I was late for work this morning! Even with 3 kids, I am rarely late for anything.

Why? because my ex is becoming more and more unreliable and not coping with the little responsibility he has.

I have to leave for work at 6:15am.  Every Tuesday this is the routine: i get ready for work, ex comes to get the kids ready and take them to childcare so that i can get to work by 7am.  I was still waiting for him at 6:30.  guessing that he was going to lack in his reponsibilities (yes, that is where my expectations are of him  at the moment) I had started getting the kids ready.

He turns up at 6:30, says "i forgot my car seats, I'll use yours".  um, no you wont, how will i pick up the kids with no car seats this afternoon if they are in your car???????

so then I have to get the kids ready (one of whom was still asleep) rush out the door and take the kids to childcare myself.  Meanwhile the selfish git is oblivious to the fact that the rush has a negative impact on how the kids feel about going to childcare (Lachlan did not want to be left, charlotte was crying while getting dressed because she was still half asleep) and I am inconveniencing my work collegues by being late, and my day gets behind from the start, and I risk the reputation of being an unreliable staff member (which I pride myself on being on time and reliable).  He doesn't understand the ripple effect of his actions (or lack thereof)

I don't ask much from him, I never have, but I expect him to be able to cope with his responsibilities.  Is that too much to ask?  he will never get custody.  I am going to make sure of that.  For the sake of the kids.  This is only todays incident.  Every time he has care of them, something goes wrong.

AAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH (thats me screaming into pillow).

Thanks for nothing (again) A***hole!

(sorry, I am not usually that mean, but as you may have noticed, he has a tendancy to bring out the worst in me).

Oh well, off to do the dishes, clean the house, wash the dirty marks off the carpet, pick up the food thrown on the floor etc etc etc.....all that is life of a single mum with RESPONSIBILITIES that are actually FULFILLED.

Children learn what they live.

If a child lives with criticism
                                                 The child learns to condemn.

If a child lives with hostility
                                               the child learns to fight.

If a child lives with ridicule
                                              The child learns to be shy.

If a child lives with shame
                                                The child learns to feel guilty.

If a child lives with tolerance
                                                  The child learns to be patient.

If a child lives with encouragement
                                                                The child learns confidence.

If a child lives with praise
                                             The child learns to appreciate.

If a child lives with fairness
                                                The child learns justice.

If a child lives with security
                                                The child learns to have faith.

If a child lives with approval
                                                 The child learns to like themselves.

If a child lives with acceptance and friendship
                                                                               The child learns to find love in the world.

(adapted by Dorothy Law Nolte)

WHY IS MY ADVICE ARTICLE REJECTED AGAIN??????????

I know why!.  Stupid automatic word rejecter thingy!

like i'm going to publish something offensive! LOL.  I'm trying to save the world, people.  not offend.....hehehehe

Today I took the kids to see Ice Age 3 at the cinema.  Imogen stayed at Grans.

When the movie was finished, we went to Grans to pick up Imogen, I went to get my purse out of the backpack so that we could do the drivethrough takeaway thing........but it was not there.  Oh great, lost my purse, thats all I need.  I had my purse stolen once, and it was a pain in the butt replacing everything.  not to mention I had NO money and NO access to money.

I got home and started making phonecalls- the cinema to keep an eye out for it, the police to report in case anyone used my ID, the banks to cancel my cards.  I kept feeling like I wanted to go back to the cinema and check.

In the end, the urge was too strong, I wasn't confident that I would get it back, but i thought the only chance I had would be to look for it myself.

I returned to the cinema (left the kids at home with my sister) and asked if I could check where we were sitting.  The session had 10 minutes to go so I waited and went in when all the people had come out.  I went up to where we were sitting, stuck my hand under the seat, AND THERE IT WAS.  ohhhh relief!

Glad I followed my instincts on that one.  If any of the cleaners had found it, it may have been pocketed.

The whole debacle still cost me $20- the price of replacing my credit card, and since I had already cancelled it, they refused to un-cancel it!

But got lucky in the end.

Today we had a great day at 'Four Oaks Farm'.

I took the kids and met another kindy mum friend and her friend.  The weather was beautiful, a little cool but the sun was shining.  The kids had a fantastic time- riding the ponies, horse and cart rides, merry-go-round rides, feeding and patting the animals and the fire engine rides.  All unlimited, free-range play.  I am definately taking them there again.

Good evening everyone!

The start of school holidays is upon us, so I am contemplating what to do with my kidlets for the next 2 weeks.  I have a few ideas.  Will probably get together with another kindy mum and do some day trips and visits.

I spent ALL NIGHT last night trying to upload my crazy advice.  (The long article that turned into 3 articles).  After all those weeks writing them (I have no life!) it took me nearly 4 hours to upload them.  Minti has been VERY SLOW for me lately, my links didn't want to link and then at the end of it all THE DAMN THINGS WERE DISABLED DUE TO OFFENSIVE LANGUAGE!!!!! :-)  I believe the problem word was killing/kill so hopefully soon they will be up and running.  More trouble than its worth?

I have a headache now- so i think I will have an early night.  imogen hasn't been sleeping well lately.  I think she is breaking through several teeth at once.  I have discovered 2 new molars a few days ago.  I had her in the emergency dept on Tues.  I thought she had broken her finger.  one of those incidents that makes you want to cry as a mother.  Imogen was sitting next to a cupboard in the lounge.  The other kids were playing nearby.  I was serving dinner but could still see them.  I heard a cry and realised that Imogen had her hand on the hinge side of the cupboard door and Charlotte had closed the door jamming her finger inside.  her finger was flat, purple, bent.......ooohhh it looked awful.  After a bit of first aid I realised it probably wasn't as bad as I first thought- the swelling had de-flattened her finger......but got it checked out to be on the safe side.  Funnily enough, this all is relevant to my latest advice, yet to go live.........hmmm, should I be admitting my faults as a mother at this time?????

AND my roof leak started leaking again when it bucketed down yesterday.  The man came to fix it again, hopefully for good this time.  Just when I had started using my light switch again.....now I have to wait for it to dry out once more! (Don't really want to be electrocuted!).

Thats all for now.  just waiting anxiously for my articles to appear (I take it all a little too seriously,LOL).

Josie