A timely reminder for me:

Keep your thoughts positive,
because your thoughts become your words.
Keep your words positive,
because your words become your behaviours.
Keep your behaviours positive,
because your behaviours become your habits.
Keep your habits positive,
because your habits become your values.
Keep your values positive,
because your values become your destiny.

~ Gandhi ~

I have been struck today by how much I see the negative in a situation.  R's behaviour has been driving me to distraction and tonight I had a lightbulb moment.  He was pulled out of the bath in disgrace and sent to bed because he kicked his sister in the head (!) and thereby pushed her into the shower door. 

He was more upset than she was and I sat with him to talk.  While we were talking she came up to him to see what was wrong and tried to touch his mouth.  He had his hands over his face and she kept pulling them away - they ended up giggling at each other and it was lovely. 

This reminded me how sensitive and lovely he can be and it made me wonder what causes his behaviour.  I realised I need to be more sensitive and aware of his needs.  Then I read Dr Sears (thanks Izzy!) and it made me think how every negative behaviour has a positive counterpart.  So I now feel more positive and am determined to be more responsive to my son.