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"MOMMY CLICKS"

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What is up with the "mommy clicks" at sports...are we still in high school? Don't pretend like you don't know what I'm talking about. You arrive at your soccer, baseball, football and/or basketball games, scanning the field or court for your girls. You immediately rush over, big hugs...it's been a WHOLE two days since you've seen them! You find the perfect spot making sure to keep a safe distance from any eavesdroppers. Now the fun begins..."WHAT is she wearing? Can you believe she actually said that to me? Who does she think she is...shhh shhh...here she comes. "Oh, hi Mary...what a cute outfit!" Quick sarcastic smirk, glancing at your friends.

Then the conversation moves on to the therapy sessions. "I only wanted to go shopping and Bill told me I spend too much money. We got into a HUGE argument...I told him to sleep on the couch...NICE CATCH JIMMY! What was I saying? Oh yeah, do you think he was being unreasonable? I mean, he knows when I was growing up I never got anything from my parents, so every once in a while I should be allowed to go on a shopping spree." Followed by everyone's input telling you how ridiculous your husband is being.

I think you get the picture...and I am not excluding myself from the "mommy clicks," I have done my share. Now that I'm getting older I guess it gets a little tiring. Which leads me to today's events.

My "clicks" children have all quit football. This season I find myself searching for new friends. I make friends pretty easy, but I very rarely let anyone get past the surface friendship (been burned in the past.) I know most of the moms but not much past, Hi, how are you, stage.

I have to say that today I was happily surprised. My son, had a football passing league today...I got there early and was sitting at the top of the stadium...the younger players mom's came into the stadium and headed right up to where I was sitting. We all sat and talked together, a couple of mom's opened up about some difficult things they have going on in their lives. It's funny...one of the ladies who I thought was a little snobby throughout the years was actually VERY sweet and funny. How often do we judge others by how they look without actually knowing them? I guess it's human nature, but I'm glad that I have been put in this situation...once again forcing me out of my comfort zone!

No more "mommy clicks" for me.....
 

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cazza
July 11th | cazza
Re: "MOMMY CLICKS"

I Have a son who plays soccer and we have a rule for his team , that all parents get treated the same and surprising enough all the parents speak and get on well.. but as a club perspective, we do have some clicky mums, but the way i look at it, if your child is having fun, bugger what the adults are thinking...

xx cazza



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Arna
July 11th | Arna
Re: "MOMMY CLICKS"

Thankfully, I've not had that issue yet.  I'm the kind of person who either you take as I am or you keep your opinion to yourself.  I'm also the kind of person who waits before deciding on whether I like people or not. 

I know that when my sisters were doing ballet, there was a lot of this going on and I couldn't believe my own mother was involved either! 

Taking our first impressions and keeping them safely locked in the 'wait and see cupboard' is a good idea.  I've learnt that the hard way too, but being a people watcher, I see that it is more important to give them a chance than to stamp them 'no way'.



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cathbusymum
July 11th | cathbusymum
Re: "MOMMY CLICKS"

I've been on both sides of this. I try to talk to any one who is new so they don't feel left out. 

I try to remember that who we are is not what we look like, its the person we are inside that counts.



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