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Friday

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Geeessss... I can't sleep wonder why? Jake is home. Background...this is running through my mind,

Jacob was to go for an operation. It had been roughly three years of operations and chemo and horrid stuff. Really horrid stuff. He was to be a trial for stem cell surgery. He wanted to try something different. This was the last thing. His body could take no more. Basically he had been to hell through all that was done,this was the last thing. A couple of days before he was to start this new therapy he dropped in and talked to a surgeon. They devised a plan to try an even newer approach,totally surgery.  The surgeon had done it once before. So we started to wait while this was done,my son's last chance after years of ballte.

The team of surgeons opened my son,deflated his lungs and removed the tumours that had not responded to any of the drugs. Would this work or just spread the cancer. They removed baseball sized tumours from his lungs,kidneys,aorta, well every where. His organs were lifted and visually scanned for cancer. There were 13 surgeons and their teams. There was his and his girlfriends family waiting.  The operation went on longer than what they figured as the cancer was through every where. We got one update from an exhausted surgeon in the 7 th hour that said Jake was still with us. I prayed that the team would not give up,that they would have the strength to finish.

I felt Jake coming. I went to the elevator and there he was. He didn't look like Jake but his life force was still there. It had been thirteen hours.

My poor boy had no pain relief through this horrid thing. They had set the stem too low in his body and they had had to do so much more higher than they figured so he felt everything as he came out of the drugs. I don't know how he stood the pain. He had tubes every where draining all the sites that had been operated on. Jacob spent one full week in intensive care. We didn't know if he would make it.

We got the news that he was out of intensive care and joyfully headed back into Toronto to see him in his new room. When we came off the elevator I sensed something and noticed the grim faces. Oh my God I thought,something had happened to Jake!!!  We rushed to the room to find Jake dressed barely sitting and all the tubes placed outside his clothing and his duffle bag was packed. One week and he was being sent home? He was less than two hours out of intensive care!!! I thought of the only thing I could to keep him safe to stay there were they could keep him alive!!!! I said Jake we can't bring you home now we took the subway in. I thought this will keep him safe,he can't be home yet. That evening he was home,he arranged with his girlfriends Mother for her to drive him in!!! She's a nurse so that was at least better than what we could do.

So then I took care,best I could of this much loved son who should have been in the hospital,that had been opened right up and was stitched and stapled and had drainage tubes and bags and I was scared out of my mind I would accidently kill him by doing something wrong.

So this is my boy,my dear son,my beautiful but bull headed lovely son. I love him so very much. So here he is,struck a deal with the head doctor of the hospital to hit him heavy with I.V.  antibiotics that have a half life,those are really tough on you as I have had them, and send him home with a ton of meds. He still has a high temp. and the leg is huge. My dear DIL says he is still bright red. He is not out of the woods yet.

So here is to you my dear Jake. Here is to your will,your desire to live your life and your amazing spirit. You deserve to fly high and accomplish all those things you want. You are the gentleness of the earth and the giving spirit of the rain. You are sweet and some one I look up to as you are and always will be my Hero.  I know you rile at that but you amaze me and I love you with all that I am. The powers that be have blessed me to know you.

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angieh
February 2008 | angieh
Re: Friday

I'm glad Jake's operation went really well and that he seems to be recovering nicely. I'm sure he'll get out of the woods soon.



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anniebabe
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2008 | anniebabe
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marg   what can i say that hasnt been said. my prayers are with you and your family . your son jake has such will and courage. i send out all positive vibes  all my love hugs and kisses

cheers annie



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      Marglr
February 2008 | Marglr
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Thanks so much Annie but I think he is over the worst,hooray!!! I do wish the leg was O.K. as that has me really worried but he'd prefer to not have anyone worry about him!!!



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jenjen
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2008 | jenjen
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I wish Jake all the best and hopefully no more surgery for him....and try to get some sleep! I wish you all well.   jen  xx



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      Marglr
February 2008 | Marglr
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Thanks Jen,I feel so much better having talked to him this morning! I think he really is feeling better,he always says I'm fine but really!!! You can hear when he is not. he doesn't want you to worry about him but how could you not!!!  That's what Mom's do!



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mummy2girls
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2008 | mummy2girls
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lol and best wishes are sent your way.

stay strong and try your best to get some sleep!

again.. lol to you all, lisa xxxx.



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      Marglr
February 2008 | Marglr
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Hi Lisa,I talked to Jake today seeing we have had an all day ice storm and I thought he sounded so much better,not as weak. He wanted to talk about travels and it was like pulling teeth to get info on the leg!!! It's still as swollen but he says he is feeling better!!! Thanks for the good vibes!



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Domestic-warrior
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2008 | Domestic-warrior
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I really hope he mends up fine and No more for him...that sounds like enough for one life time!  A big Muwah to you.

Julie x



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      Marglr
February 2008 | Marglr
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Good point Julie...I agree! That is more than enough but you'd never know it,he never mentions it and we all know it's not a topic he allows!!! He'd rather talk about his studies or what you are up to.



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julielf
February 2008 | julielf
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What an amazing person he is. My prayers are with you!



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      Marglr
February 2008 | Marglr
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He is very strong willed! But I like that about him! I hope he is behaving at his home!!



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KathrynR1402
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2008 | KathrynR1402
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Oh Marg, I only just saw about Jake, no wonder you're not sleeping! Im glad HE thinks he's well enough to go home. I hope he's right. Oh well, that fighting spirit is what's kept him alive thru that horrific op & all the other treatment, I dont suppose he's going to stop fighting now just coz it would be easier for those around him to know he's taking it easy in hospital! Are you and DH able to go visit soon? You & Jake are in my prayers Marg.



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      Marglr
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2008 | Marglr
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Yes...LOL ...I would love for him to be in the hospital!!!  But I think he knows what to do. Cooking up a batch of everything to get to him so there's got to be a break in the storms here!



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           KathrynR1402
February 2008 | KathrynR1402
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oh, are the ice storms keeping you away from him? That must be even harder. You need some nice mild British weather! We have daffodils out here - something to gladden your heart they are (but far too early)! But also the sturdy determined snowdrop - my birthday flower. They get battered about in February's weather, but in such an empty time of year they are so beautiful even when mud-splattered and tattered. You can keep all the showy flowers of summer, flowering their hearts out in the glut, I'll keep my lonesome snowdrops with their little green hearts worn for all to see in the depths of winter. Thought you, my gardening friend, might enjoy that ramble!



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                Marglr
February 2008 | Marglr
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Hi Kathryn!! I made a big pot of homemade beef soup and a whole bunch of perogies ,which Jacob loves and we have had an ice storm all day today!! Crazy weather. What a wonderful thought,daffodils and snowdrops...I love snowdrops they are so beautiful!! We have feet of svow now covered by ice! I so wanted to go see him today but the roads have been accidents all over. Oh well,least I chatted on the phone and he says the temp. is down...but he hasn't taken it..just figures it's down. The swelling in his leg has not come down. Thanks for the thoughts of flowers!



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mum2four
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2008 | mum2four
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Hi Marg ,glad Jake is home and hope his recovery from now on in is quick .Good luck with recovery .

                                                              Cham



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      Marglr
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2008 | Marglr
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Thanks for the vibes Cham ,how is everything your way?



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cazza
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2008 | cazza
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I cant get over how Quick he recovered and was allowed home. You have one strong boy there, and he is the greatest, Nothing seems to be able to hold him down, which is great..

You make sure you are taken care of yourself as well, and he is one lucky Man to have such a caring and loving Mum ....

Thinking of you all..

xxxx  cazza



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      Marglr
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2008 | Marglr
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He wasn't recovered at all after the surgery and this time his temp. hasn't even broken yet!!! Darn stuborn kid is really worrying me Cazza,but he seems to know what he needs to keep going so all I can do is hope. It sure is wonderful to have amazing people sending vibes to help! Thanks!



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WinnierooPooh
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2008 | WinnierooPooh
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Wow, well your lovely young man certainly is a treasure. Those antibiotics are cruel, but hopefully to be kind. You are all in our thoughts and we are willing him on in his recovery, and sending comforting vibes to you all. Take care of you.

Luv,Winnie.xxxx



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      Marglr
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2008 | Marglr
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Thanks Winnie,vibes are wonderful things and I thank you for yours!



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fairymama25
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2008 | fairymama25
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Gosh your son sounds like such a strong and amazing person, I will keep him in my prayers tonight. I hope the infection passes, its amazing her got out of hospital so quickly. Love Em x



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      Marglr
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2008 | Marglr
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He does get kinda set in what he's going to do!!! Back when he had the surgery and he was coming home I thought I'd have a heart attack!!! I was beyond fit to be tied!!! Thank you for your vibes too Em!



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nell18-3
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2008 | nell18-3
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Wonder who Jake get his amazing strong spirit from ???????

Glad he is doing ok, Take care of yourself too Marg and thats an order !!!!

xxx

 



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      Marglr
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2008 | Marglr
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I wish I could take credit!! But don't think I can,I do admire him!!! Hey are you packed???  Thanks for your vibes too Helen.



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BrightonBelle
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2008 | BrightonBelle
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Wow what a fighter and I'm sure that you and your support has helped him along the way. I am a strong believer in fate and what will be will be, I'm sure his early release from the hospital is so he can be around the people that love and treasure him and that will give him the strenght to recover from this awful illness, you too should take some credit for his will to live and his strong life force.

I hope his recovery goes well and that he goes from strength to strength.

Clare xxx



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      Marglr
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2008 | Marglr
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Thank you Clare but I wish I was with him. He is about two hours away and he probably is happier  out of the hospital....just I'd worry less if he was still in there!LOL!!!  I remember when they would do what they were told!!! Oh they do grow up soooo fast!!!



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Kellzacar
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2008 | Kellzacar
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Hi Marg,

I am so shocked by what I have read, I can't believe that they have let Jacob out so soon after his Operation . . . OMG- I am totally speechless! ! !

You and your family are in my thoughts and my prayers . . .

And NOW I am sending you this ANGEL to watch over your family and to help give you strength

LOVE the KELLY FAMILY XOXOXO



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      Marglr
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2008 | Marglr
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The operation was a while back and they did let him come home the day he got out of intensive care....but nothing was stopping him!  This time I wish he would stay in but that's not under my control...darn!!! I just hope he has the full good of the stronger  antibiotics. Thanks for your good vibes Kellz!



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janicepovey
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2008 | janicepovey
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Dear Marg, i don't believe thay have allowed Jacob home, he must have made one hell of a deal with the head doctor....i so hope this is for the best. I know he will get the TLC, support and love he needs from your beautiful DIL and the rest of his family, especially his loving Mum.

I remember the story you told us back  away about  Jacob and the 3 year battle of heartache, pain, disappointment, anger and determination......it brought tears to my eyes when i read it before, as this has done now. I'm sure his recovery back then had alot to do with his loving family and this so very special bond you have.... and i'm sure his recovery now, will come from his will to fight & survive & from the support and love from his family.

And for a added good measure, prayers and vibes of healing, positive thoughts & strength...coming to him from all around the globe.

My dear friend, you have not had much sleep again, can understand why, but please look after yourself as i don't want to see you get run down and  get sick also. It is morning your way and it has just turned 12.21am this way and i should be in bed but sleep avoids me it seems. Please take care.

Love you Janice



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      Marglr
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2008 | Marglr
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Hey!! We both need sleep!  Do you think when the count down becomes zero and you're really here we will both just fall asleep???LOL!!! I wonder!! Wouldn't that be a hoot on the two night owls! Heee,heee!!!

I really do thank everyone for all those wonderful vibes! It has helped soooooo much!



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whome
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2008 | whome
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your so brave,, and a wonderfull mother,, hope jacobs feeling better soon xxxxlove shar



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      Marglr
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2008 | Marglr
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Haaa,haaa,no not brave at all!  But I think I have a clue why I'm going grey!!!