AAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHH.  Sorry had to let out a silent yell!!!  My beautiful 3 yo boy that I blogged about earlier today became the most horrible acting child this afternoon.  He had a shower with his brother and didn't get the towel that he wanted after his shower.  Well I have never heard a bigger tantrum in my life!!

I made him go to his bedroom and he decided that he would yell abuse at everyone.  He said - amongst other things, "I hate you Mummy" and yelled out "Mummy is a B*****".  Where would a 3 yo get that from?  Not kindy because it is a Christian kindy and they would not let that be said.  Maybe TV or maybe his Dad who swears sometimes.  I very very rarely say any swear words - maybe one a year!!!  So it wasn't from me!!

The he proceeded to throw things out of his room to hit the wall in the hallway.  Every couple of seconds I would hear a thud.  (I ignored this but made him clean it up later.)  He then came out of his room so I asked his sister to take him back cause I was in the middle of something and so she picked him up and he bit her!  Again where did that come from???

By this time I was rather annoyed and I went in and yelled at him.  I know you should act calmly but  sometimes....!!  Then we had dinner and had to go and get his sister from work.  He didn't want his seatbelt on and kept taking it off.  So I had to get his brother to hold the seatbelt so that he couldn't remove it.  He then bit his brother!

When we got home I put him straight to bed and told him not to get out.  He did - so I put him back in - which is where he is now - screaming.  I am not giving in and his Dad will be home soon but this is the biggest tantrum he has ever thrown.  I am a fairly calm person but there is alot of deep breathing happening here at the moment - de-stressing!!

Oh now there is quiet - hopefully good news!!  I am ok now by the way - I just had to vent!!

Well it has taken just over 2 years but finally my little boy has decided that he will not cry anymore when he goes to kindy.  It is now so much easier to leave him there.   Both his teachers are good friends of mine and he has known them since he was born but that didn't even help!!

I think he has made that decision because a little boy was teasing him about being a baby - which he did not like one little bit.  I told him that he was probably saying that because he cried all the time when I left him and he has not cried or tried to grab hold of me or anything since.

As much as I don't like it that he was being teased it actually is quite a blessing!

He also was really good at swimming lessons this morning and stayed in the pool for the whole lesson.  I think he is growing up!!  Sad in a way but good!

I'm not going to go into any detail at all but It is really annoying when things are said and others don't perceive it the same way. I am a fairly good communicator (I feel) and Hardly ever have a problem in this area but today I have had my share! arghh.

I was then at a meeting tonight that ended with me leaving very very angry (which really does not happen very often) but I was really over people telling me how unorganised I was and stating that any dummy could do what I do!! Arggghhhh. I basically told them to shove it and do it themselves. Good luck to them I say.

OK - now I am done with that little outburst - I am however feeling a bit better . Seems after all of the tests I have had done there is nothing wrong with me (even though it feels as if there is). But the doctor did put me on some temporary medication that does seem to be working and I have finally started to lose a little weight. Yah! Not much yet but it is a start and maybe my body is heading in the right direction. Heres hoping and praying!

I just wanted to let you know that I am reading your blogs even if I don't comment on them.  I am just going through some stuff and sometimes I just don't know what to say. 

I have been really busy with everything but also just feeling drained - physically, emotionally and spiritually.  I am ok and my family is all good so you don't need to worry but I really just wanted to let you know that I am still thinking about you and still reading about what is going on in your lives even though my comments are few and far between!

Well I have some good news.  Firstly the school have given Daniel some help at school which is really good but I took him to the Optomitrist today and she was so  good.  When we got there  they took a  photo of his eyes and could tell immediately that he was long sighted.  She was amazing and described his behaviour to him within about a minute of us being there.  She spent so much time with us and even said that when we go back to pick up the glasses that he needs, she will do another test (I think it may be something to do with testing for dislexia or similar thing) but I am not sure.

Daniel loves his new glasses and I don't think he will worry if anyone teases him so that is good.  She told him that if anyone teases him just to say "If you knew how much these helped me you would be jealous" and he also said "I don't think they are nerdy - I am so cool with these on"

He only has to wear them in class anyway and not outside the class.  I will keep you updated.

My son is in Grade 4 at school and has always had trouble with his behaviour and learning.  Not diagnosed with any problem and to talk to him he is quite smart.  But reading and writing  etc are very difficult for him.   As he has not been diagnosed with any learning difficulties  I am having trouble getting anyone to assess him.  The school says he is not bad enough and the Paedeitrician (or however you spell it) says the school needs to assess him.  Catch 22 and noone will do anything!   He seems to have some dislexic tendencies but certainly not alot but he struggles even to write a page of writing.

I regularly go to his classroom to see how he has been during the day.  Often his teachers tell me that he has been misbehaving but on Friday I actually had a phone call from his teacher advising that he had been extremely misbehaved and had not done very much work in class at all.  Out of 7 tasks they had to do he did 2 of them.  So I told her that I would make him write a story at home.  Well then did the drama begin.

At 4:30pm I took him away into my room where we could work together on the story.   After about  and hour  and 2 lines  written,  and I was very frustrated,  I phoned my  Dad (who is very  strict)  and told him that DJ just could not sit still and would not write this story.  He kept saying "it is too hard" "I can't do it" etc etc.  My Dad said to him that if he did not finish his story by 7pm them I would take him over there so he could finish it at their house. 

Well DJ did not want to do that but it took him until 7:30pm to finish his story (about 20 lines).  We phoned Dad and DJ read his story out to him and received lots of praise.  So I guess that ended well.  But the frustration that we went though for that one little story.  I know why it has been hard for his teachers and they don't have the time to spend one on one with him all the time.  He had trouble spelling grade one words like "when" and "put" and when it came to a bigger word he would just make something up.  I got him to sound out the words and he could spell them but if he had to do it himself he either couldn't or wouldn't and I am not sure which.  his teachers have always said "wouldn't" but I am not so sure!

He has a habit of looking at a task and just saying "I can't do it" and so he doesn't.  I really don't know what to do.  I am going to get his eyes checked this week to rule that out but we have done that before.  Any suggestions.

By the way sorry this seems all messed up but my computer is playing up and it is late!!  The brain doesn't function too well at this hour!