You're right I try too hard to protect him from pain, but it's impossible. 

wanting to protect our kid's from pain is natural, I can't stand to see my boys in any kind of pain and I still find it very hard to let my son fight his own battles and not step in to sort it all out......I think it will alway be this hard, we just learn to let go bit by bit......

Because I had such a horrible time at school I haven't been able to let go of that memory so for me when Alex started school I went into overprotective drive, because all the horrible memories came flooding back.  At his first school he had really good friends and when he had problems the school just made him out to be a liar. I had to be overprotective then cause he had no one looking out for him and I had so many arguments with that school and got nowhere.  In the end I moved him to a new school and they were more helpful there but sorting out the silly arguments kids have.  He wasn't the most popular boy but he had a few friends who were precious to him the only problem was that when they had disagreements and then complained to their mums the mothers who were supposed to good friends also just got defensive and made matters worse.  It's a shame that as parents we can't work together to set a good example for our kids.

I think you are just being a caring Mum!!!
We all hurt when our child hurts.
Trouble is with children they argue one minute and are best friends the next, sometimes its easier to stay out of it simply because it ends up with the kids playing again and the adults not talking !!!!!!
Been there on occasion LOL
Thats rough though seeing your child being excluded
xxx

Hi you wouldn't believe how early this starts, I am dreading Daniel starting school this September and him coming home wondering why he hasn't been invited to someone's party.  How do you explain that to a 4 year old?  I went through all this crap with Alex (my eldest) and you would think I'd learn from my mistakes but I'm still making them I'm afraid. 

You're right I should really let him sort it out, but I kind of feel it was me that caused this all to happen in the first place.  I'm really worried about his social skills, he's no good at dealing with people (bit like his mum)lol.

Unfortunately people are very complicated creatures.  The best thing you can do is teach him that he is a great person with a lot to offer the world.  If he continues to be a good friend to everyone, he will eventually find some special, loyal friends.

Explain to him that sometimes people can't invite everyone to their parties, and that it doesn't mean there is anything wrong with him.  Do something special with him or for him when he misses out so that he isn't at home all sad and alone.  Maybe there are some other kids that weren't invited and they could get together and do something fun?

Good advice Em I think you're right I should wait and see how he gets on today.

just u keep your chin up and ke smiling sweetie ,hope he comes home happy

love emz xx

I had parties cause I enjoyed socialising and for me it was a way of saying thank you to his friends for being his friends.  But I guess I shouldn't have looked at it like that.  You're right definitely not going to expect anything from anyone anymore and not going to have any parties either you don't realise how much other people get hurt but don't say.  And going to make sure that my son doesn't expect too much from his friends because he will always get let down if he does.