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Geeesss

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Well just when you think ...well what does it matter what you think or don't ... life does what you least expect. After this week of it being so very hard for the new parents in our family,dear DIL's Mother passed away yesterday morning. Daughter in Law is devastated of course but she is so upset because her Mother didn't see the Baby. Why does life bring regret when you don't deserve it???  Now this poor girl has to deal with a funeral and the feelings that she didn't do right by her Mother.

Her Mother was here for the Baby shower,I could tell it took all her strength. She was older than I am by 20 years and had many health issues. She said nothing but gave frail energies. I got the very,very strong feeling that she knew this was coming.  It was important to her to talk to me.  I felt she was passing on knowledge of DIL as a newborn for a reason and I made a promise to oversee the Baby.  I said well yes,we would both do that of course.  She became aggitated and it settled her to know I would be there for the new parents and Baby.  Now I know my reading of the situation was correct. She was passing her duties to me and I will do my best to honour that for her. She was a small tiny woman but had an inner power. She knew she was near the end and it seemed O.K. with her. I acknowledge the passing of DIL's Mother but she will not be mourned as she was at peace,I will mourn for DIL who will carry this until time allows it's passage.

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MrsSanders
March 28th | MrsSanders
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Oh Marg a break is needed for your prescious family. Wise Lady talks to Wise Lady, a great comfort to know that you would be there for her Daughter, quietly watching and ready to step in when needed. I feel for your DIL, as I lost my Mother very soon after Ruth was born, it was devisatating and there was no Marg around to help if things got wobbely. Poor girl, I feel for her and your clan at this sad time. Big hugs to you as you fight off lifes heartaches.

Luv,Winnie.xxxx



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      Marglr
March 29th | Marglr
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Ahhh thanks for the thoughts gentle Winnie. Too bad life's heartaches are there for a reason, to remind us of what we have lost so we cherish that which we have. I lost my Dad and Mom too early too as my very young family could have used a wonderful Grandfather and Grandmother to watch and care. I think we all need our Moms more than we ever realize.



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emmie
March 28th | emmie
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Oh my dear marg,

I am so sorry to hear of your familys pain . Your dil must so heartbroken i cant even imagine what she is going through. Thinking of you alway s

love Emz xxx



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      Marglr
March 29th | Marglr
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I'm always thinking of you little one!! And your beautiful girls! The timing is bad but I know we'll make it through! Thanks for your thoughts emmie!  I'm looking forward to you getting some answers from your new Doc.!



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pavementcracks70
5.00 (Excellent) | March 27th | pavementcracks70
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geez its certainly tough on your end.....

Psalms 27:5 For in the time of trouble he shall hide me in his pavilion: in the secret of his tabernacle shall he hide me; he shall set me up upon a rock.

Your in our thoughts in these trying times...times like these allow silence to interrupt our daily lives and reflect on life itself, may you and your family draw strength from it to ease suffering

love rue



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      Marglr
5.00 (Excellent) | March 27th | Marglr
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Thanks Rue,I am troubled only by uncertainty on how best to do anything to aid,but I know I will be there for her if she needs anything.



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Arna
5.00 (Excellent) | March 27th | Arna
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Oh Marg.  Things really are tough for you and your family right now.  I hope that your DIL is able to cope with all the things that have been happening.  I'm glad that you made the promise to be there for her.  You are a special person and her mother knew this.



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      Marglr
5.00 (Excellent) | March 27th | Marglr
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Hi Arna,I am worried about her,she's a quiet one and doesn't show her emotions so we'll keep a close eye on her.



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cazza
5.00 (Excellent) | March 27th | cazza
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Oh how sad, and hope that your Dil gets through this with the love and support of your son and your Family... My thoughts are with her at this time..

xxx cazza



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      Marglr
5.00 (Excellent) | March 27th | Marglr
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Thanks for your thoughts Cazza,we'll try to do what ever we can to aid,just a hard time for the poor girl.



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cassaustin
5.00 (Excellent) | March 26th | cassaustin
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Oh Marg

This is such sad sad news.My heart goes out to your DIL. She must be beside herself with grief.

Cass xx



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      Marglr
5.00 (Excellent) | March 26th | Marglr
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I just hope she is O.K.,I can't imagine how the poor girl is doing.



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mum2four
5.00 (Excellent) | March 26th | mum2four
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Oh Marg that is such terrible news,your poor DIL, how one new life begins a nother is taken.Such a tragedy.Something I really struggled with when I had my depression how life/god can be so cruel ,we are put here on this earth to make a life and family but in an instance it can be taken away.She will be Sean's special angel watching over him and your DIL.Sending all my thoughts and Prayers.

                                                               Cham



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      Marglr
5.00 (Excellent) | March 26th | Marglr
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Well, then Cham, maybe she was released from the pain and decline she was going through.  That was a generous thing really. I don't know but I do know that she was ready and worn from the struggle. I really don't know!  Just worry about DIL as I know how she is.



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janicepovey
5.00 (Excellent) | March 26th | janicepovey
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My heart goes out to your DIL, what emotions and regrets she must be trying to deal with, she will need you more than ever Marg, to help comfort her and maybe let her know what her Mum  conveyed to you at the baby shower, it might just give her some peace of mine.

As you said Marg, her regret of her dear mother not seeing her grandson, must be overwhelming to her at the moment, but i'm sure with time and the love & support from you all, this will lesson with time....i so feel for her, especially with the events of the past couple of weeks, health wise with herself & bub and now the passing of her dear Mum.....i send her all the strength vibes to be able to cope & all the healing vibes to continue for herself & Sean.

I will light a candle for her dear mum, for her journey to be a peaceful one knowing that she passed her duties onto a loving Mum.

Our Sympathy & prayers go to your DIL and the whole  family.



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      Marglr
5.00 (Excellent) | March 26th | Marglr
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Thanks for your thoughts Janice,very hard to believe ,this timing is not good for DIL at all. At least I know my son's compassion for her is very deep so he will take the best care of her. I will do whatever I can.



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KathrynR1402
5.00 (Excellent) | March 26th | KathrynR1402
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Oh that's so sad. Well, hopefully she gained comfort from knowing she was passing the responsibility into your capable hands, and from knowing Sean had been born before she went (do you think she was hanging on until that?). Hopefully your DIL can gain comfort from those too. I guess even if she'd invited her mum to come after Sean was born (and that would have been difficult as you only just made it) her mum would've been too frail to travel. Impossible situation for your DIL.



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      Marglr
5.00 (Excellent) | March 26th | Marglr
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I was watching the timing too! The next morning after Sean came home! She wanted to leave knowing he was safe. Poor DIL,I feel so for her,very hard situation.



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Ngairi
5.00 (Excellent) | March 26th | Ngairi
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Murphy strikes again. Marg, you will give your daughter in law the support that she needs at this time. You are such a strong and able woman, who has a deep well of love for those around you. Take care, best wishes to you and your family and esp your DIL.



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      Marglr
5.00 (Excellent) | March 26th | Marglr
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Thanks for the vote for my ablities,I hope to heavens I can manage to live up to a fraction of it,I am very unsure as she is so fragile right now. But I will be there for her.



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nell18-3
5.00 (Excellent) | March 26th | nell18-3
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Oh Marg

I don't know what to say, what a terrible thing for your poor DIL to be going through, a new Mum herself is when she needs her Mum the most, she is very lucky to have such a wonderful MIL but she must be in such pain right now

Sending all my love to you and your whole family

xxx

 



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      Marglr
5.00 (Excellent) | March 26th | Marglr
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I just can't believe it. I can't believe she has to handle this too. Very sad!



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Kellzacar
5.00 (Excellent) | March 26th | Kellzacar
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Hi Marg,

That is so very very sad and I really feel for your DIL . . .  you DIL has been through so much since the birth of her little one and then having to face the passing of her mum after everything else seems cruel . .  Your DIL is very lucky to have such a very supportive MIL and I know she will draw from your strength . . .

My heart goes out to you and your extended family . .

God looked around his garden and found a special empty place.

Then he looked down upon this earth and saw your DIL's mums tired face

He put his arms around her and lifted her to rest

God's garden is really beautiful as it does really only take the best . ..



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      Marglr
5.00 (Excellent) | March 26th | Marglr
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Thanks and if that is your poem it is so beautiful!! She has a lot to handle and she is not at her best  or strongest right now. I hope she will turn to us.



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cathbusymum
5.00 (Excellent) | March 26th | cathbusymum
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Dear Marg, I don't know what to say really....my heart goes out to you and your family. Who can predict God's timimg? I'm sure your DIL's mum would be looking on over Sean. I only hope that looking after the baby will help her get through this time. Your support will be needed.

Love and prayers, Cath



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      Marglr
5.00 (Excellent) | March 26th | Marglr
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Thanks Cath, I don't know how or what but I will be there for her. Thanks for the thoughts!



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