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My Son Needs Help!

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I have been having a really hard time with my oldest son lately.  He has become really rebellious and disrespectful.  It isn't like him to be so mean and angry.  He moved in with his father a while ago and now that hasn't worked out so he went to stay with his cousin...another bad move.  We found out last night that they have been taking all kinds of prescription drugs and my sister couldn't even wake them up.  I'm so scared, my son has never been into drugs and rarely even drank. 

It's strange how you can get them through high school and then when they are supposed to be responsible, they become worse.  Well I spent my night crying because he had taken off pretty messed up because my sister tried to give them a drug test...I was afraid he would be killed or kill someone.  He wont answer my calls...he doesn't want me telling him what to do or reprimanding him.  I had my middle son call him and he answered his call but told him to stay the #*#* out of his life (obviously the drugs talking). 

So I am at my wits end!  You never stop trying to take care of your children even when they are adults .  I have just been praying, which is helping me make it through, but I just needed to vent...thanks for listening. 

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cathbusymum
March 29th | cathbusymum
Re: My Son Needs Help!

 I'll be praying for you and your family.... My daughter went though what your son is now doing, he'll come to you when he is ready.



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      LisaPetrarca
March 30th | LisaPetrarca
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Thanks for the encouragement,  It is just so hard to sit back and wait!  It goes against all my motherly instincts.



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mum2b84
March 29th | mum2b84
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My mum is just like you. She loves us so much that she tries to push us the way she wants us to go. She wants us to learn from her mistakes and not our own. Unfortunately it doesn't work like that.

I am the first to admit she is always right. At the time I go against her and with what I want thinking I am making the right choice and I can just about guarantee that when she says the opposite to me she is usually right in the end.

But as teenagers and adults we need to make our own choices and be faced with the consequences of those decisions. We need to learn and grow from our own mistakes.

Never loose faith, always be there to listen, never judge and be supportive. This is all you can do and in the end he will learn the hard way. As a mother you want to stop him going through the 'hard' things but it is the only way he will grow as a person.

I wish you all the strength to get through this tough time. I am praying for you.



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      LisaPetrarca
April 1st | LisaPetrarca
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Thank you for your wonderful heartfelt comments! You helped me realize what I often choose to forget because I can't stand to see my child suffer and in pain.  You are so right but it's just so hard!!

I can't tell you how much your wisdom and insight meant to me!

Lisa



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pavementcracks70
March 29th | pavementcracks70
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Hi Lisa

keep praying.....its the most powerful tool we have

I added some links which may help........

Im sure he knows already however keep your son aware at all times you are available no matter what state he is in

we're all praying,

love rue



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      LisaPetrarca
March 29th | LisaPetrarca
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THANK YOU Rue!  It means so much to me to know that others are praying for my son too!

Can you minti mail me the links because they didn't come through?

Lisa

 



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           pavementcracks70
March 29th | pavementcracks70
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the links are underneath your blog!



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                LisaPetrarca
April 1st | LisaPetrarca
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OOPS...not the best at computers, OBVIOUSLY! LOL  Thanks!



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Ametrine
March 28th | Ametrine
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All you can do for him at this moment is to be there to pick up the peaces when needed.  For now you have to sit back and watch him make his own mistakes is the hardest thing you will ever have to do.

Please remember this is his life his choice and in the end his decision. Yes he needs help but untill he decides to then......

My thoughts are with you,  Lisa



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      LisaPetrarca
March 29th | LisaPetrarca
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I know you're right but as a parent my instincts tell me, "You're not thinking hard enough...there is something you can do you just haven't come up with it yet."  I appreciate your advice because I needed to hear that.  It just makes you feel like a bad mother, but he's 19 and I can no longer make decisions for him.

I just hope he isn't a slow learner.

Thank you for your help!

 



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natelz1
March 28th | natelz1
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I'm praying for you hun!!!



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      LisaPetrarca
March 28th | LisaPetrarca
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Thank you, that's the only thing that will work in this type of situation.



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electrifying02
March 28th | electrifying02
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i hope your son realizes soon what he is doing to himself and his family

i am thinking of you through this hard time

love belxx



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      LisaPetrarca
March 28th | LisaPetrarca
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Me too!!!!  I just hope he doesn't have to go through years of this like his father did before he finally woke up.  Its just so different when it's your child.



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MrsSanders
5.00 (Excellent) | March 28th | MrsSanders
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Not a happy little soul, I feel for you all. We all try to do our best and hope that the choices our children make are for the best, sadly no guarentees. I hope he comes round soon and starts to talk, he sounds if he is in a lot of pain and confusion. I send you best wishes and hope your baby finds the help that is there, from Mum when he is ready.

Luv,Winnie.xxxx



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      LisaPetrarca
5.00 (Excellent) | March 28th | LisaPetrarca
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I know he is definitely hurting inside but refuses any help right now.  I just can't BELIEVE that it is happening to my son...you never see it coming, 19 years old and making such STUPID choices.  Thank you for your thoughts, it helps to be able to share and let it out. 



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nell18-3
5.00 (Excellent) | March 28th | nell18-3
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How heart breaking for you

Wish we could give you pearls of wisdom on coping with this,

I will be praying for you constantly and I'm glad you felt able to be honest and able to vent on here. What a terrible situation for you

xxx

 



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      LisaPetrarca
5.00 (Excellent) | March 28th | LisaPetrarca
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Thanks Nell,

I never thought I would be in this situation.  It's weird how just because you thought you did everything right..they still have to make their own decisions.  i can only hope that I have instilled good values in him so that he will come around again someday soon.



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