candy scrooge. Give them a filling, extra-nutritious dinner before they trick-or-treat.  Do everything in your power to get them good and full of nutritious food before they hit the streets.   Even a ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2218/10-Sweet-Strategies-for-Halloween-Candy-UPDATED/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2218/10-Sweet-Strategies-for-Halloween-Candy-UPDATED/ Mon, 29 Oct 2007 08:01:21 -0700 jenlemen One of the challenges for parents of is to find a way to stay connected once your children spend the majority of their time at school.Here are some questions you can ask over an afterschool snack to keep the conversation flowing: What's the best thing that happened today? What's the worst thing that happened today? How was ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2211/Conversation-Starters-for-Parents-of-School-aged-Kids/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2211/Conversation-Starters-for-Parents-of-School-aged-Kids/ Fri, 27 Oct 2006 20:10:00 -0700 jenlemen Nothing is more exhausting than trying to get your kids to go to sleep and stay asleep the whole night through.  While there's endless sleep advice aimed at babies and toddlers, too often it is parents who need the support and help to get through this exhausting chapter of a child's life.   Here are ten tried-and-true tips for sleep ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2153/10-Tips-for-Sleepless-Parents/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2153/10-Tips-for-Sleepless-Parents/ Wed, 25 Oct 2006 13:35:48 -0700 jenlemen Some kids have a very difficult time taking no for an answer.  These children see endless possibilities and don't mind asking permission to do things that would never cross your mind.  How do you deal with a child who is very persistent and doesn't mind applying pressure when she comes up with one more great idea?  Here's the approach I've ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2127/When-You-Have-to-Say-No-Strategies-for-Parents-with-Persistent-Kids/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2127/When-You-Have-to-Say-No-Strategies-for-Parents-with-Persistent-Kids/ Tue, 24 Oct 2006 12:01:52 -0700 jenlemen Nothing is more draining than parenting a toddler or preschooler  who just can't get enough of mom.  No matter how many times the older mothers in your circle tell you this time will too quickly pass, it's nearly impossible to imagine the time when you won't have to lock yourself in the bathroom for three minutes peace.  Here are some ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2125/Tips-for-Touched-Out-Parents/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2125/Tips-for-Touched-Out-Parents/ Tue, 24 Oct 2006 09:26:16 -0700 jenlemen In a world where grownups and kids spend most of their days plugged in, scheduled or wired, sometimes the first thing to go is our sense of connection and touch.  Here are six suggestions to help you keep your family's touch quotient high when everyone seems to be running in different directions: Snuggle bunny.  Wake up your little one ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2124/Touch-Six-Simple-Ways-to-Keep-Your-Family-Close/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2124/Touch-Six-Simple-Ways-to-Keep-Your-Family-Close/ Tue, 24 Oct 2006 08:39:38 -0700 jenlemen Sometimes parenting is not fun.  We are drained, exhausted and emotionally spent.  Our children are on our nerves, and nothing is falling into place the way that we hoped it would.  We go about our days, convinced we're the only ones not enjoying our experience of parenting.  We wonder what's wrong with us and why no one else is complaining.  ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2065/Discouragement-Dealing-with-the-Dark-Side-of-Parenting/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2065/Discouragement-Dealing-with-the-Dark-Side-of-Parenting/ Mon, 23 Oct 2006 10:58:45 -0700 jenlemen One of my best friends recently sent the last of her four children off to college.  Even though all of her children are grown and living far away now, I've been impressed by the level of connection she still enjoys with each one of her kids.  Her children call her frequently to chat or to update her on their latest ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2064/5-Kind-Ways-to-Connect-with-your-Kids/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2064/5-Kind-Ways-to-Connect-with-your-Kids/ Thu, 19 Oct 2006 14:25:34 -0700 jenlemen Adults and kids alike have episodes of anxiety.  We worry about the people we love, about our safety and about our future.  Sometimes in an effort to push back our own nervousness on these points, we dismiss our children's worries with blanket statements like "Don't worry about that" or "It will be fine."   If this answer doesn't work for you ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2029/6-Wonderful-Ways-to-Help-Kids-Who-Worry/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2029/6-Wonderful-Ways-to-Help-Kids-Who-Worry/ Wed, 18 Oct 2006 07:03:16 -0700 jenlemen Learning how to be polite (and safe!) on the phone is a social skill that will serve your children well their whole lives through.  Children who are old enough to be interested in the phone can often be taught what to say and how to say it with your gentle coaching.  Little children can start by playing pretend with a ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2005/Phone-Manners-101/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/2005/Phone-Manners-101/ Mon, 16 Oct 2006 16:09:50 -0700 jenlemen Put your family on the schedule.  Before you sign your children up for every weekend activity imaginable, pencil in some family time instead.  Lately, we've been saving our Saturday mornings for a big family breakfast.  Whether you go out to a local dive or stay in for homemade pancakes and bacon, having a major meal together is an ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/1971/9-Spectacular-Ways-You-Can-Bond-as-Family/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/1971/9-Spectacular-Ways-You-Can-Bond-as-Family/ Fri, 13 Oct 2006 18:29:47 -0700 jenlemen You can't go wrong with any one of these eight messages that kids love to hear, so share the ones that ring true for you.  Your message will stick best when it comes straight from the heart! I'm so glad you were born. I'm so happy you are in our family. Things wouldn't be the same in ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/1933/The-Magic-Eight-Messages-to-Make-Your-Kids-Melt/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/1933/The-Magic-Eight-Messages-to-Make-Your-Kids-Melt/ Wed, 11 Oct 2006 09:55:35 -0700 jenlemen Minti Moms, feel free to forward this advice to your significant other.  He'll be glad to know how to support you on your big day! Firm constant touch is better than light strokes especially during contractions.  I've noticed that most moms prefer either no touch during a contraction or specific, consistent pressure in one spot.  Constant, light touching almost ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/1931/5-Things-Every-Dad-Should-Know-about-Women-In-Labor-A-Doulas-Perspective/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/1931/5-Things-Every-Dad-Should-Know-about-Women-In-Labor-A-Doulas-Perspective/ Wed, 11 Oct 2006 08:34:26 -0700 jenlemen I just need some advice, My daughter is very set in her ways, and everything that is new, has to be her idea! ( I am also trying to talk her into using her new bed because her toddler bed is way too small, she falls off all the time! this is just another example of her unwillingness to accept ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/1921/Helping-Little-Children-Make-Big-Transitions/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/1921/Helping-Little-Children-Make-Big-Transitions/ Tue, 10 Oct 2006 20:44:44 -0700 jenlemen I have a really good friend who has devoted his life to working with kids.  No matter what job he had--as a youth worker, a camp counselor or event organizer--it seemed to me that the kids he interacted with were often positive, playful and pleasant to be around.  I asked him to tell me why he thought that was the ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/1895/The-No-Hassle-Policy/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/1895/The-No-Hassle-Policy/ Mon, 09 Oct 2006 13:54:34 -0700 jenlemen we've been invited to a birthday party for 4 yr old twins and the invitation says no presents! I've never been invited to one of those. I know my girls will ask why we are not giving them a gift. I think 4 yrs old is just a little too young to understand. What do you all think?Whatever your personal ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/1882/Alternative-Gifts-for-a-No-Presents-Party/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/1882/Alternative-Gifts-for-a-No-Presents-Party/ Sun, 08 Oct 2006 19:17:02 -0700 jenlemen Let's face it--some days are harder than others.  Here are seven do-able suggestions to help you take care of you when you feel overwhelmed trying to keep up with everyone else! Make a cup of tea.  A little chamomile and honey warm in your favorite mug on the kitchen counter may be just the thing to grant you the ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/1878/One-Minute-Sanity-Savers-for-Parents-on-the-Edge/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/1878/One-Minute-Sanity-Savers-for-Parents-on-the-Edge/ Sun, 08 Oct 2006 17:32:06 -0700 jenlemen Nothing is as distressing as the sound of a wailing baby.  Here are five tried and true tips for helping your baby calm down after a bout of crying: Make a baby burrito.   Many little babies prefer the memory of the close quarters of utero.  Wrapping your infant in a smooth soft blanket, swaddling style, can give your little ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/1869/5-Ways-to-Soothe-A-Crying-Baby/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/1869/5-Ways-to-Soothe-A-Crying-Baby/ Sun, 08 Oct 2006 17:56:44 -0700 jenlemen Busy? Scattered? Always on the Go?  I'm noticing lately that even though I'm with my kids all day, I'm not always with them.  I'm preoccupied, half-listening, doing a hundred things at once.  When my kids catch on that my attention has been diverted, all kinds of craziness is unleashed on our household.  Big messes pile up and simple exchanges become ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/1788/Take-the-Total-Attention-Challenge/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/1788/Take-the-Total-Attention-Challenge/ Wed, 04 Oct 2006 04:27:30 -0700 jenlemen Last fall a group of us here at Minti took The Total Attention Challenge.  You'll find details below as well as The Total Attention Challenge Group here.  This Winter let's try again to focus on our kids and get reconnected!  My personal TAC week starts Thursday,  January 18.  Details below!Busy? Scattered? Always on the Go?  I'm noticing lately that even ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/1779/Take-the-Total-Attention-Challenge-Winter-Redux/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/1779/Take-the-Total-Attention-Challenge-Winter-Redux/ Tue, 16 Jan 2007 06:08:01 -0800 jenlemen It's hard to overestimate the amount of energy that goes into raising children.  The ultimate 24/7 job, parenting can often be stress-producing and tiring, no matter how much joy and delight our children bring us.  Assuming our needs come in last, we wait too long to give ourselves the care we need to be our best for ourselves and our ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/1775/Avoiding-Burnout-8-Surefire-Ways-to-Get-Your-Energy-Back/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/1775/Avoiding-Burnout-8-Surefire-Ways-to-Get-Your-Energy-Back/ Tue, 03 Oct 2006 18:08:29 -0700 jenlemen There's no faster way into a child's heart than to enter into their world of play.   If it's been awhile since you gave the little kid inside you a chance to come out and play, here are six simple tips that will put a smile on your child's face. Tell knock-knock jokes.  Even if your children are too young ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/1774/Six-Silly-Suggestions-for-Making-Your-Kids-Day/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/1774/Six-Silly-Suggestions-for-Making-Your-Kids-Day/ Sun, 28 Jan 2007 17:55:56 -0800 jenlemen As parents, we're always up against the learning curve of child development.  Our toddlers throw tantrums because they can't talk yet.  Our babies cry when we leave because in their little brains, when we leave we're gone for good.  It's maddening--especially when we're worn out or weary ourselves.   It's tempting to villianize this behavior--to assume it's intentional or passive-aggressive or ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/1754/Celebration-Challenge-A-Story-about-Looking-for-the-Positive/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/1754/Celebration-Challenge-A-Story-about-Looking-for-the-Positive/ Mon, 02 Oct 2006 11:59:00 -0700 jenlemen Nothing puts the stress through the roof like having to keep a little person occupied while annoyed onlookers huff and puff. Here are a few of my favorite games to play with kids when we have to wait. One, two, three, four, I declare a thumb war.  See who can keep their thumb on top while joining right hands ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/1753/Waiting-Games-for-Kids-and-Playful-Parents/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/1753/Waiting-Games-for-Kids-and-Playful-Parents/ Wed, 18 Apr 2007 09:10:23 -0700 jenlemen Tired of tears and tantrums when it's time to do homework?  Here are seven tried and true tips for homework heaven: Hold a family meeting.   Over heaping bowls of ice cream, ask your kids to tell you what works when they are trying to get their homework done.  Take notes as they explain how they work best.  If problems ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/1751/Homework-Hell-7-Tips-for-Getting-Back-on-Track/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/1751/Homework-Hell-7-Tips-for-Getting-Back-on-Track/ Mon, 02 Oct 2006 10:41:16 -0700 jenlemen “There is no use trying,” said Alice; “one can’t believe impossible things.”“I dare say you haven’t had much practice,” said the Queen. “When I was your age, I always did it for half an hour a day. Why, sometimes I’ve believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast.”– Lewis Carroll (Author, Alice in Wonderland)A friend sent me a card ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/1659/A-Story-about-Coming-to-Terms-with-a-Difficult-Birth/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/1659/A-Story-about-Coming-to-Terms-with-a-Difficult-Birth/ Wed, 27 Sep 2006 06:12:11 -0700 jenlemen When my daughter Madeleine was a preschooler, we both dreaded the task of combing out her long wavy hair.  I'd tell myself that combed hair was overrated and that such neatness was unnecessary, but eventually--you know how it goes--someone *had* to make this child look like she actually had a mother.  So to entertain her and help her stay still, ... http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/1643/How-the-Tangles-Found-their-Mother-in-the-Big-Black-Brush/ http://www.minti.com/parenting-advice/1643/How-the-Tangles-Found-their-Mother-in-the-Big-Black-Brush/ Tue, 26 Sep 2006 13:54:17 -0700