Being a single mom and trying to raise two teenage girls can be a terrifying experience at times but it can be fun at the same time. Sure I worry about the same things that most mom's of teens worry about but I have realized that my job as their mom is to help them grow to become self confident happy independent adults. Most of the time I try not to be judgemental and listen to what they have to say. And yes there are times they tell me more than I'd like to know but I do not want them to ever be in the position that they are afraid to come to me with a problem.
This past summer my 14 yr old came to me asking if she could get on birth control to control her periods. This sounded like a reasonable request coming from her, except I knew that her periods have always been light and very regular. So after a little more prodding she eventually admitted to me that her and her bf of six months were having sex. Hearing this was like someone punched me in the stomach, I was not prepared for this especially at her age however I tried to stay calm and not let on how upset i was. I asked a few questions, and listened to what she had to say. Yes they had been using condoms (whew) and yes they both felt they were ready to take that step in their relationship. The more we talked the more I knew that no matter what I said, she was not going to stop having sex. After a long talk and alot of hugs, we decided that birth control was a necessity and I set up an appointment for the following week for an exam and the birth control. The dr. was great and never once talked down to her. He mentioned to her that she was no different than alot of girls her age and told her how smart she was for getting this type of protection.
It's now 3 months later and her and her bf are still together and in a very happy relationship. Sure they are young but I have learned to accept their relationship and can say that although it was hard for me at first, she is learning about being in a loving relationship both emotionally and physically. I do like her bf alot and even though their relationship may not last it is a committed, happy and healthy relationship.
I don't think any mom is ready for their kids to start having sex and for me I'd always hoped that i wouldn't have to deal with it till the later teen years. But now that it has happened, I have learned to realize that there are no magic ages when things happen and sometimes these things happen sooner than parents would like. But our kids are still our kids regardless of the decisions they make and I believe it is our job to support them and guide them as they grow into adulthood. My daughter and I have a very close relationship and I think the fact that I have accepted her and her bf, has shown her that she can come to me with anything. I do think it has changed our relationship for the better. I think now that i don't look at her as a young teen, I look at her more now as a young adult who is growing up.
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