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Apr

Compliments???? Not sure I deserve them.

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I decided to cut the grass today as it has been the most beautiful warm spring day yet.  Then I decided to take the boys to a local fun fair for a treat and was I in for a surprise. My youngest didn't want to go on the smaller rides (especially for toddlers) no he wanted to go on the adult rides and my eldest who is 12 did not want to go on any of the rides, what a waste of money, if I had known I wouldn't have bothered taking them.  It must be me I must have the only children in the world who know how to be totally weird. I never got taken out when I was a child my parents always kept me indoors my own children don't know how lucky they are, but that is probably where the problem lies in the fact that they have had too much of a good thing they just don't know how to appreciate it anymore.  What do you think????

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nell18-3
5.00 (Excellent) | April 2008 | nell18-3
Re: Compliments???? Not sure I deserve them.

Course you deserve compliiments Maria !!!!!

I reckon you were probably disappointed today as you imagined that your boys would be really thrilled and turns out they weren't, I've had that happen to me before too and I felt really let down myself !!!!

xxx

 



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      mariamum
5.00 (Excellent) | April 2008 | mariamum
Re: Compliments???? Not sure I deserve them.

Hi Helen

Think I've managed to work out what is wrong with me, now I'm a SAHM I think I look for praise for my good work from my children as there is no one else who can tell me if I'm doing a good job or not.  I'm afraid I'm addicted to praise to make me feel good about myself, I know that probably sounds silly but when I was younger I got it from school and doing well in exams and then when I went to work (depending on the manager) I would get praise from working harder than everyone else.  But since I've become a mum verbal praise is not something you get and yet I still try my hardest to achieve it and I reckon I still get disappointed when I don't get it. Stupid really just need to change my way of thinking not sure how yet, lol.

Thanks, love Maria xxx



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Arna
5.00 (Excellent) | April 2008 | Arna
Re: Compliments???? Not sure I deserve them.

Of course you deserve compliments.  You are a mum doing her best and thought that taking your boys on a fun day out would be fun.  Funny how kids can always throw water on your plans though.  I'd have still made it a fun trip by having a look around, seeing what shows were on offer (our local show as farm animal demonstrations and wildlife seminars too) and encouraging them to be interested.



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      mariamum
5.00 (Excellent) | April 2008 | mariamum
Re: Compliments???? Not sure I deserve them.

Thanks Arna

It was just a fun fair there wasn't much else other than rides, stupid me, I thought kids like going on rides but obviously mine would rather just play computer games. I don't feel like much of a supermum at the moment, can't get anything right, lol.



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           Arna
5.00 (Excellent) | April 2008 | Arna
Re: Compliments???? Not sure I deserve them.

It's the thought that counts, not the outcome.  I'm sure they will get it in time.



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