I was late for work this morning! Even with 3 kids, I am rarely late for anything.
Why? because my ex is becoming more and more unreliable and not coping with the little responsibility he has.
I have to leave for work at 6:15am. Every Tuesday this is the routine: i get ready for work, ex comes to get the kids ready and take them to childcare so that i can get to work by 7am. I was still waiting for him at 6:30. guessing that he was going to lack in his reponsibilities (yes, that is where my expectations are of him at the moment) I had started getting the kids ready.
He turns up at 6:30, says "i forgot my car seats, I'll use yours". um, no you wont, how will i pick up the kids with no car seats this afternoon if they are in your car???????
so then I have to get the kids ready (one of whom was still asleep) rush out the door and take the kids to childcare myself. Meanwhile the selfish git is oblivious to the fact that the rush has a negative impact on how the kids feel about going to childcare (Lachlan did not want to be left, charlotte was crying while getting dressed because she was still half asleep) and I am inconveniencing my work collegues by being late, and my day gets behind from the start, and I risk the reputation of being an unreliable staff member (which I pride myself on being on time and reliable). He doesn't understand the ripple effect of his actions (or lack thereof)
I don't ask much from him, I never have, but I expect him to be able to cope with his responsibilities. Is that too much to ask? he will never get custody. I am going to make sure of that. For the sake of the kids. This is only todays incident. Every time he has care of them, something goes wrong.
AAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH (thats me screaming into pillow).
Thanks for nothing (again) A***hole!
(sorry, I am not usually that mean, but as you may have noticed, he has a tendancy to bring out the worst in me).
Oh well, off to do the dishes, clean the house, wash the dirty marks off the carpet, pick up the food thrown on the floor etc etc etc.....all that is life of a single mum with RESPONSIBILITIES that are actually FULFILLED.